Time between children

Having them too close together can be hard for the older child once the baby is born and gets all the attention. My first 2 were 3 yrs apart and I loved that age span. The 3 yr old would be my helper with his little brother and they grew up being very close. Then I had my next one 2 yrs after that. This was a little harder only having 2 yrs inbetween, but again, they are very close. Then I had my next child 6 yrs later. This is way too much of a span. The other children are teenagers and she is still in Elementary School. She has no siblings to play with which makes me feel she is loosing out on something special.

Wow, well congratulations first of all! I think in an ideal world, a gap of 2-3 years is perfect but of course, every situation is different and so I suppose there is no ideal 'time'! I hope you and your family have a wonderful christmas and a joyful new year!

I purposely had my children close together so that they would have similar interests and so that I could get the diapers/formula business out of the way all at once! My oldest two are 15 months apart and then after remarrying years later, I had two more and they are also 15 months apart. My strategy worked great with the last two, but those first two...wow! They never had similar interest, they fought like cats and dogs....the list goes on. Interestingly, the first two were boys and the second two a boy and a girl. The younger two have always been close, have similar interests and are very, very close now despite being at different colleges. It was great to go on a vacation and know that the 'entertainment' or whatever would be suitable for both children, rather than finding something applicable for a very young one and an older one. If I had it to do over again, I would do it the same way!

i think it is good when they are close together, although it is more trying and exhausting to the mom and from what i understand, when they are that close in age, they fight a lot. our daughters are almost 4 years apart and fight very little, but now the older one ignores her sister (they are 15 and 11) but when they were younger, they were very good at playing together. but i guess with every age difference, there is pros and cons.

I think there are both positive and negative effects from having children that close together. I must start by saying that I have no children of my own, but I have observed other people's children. One positive outcome is that the children can become best of friends. They are very close in age and will be able to experience a lot of life changes together. I think they can form a close relationship that can last through their adult lives. I also think this may be difficult, becuase you have to make sure that one child is not taking the attention away from another. This is always something that parents struggle with when they bring a new child home. You must make sure to devote just as much time and attention to your first child as you do with the new baby. As a parent, it might be tough for you. Financially, it might be a bit tough if you are having money troubles. Two babies equals twice the amount of diapers, clothes and all of the other necessaries supplies. This can be quite expensive. I think that there are both pros and cons to having your children this close in age, and I wish you the best of luck on your pregnancy.

its very good news that u r ready for the second one,but are you really ready for the second one?my opinion in this matter that it would be difficulty for the elder daughter.u have to really think and look into this matter siriously so that u might get out of this problem...........better not to have this child now as u have mentioned that u are having some financial problem............