In loving memory of Hannibal
By Loverbear
@Loverbear (4918)
United States
December 21, 2008 1:59pm CST
This is the first anniversary of my having to put Hannibal to sleep. I can't say it was something as gentle as putting him to sleep, in my heart it was murder. Let me explain:My daughter, son in law, his uncle and my grand daughters moved in with me a year ago Memorial day. It was a big surprise that they were going to live with me, as my daughter asked if they could come for a few days to visit. Then I was informed that they would be with me until they got their bills caught up, which would be never. I choked, but decided that the grand daughters shouldn't be on the street, homeless; and since I own my home (such as it is) I would let them stay. There was one big rule and that was "You can't play with the dogs without asking first". Simple rule, right? I found out that it was wrong.
December 21st my oldest grand daughter came in crying that Hannibal bit her. She had brought him in without asking permission and had been playing with him and he bit her out of the blue. My daughter went ballistic! She demanded that I put him down immediately. No trial, no quarantine no nothing. I tired to get her to let me keep him through the holidays, but there was no way...if I had I might have been able to find out the truth. Hannibal was a sweet tempered dog and had never offered to bite anyone. He loved kids and other animals and wouldn't harm them. He would get upset if you teased him but he NEVER in the seven years I owned him offered to bite anyone. He had been an Easter gift to my Mom. She was sooo thrilled when I put him on her bed. He bounded up to her and snuggled up to her neck and kissed the daylights out of her. For the first time in months she laughed!! It was the best gift she could have given me. A month later she was air lifted to the hospital, and that July she died in my arms. Before she died I promised to take care of her dogs (at that time there was also two other Rottweilers, Rocky and Kitty. They both subsequently joined my Mom) until it was the end of their natural lives.
I ended up giving in to the demands of my daughter. I got to take Hannibal into Animal Control alone, I got to hand him over to have him murdered-ALONE. I had no options, either destroy the dogs or my daughter would haul the family out on the street. I couldn't bear to think of the two little girls out on the street!
We did a lot of brain storming about Hannibal. None of the neighbors, friends or animal specialists believe that it was an unprovoked bite. My oldest grand daughter did something to provoke the dog and he bit her in the hand-once!!! The grand daughter will never tell the truth about what happened. It wasn't realized that she disobeyed the rules, it was just total hysterics and demands on my spoiled daughter's part, demanding and ordering that the dog be murdered without a trial. The kicker to the story is that her mother in law has one of those little dogs, I think it's a Maltese...anyhow it has bitten everyone, including me. It has bitten the grand daughters, neighbors, my daughter, son in law, even it's owner!! Yet my daughter doesn't have the balls to order her mother in law to destroy the dog. That dog is a true menace!
Any way, here is to you Hannibal. You didn't deserve what happened!!! It wasn't your fault and I carry that guilt with me now and forever!!! I miss your muddy face, your runs beside the golf cart, your bark (you never did learn how to howl!) and everything else. You won't be forgotten. I also apologize for what happened.
2 people like this
6 responses
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Thank you so much for your kind words. It was a very hard day for me, as I don't believe that animals are something that you just toss out on a whim. I can only take solace in the fact that he is now with my Mom and her other dogs in heaven.
Thank you too for all the love and hugs. It helps ease the pain of the loss...even though it's been a year it seems like yesterday.
1 person likes this

@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
21 Dec 08
{{LoverBear}} I remember reading your story when I first joined mylot and it saddens me to read this tragic story again; I would never have put down this beautiful dog
I would have maybe knocked some sense into your daughter for behaving so mean to you and You know that your Grand daughter in fact must have done something to aggravate poor Hannibal and in his defense he did only what comes natural to him, he bit her
and she probably deserved it, but he certainly did not deserve to be put down;
I hope some day your Daughter and Grand Daughter apologize to you, but I doubt
that happens, they sound like too much like some of my own family members;
I truly am sorry but rest assured Hannibal will greet you with Joy, love, and happiness some day again up in heaven ok? Hannibal will not judge you ;
I do wish he'd come back and maybe "haunt" your Daughter and Grand daughter LOL!
But that's just me, I'm having a bad day and I hate it when animals get the short end of the stick because of "us humans" so to speak;
don't let grief and guilt eat you up dear lady, but I think I would direct some of that anger towards your family and I know that's not the "right" thing to do either but its my METHOD...LOL!
I have a dark side of wanting to "get even" in a lot of things in my life maybe
that's why I keep having such crappy luck...UGH!
Hannibal loves you no matter what ok? Trust that if nothing else!
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Oh what a sad, sad story..I am sorry this happened, I can't imagine having to do something like this. I pray you don't continue to hold this guilt, it wasn't your fault you know, you had no choice.. @j47lee (740)
• Canada
21 Dec 08
hmmm... maybe ur daughter and her family has to learn to stand on their own feet... and its been more than a year that they've been staying at ur house with no rent or did they pay the house bills at least.. hmm... maybe its time u stop thinking abt ur daughter and think abt urself.... give them 4 months to move out.. she's married for godsake.... if 3 persons cannot earn enough to pay their own house bills then y should u???? they're just taking advantage of u.. and ur daughter is very manipulative...she knows ur weak pt.. ur grand daughters... hmm... and they are guest in ur house.. they shouldnt be allowed to force u to do something u dont want to.... before putting hannibal to sleep u should have told ur daughter that if u dont like living here.. u guys can move out.. simple.... im sure she can find some place to stay.... hopefully they all have jobs.... so stand up for urself... 
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
21 Dec 08
They got evicted the first part of March this year. I went from being a patsy to being a horrible mother that she never wants to talk to again. As long as I was available for housing, food and money I was great. When the plug got pulled they started treating me like crap. What was funny is they asked how much the homes in my area were selling for, and when I told them dollar signs showed up over their heads. Then my daughter stated that since they wouldn't be allowed to be "members" of my home owner's association they would "HAVE" to sell the place. I didn't get the feeling that there was any caring for me, it was for what they could get.
It might be considered heartless, but when I was told that I wasn't to contact her and I wouldn't be allowed "grand parent rights" it was a relief! My daughter uses the grand daughters as a weapon...if the grand parents don't do what they are supposed to do, then they won't get to see the girls again. It was her way of stating "shape up and do what I want you to do or else!!!". I don't think she is expecting my reaction; and it will be interesting to see what happens when she discovers that there is no Christmas for the girls. Not because I don't want to do Christmas for them, it's because if I am no longer considered the girls grand mother, then I shouldn't be doing the Grand Ma thing. My daughter needs to explain the "WHY" to the girls.
As for them holding down jobs, that's a joke. While they were under my roof she had three different jobs. She was fired from two of them. They moved about one hundred fifty miles away from me. They had a motor home at a friends place and they are now living in it. I wish them well.
@FabHairWeave (197)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I'm so sorry for the loss. I hope for the best for you.






