letting your child cry it out?

Yes. Just let the baby cry out and ignore him for a while. Will be a little bit damaging for both: you to hear that, and baby: to get ignored. But for future: it is very educating and useful. Do it. Ignore the baby for a while. I would. Even I was ignored when I was a baby like this, and the result: more independent personality. So it is not that bad after all, right?

I understand that it can be very hard to do. My son was a great sleeper since birth, then all of a sudden around his second birthday he wouldn't go to bed unless I sat with him. It was difficult because some nights it took him an hour to fall asleep. I talked to his doctor about it and she said simply- 'he's got you wrapped around his little finger.' She advised me to let him cry it out. She said as long as he is safe and has what he needs, he is only crying to get my attention. So I put a gate up in his doorway and told him he had to go to sleep like a big boy. The first night was the hardest. He cried for an hour. And he didn't just cry, he sobbed, he pleaded, he asked for tissues, for drinks. He pulled out all the stops. About every 15 minutes I went in and put him back in his bed and told him I loved him, tucked him in, and left again. I was sobbing the whole time too. I felt like a horrible mother. I felt like I was being selfish to put him through this just to free up some time for me in the evenings. Just when I was about to give up, to go in and pick him up and tell him I'm sorry, I love him, I'll never do such a cruel thing ever again-- I was a few steps from his doorway-- I heard him go and climb into his bed. 5 minutes later he was asleep, but I cried for another hour. The second night he cried for about 20 minutes, and by the end of a week he was going to bed on his own again. Once he was going to sleep on his own again, he started sleeping through the night again, because he was able to soothe himself back to sleep when he woke up. I realized that I wasn't being selfish- a good night's sleep is just as important for him as it is for me. Self-soothing is a necessary life skill, and the earlier it is learned the better. I will tell you the same thing my son's doctor told me. If you don't do this, that doesn't make you a bad mother. That is your choice and you should do what feels right to you. But doing it does not make you a bad mother either. It takes a strong parent to let your child cry it out. Keep in mind that it is the best thing for him. Before you start, make sure you are committed to following through, because it will be a lot harder if you give in once.

This is something that you have to decide for yourself. At nine months your son is old enough to self sooth. It sounds like he is waking up and needing you to sooth him back to sleep. This can become a habit and one that is hard to break. Crying it out does work and isn't a bad idea at his age. However, there is one thing that can't be taken away from you. You are the parent and it is your decision. If it isn't how you want to do things then don't feel pressured into doing them that way!

How old is your son? If he is a baby, I would never let him cry it out. It is emotionally damaging to babies. He is trying to communicate with you; if you ignore him, he will not develop trust. Your instincts are already telling you not to let him cry.

I have a 10-month old son and I would NEVER just let him cry it out. I don't consider myself a pushover, but I think that if my baby is crying, then he must need something. Our babies are about the same age, so maybe they're going through the same thing. He started waking up more at night around 7 months when he first started getting teeth... since then, he has gotten a new tooth every other week... I think this is the reason for him not sleeping well. We decided to move the crib into our room and put it at the foot of our bed... he still sleeps in between us on really bad nights, otherwise, just having him in our room is comforting enough for him to sleep good.

I think I would let my babies to cry it out for a short time but no more than a couple minutes at a time... it goes straight through my head that I cannot stand it and I feel bad for my babies if I just let it cry like that.,..

I would never let my children cry it out..They cry for a reason because they cannot tell us whats wrong..I would make sure I check everything and see what the problem is...

I would suggest that when you go in, don't pick him up, just rub his back and reassure him that he is fine. Leave the room again and then if he cries again, wait about a minute and then go back in and do the same thing. It is hard when they are that age. I think if you keep picking him up, you will never break him of this cycle.

My son is 3 1/2 now and his waking and crying at night has gotten worse with age... When he was an infant, I don't know if I was lucky or what, but he was a pretty good sleeper. Around three months, when he moved from the bassinet in my room to the crib in his nursery, I still responded immediately because he was still feeding... But I was told around 9/10 months, they don't NEED to eat at night... So around 10 months, I did have to 'train' him a bit... by this I mean that being a first time mom, I took advise from the dr to let him cry for a bit before responding. Started with the 3, 5, 8 (and so on) rule, taking a little longer to respond. Before it got to 15 minutes, he was soothing himself back to sleep. IF it kept on to 15 minutes, I went in and checked on him, but I very rarely picked him up. Again, at the advise of my pedi... Honestly, I did continue to offer him the bottle but he very rarely took it, so I knew he wasn't hungry... And obviously the tone of the cry was a huge indicator of how quickly I responded... I think the reason it's gotten worse with age is because he's smarter now and he's in a big bed... He know's I'm right down the hall, he knows he can get out of bed... But he's also behind a closed door, but knows the intercom is on and I can hear him. So he starts with the "Mom, come lay in my bed?" "Want mommy to come see" and the dreaded, "Mom, I need you." It was hard, but if everything you do doesn't soothe him, EXCEPT picking him up, it's time to start letting him cry it out. Because they are learning your responses and they know by now what buttons to push. Even now, if he fusses, I still only open the door and say "What's the matter?" If he's not wet, I kiss him goodnight, tell him to have good dreams and leave within just a few seconds. If he needs a drink, I leave him in bed and bring the drink to him, when he's done, kiss, good dreams, I'm gone again. Someone once told me the trick is to not let them get out of the bed... Don't get me wrong though... if I think he's not feeling well or if I can hear him having a hard time with dreams or whatever, I will go in and lay with him and very occasionally, he does sleep with me. But it's been hard work to get us both to this point and the most important thing to teach him is that you're there for him and that you haven't forgotten him. When he's older, like mine, it's important, IMO, that he know that sleeping with mommy is a special thing. Like when he's sick, having nightmares, or just when we're watching tv together and we both fall asleep.... Good luck