Are you friends with people who use and abuse their friends?

United States
December 24, 2008 6:25pm CST
What would a friend do if they saw their best friend abusing another person or they were getting abused by a so-called friend? For me the answer is simple when I see people applying such pressure to control another person's behavior I tend to back away and keep a distance from the person on such a power trip. Power and Control they are the tools of slave masters. Here is an example of what one person has written in order to establish this power for control over the emotions of others. [we need to un-friend each other if that's possible. i'm offended and not willing to debate this.] I parsed the quote just a little to make the statement a little less offensive but none the less the issue of power and control is clear and what really comes to mind is that many people fall slave to this type of aggressive behavior. As you look around at how people relate to each other I hope that your eyes are open and you learn to identify behavior that is abusive or aggressive. Once you know what you are looking at we can work together to find a solution to what the root of the problem is. Anger and aggression have to be brought under control through education and identification. We are all in this together and there is much work to be done, I wish I was on the receiving end of fortune where I could promote the advancement of education on the identification and cure for abuse in our global society. I wish all of my friends a very Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday Season. May we all encourage each other for Peace and Blessings, Sincerely, Gary
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• China
25 Dec 08
I dont have such if i have such friends i will surely keep away from them.
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• United States
26 Dec 08
Good Idea...
@nannacroc (4049)
25 Dec 08
This friend is not worth having. Recently I have had a boss who used to be a friend and her favourite words were, 'it's non-negotiable'. It upset everyone at work and made for quite a bad atmosphere. Being me I ended up saying 'no' to any extras she wanted doing and telling her that my hours and duties were 'non-negotiable. It didn't go down too well as you can imagine but she did begin asking for opinions. I have no time for people who wish to control others, debate is always an option as is agreeing to differ on some subjects. Aggression is no cure for anything it just causes more aggression. I'm with you on making everyone realise they are all one race and the best cure for the ills of the world is to help each other where we can. Take care. Merry Christmas and a Happy and peaceful New Year to you.
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• United States
26 Dec 08
Thank You I read this earlier and was thinking of using that non-negotiable phrase in a different discussion. Violating or Abusing people is non-negotiable I think that is something that we can all agree on and if you don't agree we can show them why they should agree, I'll make them read my story. If the reading doesn't get them maybe the story will? Heeeheeeheeee... Reading is good for the soul... Peace be with you, Blessings, Sincerely, Gary
25 Dec 08
Merry Christmas GWB
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• United States
25 Dec 08
Hey Agent, My friend, Merry Christmas to you also, thanks for stopping in and wishing me a Merry Christmas... Peace and Blessings, Sincerely, Gary
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
25 Dec 08
See, its never a good thing to be a friend of those who used to abuse your friends, well, if it is for joke and something like that, then up to a certain limit then it might be ok. But if it is intentional then I would also like to keep distance from that friend.
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• United States
25 Dec 08
Yep, that line keep your friends close and your enemies even closer comes to mind though... Actually I agree people that are intentionally abusive we need to keep our distance from. The whole problem gets a little murky when family is involved and when one spouse is using the children as a weapon against the other spouse. That is never a good situation. But in my example the person is certainly trying to wield power and control over the emotions of his or her friends. That is a classic power play... I would think twice about making such a person a friend of mine. Merry Christmas, Thank you for your reply...
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
26 Dec 08
Hey Gary...This looks familiar! LOL! The way I look at it is, if you don't want to get bit by the lion...Don't stick your fingers in his cage! We all have choices. Funny thing to this one was, they kept coming back and debating though! LOL! Go figure! Rhonda
• United States
26 Dec 08
Grrrrowlll!!! Yum, fingers and toes, actually being a buffalo, I like to chomp! Chomp on things right to the roots. I don't just beat the bush, I pull it up roots and all and examine the thing from top to bottom. LOL, Yep, I know what you mean... :) Hey, have a great weekend and enjoy the next event, are you ready? It is all part of the reason for the season as we send out the old and bring in the new. And what a season this is... Peace and Blessings, Sincerely, Gary
• United States
29 Dec 08
Hey Gary...Yup, I'm ready for the New Year! I say, bring it on! I feel personally for me it is going to be a great year! I pray it will be an awesome New Year for you also! Rhonda
@KrauseHome (36748)
• United States
26 Dec 08
I work with some people who are like this, or have Friends they allow around them that are like that, and unfortunately I do not see any of them really choosing to want to distant themselves from these type of people either. And then all I hear is them complaining about those people as well. Personally that keeps me from wanting to get too close to them as well as I do not want to end up having to get hurt, or hurt someones feelings for this as well. I am one who would rather not deal with these type of people on a Friend basis but at the same time, will be nice to them from a distance usually as well.
• United States
26 Dec 08
Yep keeping people at arms length until you know their hearts that is a good rule, I allowed too many people in too close to my inner circle to find out that they were going to try and control me by means of emotional abuse, sometimes it turns into physical abuse at any rate abuse is abuse and it must be eliminated to the best of our abilities. Stress is a killer and we don't need any more of that type of stress. Thank You for sharing and for your support on the topic.