The Neglected Parent
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 21, 2008 7:41pm CST
There have been many discussions on parents especially on mothers. Even in the real world Mother's Day is celebrated on a grander scale compared to Father's Day. This can be considered an anomaly or unfair because both parents are usually involved in procreation and the raising of children.
The most common argument I heard so far is that fathers do not carry a child in the womb, so they do not feel the pressure and pain. Has anyone asked the father of the unborn n how he feels? Or cannot anyone see the worry and anxiety in his eyes? Or the apprehension on what could happen to the baby and or mother during childbirth? It takes a strong person to control these feelings and appears calm on the surface.
As to raising up kids it is said that fathers spend little, if any, time in nurturing and teaching their children. If that is so why do fathers get the blame when the children do something wrong?
Most men do care about their respective family. They try their best to earn well enough so that the family can live in comfort, so that their children have the facilities to learn. After what they have done how many of them really get appreciated?
Do you have similar thoughts or do you think the views presented are wrong?
Thank you for reading my ramblings.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy2 responses
@shine17 (128)
• China
22 Dec 08
For a long time women have been discriminated against.Mother's Day is celebrated on a grander scale, is make the society more fair. As a father,I understand your feeling. As a man,we should be me more gracious.because the children's mother is your wife.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 08
Thank you for your response.
I would like to stress that I am not concerned about celebrations like Father's Day and birthdays. I started this discussion because I feel fathers should not be neglected. Many of my friends feel this way. They did not want to voice out for fear of other people's negative reaction.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy
@FabHairWeave (197)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Your views are justified. However, I think one reason Mother's Day is celebrated with more enthusiasm is because a mother wants that appreciation more. Generally fathers aren't ones for the huge fuss. A little bit of appreciation is enough.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 08
Thank you for your response.
As a father I am not to bothered by the lack of enthusiasm on Father's Day. Nevertheless I have found out that not many fathers received any appreciation. I have met fathers who feel they are sidelined when it comes to entertainment. They feel neglected. It does not surprise me that many fathers seek outside entertainment. I can emphatise with them because my spouse has not even said thank you.
all the best,
rosdimy
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