How do you get someone who's stubborn
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
December 21, 2008 12:19pm CST
to celebrate Christmas? My grandmother hasn't celebrated Christmas in the last couple of years, and I think the whole family really wished she would. She's the type of person to make excuses, and even though she can be a bit hard to handle with all the things she tends to say, everyone does love her.
This isn't really an advice type of discussion really as I know talking to her and asking her to have Christmas doesn't help. Even suggesting that someone else cook and clean doesn't help. Would you force Christmas upon a person like this, or would you just go on and celebrate at another person's house? My aunt is having Christmas at her house for the family, and I think for even her husband's family.
2 responses
@unusualsuspect (2601)
• United States
21 Dec 08
It doesn't matter what the rest of the family thinks or wants, if she's not interested, leave her alone about it. Tastes change as you get older. If you treat her like a child who needs to be forced to do things, that won't change how she feels about it. For many people, xmas just isn't that important. For all you know, she never cared for it and just went along for the family's sake, and is tired of doing that. If it doesn't make her unhappy not to celebrate xmas, don't project your own feelings about it onto her. In other words, lay off.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Wow to be honest I'm going to say that sounded mean. I guess that's what you get for posting a discussion like this. I'm sure you think I'm some sort of mean little grinch who instead of stealing Christmas wants to force it. I appreciate the response none the less, and I'm not trying to sound mean.
@timmons (120)
• United States
21 Dec 08
WHy not celebrate at someone elses house and invite her to come along. Eliminate all of the work she would have to do if she were to host it herself. My grandmother is the exact same way and come to find out she is just embarrassed that she doesnt have the money to buy gifts for everyone. Just let her know that it's about family and nothing is expected of her other than the pleasure of her company.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
21 Dec 08
She doesn't even want to have Christmas with my aunt and rest of the family. I'm not really sure why she doesn't, but I guess that only she knows. I appreciate the response though.
