Do you say thank you even if you do not like the gift?

United States
December 26, 2008 6:53pm CST
Some relatives of our came over today to visit after Christmas and present some gifts to the family. They gave my grandmother a nice lotion/bath set and my grandfather some nice food storage containers and a small food gift set. Now those gifts aren't so terrible however it seems like they gave my mom and I some rather strange gifts. They got her a memory card for her new camera which is a nice gift but they ended up just throwing a bunch of packs of gum into a box with a pair of gloves and a shake flashlight and gave that to her. I was given my gift to unwrap and it was pretty heavy and I had no idea what it could be. I unwrapped it to find 600 sheets of paper. 300 sheets of graphing paper and 300 sheets of lined writing paper. All the paper has colored edges so you 'organize' your notes better. Now, I may be a college student but I have plenty of paper. I don't need 600 sheets of paper and I highly doubt that paper will even get opened any time soon. Regardless of how silly I thought the gift was I still said thank you for it. Do you do that or are you the type of person that doesn't thank a person for a gift that you receive no matter how silly or odd it may be?
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@teshavill (278)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
Hi!Of course I always say thank you whenever somone gives me a gift.It is a matter of being courteous,for all we know that person took her/his time to thinked,looked for it in a store or even made it herself/himself.If in case I do not like the gift,I'll just keep it probably some other time it will be useful for me.
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@fresefan (177)
• United States
27 Dec 08
Yes, I dont want hurt their feelings
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
27 Dec 08
Yes, I say thank you for a gift even if it is something I do not like or something that the giver obviously put very little thought into.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Of course I do. I have had my share of "what am I supposed to do with these" gifts but I always think that they were thoughtful enough to include me in their lists.
• Qatar
27 Dec 08
[i] yes i do all the time. We shud say thank you even we dont like or we dont the gift. It is a rightful act. Happy lotting!
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@UK_Shree (3603)
30 Dec 08
It's always nice to say thank you. Sometimes it can be really hard to choose presents for people and therefore its important to understand that maybe the gift being given was hard to pick out. I have gotten some 'not so tailored to my needs' gifts before too - but to be honest, half the fun is unwrapping the present for me! And hey, you getting something new right? I do understand that sometimes people give really random presents that really have no use at all but its still quite nice to say thanks. What I don't like is being given a really cheap present of poor quality as that shows utter thoughtlessness
@EvrWonder (3571)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
I always say thank you for all presents I receive, whether it be at Christmas or gifts at any time of year. Not only is is good manners but the way I see it is that it is not the gift in itself but the thought that counts. One day you will need that paper!
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I always say thank you... it's really not about gifts anyway, so its the thought that counts. Around this time everyone is paraniod what to do as a gift for someone. Some people put a lot of work into a gift, even if it might not seem like it.. I think the gift you got was very nice. Maybe they thought you needed it... some people just do what they can. Anyway, it's the thought that counts... I'm sure you will find use for the paper, if not now, later. :)
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
27 Dec 08
Of course you do. It doesn't matter whether you like the gift. The giver made an effort in your direction. It is the thought that matters. Not the gift. I agree with you. Always saying thank you is the thing to do!
@dodo19 (47216)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Dec 08
Oh, yeah! I mean, I'd feel bad to say that I didn't like it anything. So, I'd just thank my relative and keep at that.
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 08
I would think it's only polite to thank the person for the gift, no matter how inappropriate or silly the gift is. I would just assume that the person has no idea what I like or want, and so got me a gift that he or she thinks I would like.
@my2boys (821)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I always say thank you when someone gives me a gift. I got a couple of gifts that i dont necessarily like for Christmas but I smiled and said thank you anyway. It is the polite thing to do. I dont wont to hurt anyones feelings. I just try and think how I would feel if someone reacted badly to a gift I had given them.
• India
27 Dec 08
Thanking a person for the gift you received shows your culture. it has nothign to do with the type of gift that the person has given. It shows the values you have been taught in your family. Even if it is a gift which wil not be of much youse to you, the person who has given it must have given due thought and selected the best from his or her side. Not thanking would be impolite and rude.
@enognis (38)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I have learned over the years that people matter a lot more than the stuff they give you. Therefore, if they give you a really weird gift, you should certainly say thank you. The hard part is getting yourself to believe the thank you that you just said.
@balasri (26537)
• India
27 Dec 08
Thank is for giving the gift.Not for the gift.The thanks come spontaneously from my mouth the moment I receive anything from anyone.
@laglen (19759)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I would always say thank you. I have gotten some strange things but would always thank you because at least they thought of you.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I always thank a person for gifts given. There's usually some sort of thought process in the selection, otherwise every one would just receive chia pets. (No offense to those who love receiving them...lol) The oddest things too, are sometimes from people that don't really know you, or see you other than at Christmas. If they feel obligated to give a small gift, they do their best to give a general-type gift that many people would enjoy. We do the same ourselves. How many of us give older people bath sets and candles, simply because we done know them well enough to know that they wouldlike? The odd things that your mom received were probably meant to 'fill the box' besides the memory card. And if the giver was older, they were thinking about a time before laptops when college students never came close to having enough paper. For their generation it would have been a perfect and thoughtful gift. Times have changed so rapidly in that area. My step-daughter attends high school. At the beginning of the school year, they are given a list of supplies to purchase. Several packages of lined report paper are on the list, even though reports are now all printed from computers. It would be smarter for them to request a package or two of computer paper!
@tlaquan (177)
• United States
27 Dec 08
Yes i still say thank you because it is not the gift that counts is is the thought behind it
@zamakh (517)
• South Korea
27 Dec 08
I will say thank you for the intention of the person, not the present itself. because it is really nice to know that someone is actually thinking of me and put an effort to find me a present, even if the present isn't worth any bucks, it is worth because of the intention :D
@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
27 Dec 08
OF COURSE!!! we should always be thankful for everything we received. But in your case, i totally understand what you feel, it's a good thing that you say thank you still, because they might bw offended if you didnt, just think of it as a nice gift that you can use in the future, for sure God will reward you for doing the right thing. :P