why do people judge eachother

India
December 25, 2008 1:02pm CST
i've seen people judging someone they don't know or have seen for the first time. For instance i was travelling with my neighbour on long train journey and in our compartent there was a girl. She had worn very cute short blouse, and pierced her navel. her legs were nice too and had worn tight fitting jeans. Well more than this visual thing we knew nothing about her. But my neighbour found enough stuff to converse about for the next three hours of journey. Plain speculation and judgment. I was awed by her (capability to speak so much on someone she does not know), and then i got scared, and was wondering how long she could speak about me, with another person, whne i am not present. Is this a disease, or some people are just.....LIKE THAT!!!
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14 responses
• United States
25 Dec 08
I think it's just how we understand the world around us. We all make judgements, whether on purpose or not. It's just some people won't change them or take longer to change them once they get to know the person. I might have an idea of someone I see but it isn't a concious thing. I always give people an opportunity to show me who they really are though! It's good that you are aware of this, and don't worry not all people will talk about people behind their back or make judgements that they won't change!
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@dodo19 (42596)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Dec 08
It's sad when I see people, who judge other people like that, people they don't know. I must admit that I used to that, a bit. But I kept stopping myself before it got to far. Though I kept them mostly to myself. But my job last summer helped me cure that. I was working at a shelter for women, victims of abuse. The shelter hires two students to work there during the summer and I was one of them. And so, obviously working with these victims, it's not a good idea to judge them or anything like that. But there are going to be people out there who are going to judge. If you look at history, we've done for centuries. And it's sad to say that some are still going to do it.
@winterose (39893)
• Canada
26 Dec 08
why didn't you ask her why she was talking so much about somebody she doesn't know, you should have asked her what about people that don't know her and talk about her, yes it is so wrong to do that and people do that all the time.
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• India
26 Dec 08
yes you are right. But somehow i could not bring myself to do it. may be i was scared of her nad what she might think and say about me, if i defended a stranger. but come to think of it.....I WISH I HAD!
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Some people are just like that, too many people are like that. Like the saying goes that I have always heard, "You can't judge a book by it's cover". Yes, it does make you wonder when someone we know talks about others like that what they say about us to other people.
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@srik11 (482)
• India
26 Dec 08
i think not some but most of the people like to judge any person they meet..... we start comparing everyone with ourselves....... anyone who is a touch better or worse than us,we quickly notice it... thats our nature i reckon... have a nice day..
• United States
25 Dec 08
Well I think that it's natural for people to have an initial reaction/judgment about someone during the first meeting because we all have preconceived notions about certain types of people (even if they aren't accurate). We all have stereotypes that we've been exposed to. Of course we shouldn't hold that snap judgment forever. We have to stop, check ourselves, and realize that just because a person looks as if they fit a certain stereotype that does not mean that they really do fit into that stereotype. I think that you're friend went overboard talking about a stranger that she knew from nowhere for three hours. That's just too much. I would have wondered the same thing, whether she had so much to say about me behind my back but if she was really your friend then she wouldn't talk about you behind your back like that. Maybe your friend is just over-judgmental.
• India
25 Dec 08
whatever you are and however you are people judge people. That is most common. Some judge only to an extent some go on for hours. what is more sad is that many times people judge others very badly and it is more surprising to judge strangers even for hours together. Judging each and every thing is in the very blood of human beings, take ourselves for example dont we judge? we do judge each and every thing, we atleast say whether that is good or bad. But everyone must stop being bad when they judge people or anything is what i feel.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
25 Dec 08
Why would you be scared. If I had a friend who is judgemental about someone in my presence I will be asking he/she if this is the way he/she is about me. It is best to know what someone think about you than being in the dark. A person will judgment another because of the outside appearance. Remember a person should always make sure that the outside appearance is up to scratch. Yes you will find that some person outside appearance is raunchy but their attitude is different. Although the bible says we should leave all judgment to God humans still does this.
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• United States
25 Dec 08
Some are just like that! Which is so sad--------they miss knowing so many interesting people because they don't look past that first impression of clothes or body-size, or even race. What really bothers me is those who assume that anyone who doesn't share their taste in music, clothes, or art has 'bad taste'. Who is to judge what is good or bad in those areas??? Who are these people who decide what you should wear, how you should do your hair. I don't much care for things that I feel are done just for shock value or attention getting. Meanwhile I wear what I like, in the colors I want with the hem hitting at a length that I like. Blessings all.
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• Philippines
25 Dec 08
yes, some people are just like that, very judgmental, sweetnsalty. i can see that you want to know why there are some persons who are like that. you see, it is so very easy to see the things that others do wrong but, it is so difficult to see as to what is wrong with one's ownself. it is therefore so very easy to discuss about what's wrong with another fellow. just do not touch about what's wrong with the person concerned, it's going to be a war of words that will lead to a quarrel. just stay away from this kind of people. these are the types who will easily get into fights. and, these kind will always drag others into their pits of fall whenever the get to be cornered for being so intrusive of other's lives.
@balasri (26546)
• India
26 Dec 08
It sure is a decease.This kind of judgment comes from a person who is very small minded and so jealous of everything.An experienced wise and calm person will never comment on others unnecessarily.It is one of the sickening thing I absolutely hate.Why can't these mind their own darn business which may have so many holes unattended.
• United States
26 Dec 08
People judge others in order to feel superior and better about themselves. Especially when they're judging people they don't even know. There are so many insecure, messed up people in the world, who are jealous of those who appear to have what they don't have. The easiest thing to them is to see what they can find wrong with these people and tear them down so that they don't feel so bad about themselves. It's a sickness, really, and many in our society have it. Teaching your children not to do that and to accept people as they are is a good way to possibly start changing this.
• India
26 Dec 08
I dunno why people judge each other. :) But they seem to do it all the time don't they? Many times, I have caught myself doing it too, and I wondered why I was doing it. I guess we judge others and talk about them just to make our own insipid lives interesting. :) Cheers and happy Mylotting
@fangxum (43)
• China
26 Dec 08
when u have the first impression of somebody no matter who he is,you will get the first information of the people in your mind.While somebody like to judge it and somebody doesn't.However,it is best to be far away from those like judging all the time.
• United States
26 Dec 08
this is a very sad thing. people in society today size others up.i think mostly the reason people do this is because they are missing something in their lives that they never had. possibly they never had the nerve to get a tatoo, but secretly always wanted to. or perhaps they wanted to be a little riske but never had the courage to do it. people are funny creatures.they will blatantly judge someone for what they ware or do in public, then secretly wish they could get away with it too