My friends problem

@jessi0887 (2792)
United States
December 23, 2008 10:40am CST
So irritated with my friend. She can't hold on to a job for very long. THere is always something wrong with her. Anyways she has no job right now. She has been out of work for two months. She barely paid the bill last month. Me and her share a contract. Its under her name though. A few months ago i helped her out by loaning her 100 dollars. NOw the bill is about due and she needs 80 dollars. I have been trying to earn money online to help her but there is no way i can get her 80 dollars. To make things worse she knows how much is in my bank. I do have money saved up but its for a private reason that no one not even my fiance knows. I still think i shouldn't be expected to pay her part. I told her if the phone gets shut off oh well. I am tired of being so responsible on my half but her being so neglegent.
5 responses
@lockheart (1405)
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
I think your such a good friend to her because your always there for her shortcomings. But its not good if she starts to depend on you, sometimes you just need to let her down just for her to realize shes doing too much and need to learn to stand up for herself. Its not you who do wrong but her! I usually dont tolerate my friends to depend on me so help them very seldom!
@jessi0887 (2792)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Thanks. I see what you mean. I want to help her again, but i think she is depending on me to help. And if she does than she will never get motivated to get a job. I don't know how she is going to pay for her car.
@lockheart (1405)
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
You can give moral support or any kind of support but the least and last support you can gave to her is financial support. Financial matters are sensitive one and could lead the two of you to conflicts and troubles. Try to talk with her maybe she doesnt notice what she is doing.
@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
28 Dec 08
I think you should let the phone bill go. As it seems she is depending you. After the phone gets shut off. Go get an account under your own name. You tried helping. There is nothing else you can do. I have a in law who is the same way. She doesn't hold a job for very long. Now matter how well paying they are. In law would rather sit and cash their childs SSI check. She even faked being hurt in the hospital for over a week to get someone to pay her renta nd get hers kids something for christmas. The hospital caught on, told her there was nothing wrong with her and to get the heck out and get a real job.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
24 Dec 08
jessi, you have a GOOD heart! Take this situation as a learning experience and think twice before co-signing your hard earned money away again. Keep loving your friend, and learn to say NO.
• United States
23 Dec 08
If it really is her fault that she can't hold on to a job then I don't think you should be the one to have to help her every month. The best thing you can do for her is talk to her about her failings with her past jobs. Help her find something she can keep.
@nchap36 (556)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I know how you feel. My sister has done me the same way. Then me like a dumb dum co-sign on a suv. I will never learn.