A different proposal...?
By triharder
@triharder (244)
Singapore
December 24, 2008 4:25am CST
Hey guys,
I have an interesting question to ask you. Everyone's posting about romantic proposals and all that so I thought I'd share my situation.. :)
I've been with my girlfriend now for 3 years and we've been talking about getting married...we've moved from the states and now because of some visa issues I was not able to return with her to celebrate christmas....sooo, when we were at the airport - which was quite painful btw :( - she said we should have just gotten married at the government office so we would have legally been able to stay together....
I've been thinking about this a lot and the reason why I didn't want to do that is because I don't have ANY money for even the cheapest ring and besides how romantic is it to get married by signing a couple forms? My girlfriend deserves the BEST proposal and wedding but in our situation it would be more "convenient" to jus get hitched legally and then have a wedding later on....what dyou guys think about this?
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4 responses
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
29 Dec 08
Under a lot of circumstances I would say that getting married for convenience isn't a good idea. But the fact that you're so concerned about giving her the best possible proposal and wedding proves that however, wherever and whenever you get married it will be for the right reasons. So I think that if it's going to help you two be together and help you have a better life and a better start then go ahead and have a courthouse wedding to get that piece of paper. After that you can save and plan for the ceremony you want.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Dec 08
hi triharder... maybe a civil wedding may just be fine for the meantime..i understand your status on financial matters...just don't push too hard on this if you think it will be a big disaster ...maybe you two have to wait a little longer to be stable first...
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
29 Dec 08
You've been together for three years now...you both know wether or not you want to spend the rest of your lives together. If you do, than the whens and hows you go about getting married really don't matter.
This coming from a woman who has been engaged for a year now...waiting till we have enough money for our dream wedding. Speaking from experience, don't wait till you have enough money, just go ahead and do it! Then start a little savings account to save up for the big thing, and renew your vows on your fifth or tenth anniversary. It will mean a lot more then, because you will have been able to spend those years together, growing closer and stronger each year.
