Romantic Comedies bad for relationships?

United States
December 27, 2008 1:59pm CST
I read a study that romantic comedies are detrimental to healthy relationships. The theory is that they create false expectations of what the "perfect" romance should be. When things in real life don't turn out the way they did in the movie, the couple gets angry or disappointed and dissolves the union the goes in search of one that does turn out "the way it should." Do you agree with this? Do you think it makes sense? What are your thoughts?
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@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
27 Dec 08
It's like the same way people are saying that reading romance novels will make us see the world in a skewed, impractical way. Or watching too many violent movies will turn us into mass murderers or serial killers. True, there might be a few and rare individuals that are susceptible to suggestions by the media, I'm not discounting that fact, however, I believe that overall, people has a more grounded sense of reality. We cannot use everything around us as an excuse for whatever failure we have in our lives. This finger-pointing to outside influences on the breakup of our relationships is just another way that we as a society is trying to escape responsibility for our own actions. Seriously, I think we give the media too much credence on its ability to influence and give us too little sense in knowing who and what we are.
@marty3888 (2358)
• United States
27 Dec 08
my thoughts are the same as video games cause people to commit murder. Makes no sense. It may be in some cases, but then it probably wasn't a helthy relationship. I mean, isn't that sort of contradictory? A movie destroys a "healthy relationship."
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@UK_Shree (3604)
27 Dec 08
It probably depends on the couple really. I think if both people are mature then their expectations are likely to be realistic. Romantic movies are probably quite nice for couples bonding too as they make people feel quite mushy. I think you could easily argue it both ways
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@uditpanda (1023)
• India
27 Dec 08
hello In a way it sounds justified. But again once in a 100 break up would happen out of the reason. There are a lot of things that determines the stability of the relationship. Everybody should keep part with reel life & real life. Not everything that happens in a movie is possible in the real life...this must be the theory to follow. concluding i must say if u believe in ur love & have faith in ur partner, nothing can disturb ur relationship. Still I would be on guard while watching a romantic comedy....thanx for the warning.. happy mylotting..
• India
28 Dec 08
I would not agree with that. Human life is a bond of everthing that includes, comedy, action, romance, drama etc and all these ingredients are important in life. Love too needs all these otherwise the romance part will be just romance and will look monotonous. Do you agree with me?
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• India
28 Dec 08
yeah i also agree with u i thnk i read the same article on Time.com i mean yeah they are.. but i thnk they give a false sense of security n how the relationships should go happy lotting and have a nice day!
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@anniepa (27280)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I don't know, I'd tend to think it could have the opposite effect. In most romantic comedies the couple goes through all kinds of problems and misunderstandings before usually coming to their "happily ever after" ending. We often see both parties' flaws and the mistakes they make. Often there's another woman or another man - or both - who somehow get in the way, but usually it's all a mistake or it was a flirtation to make the other person jealous or whatever. Sometimes watching a romantic comedy could even help improve someone's confidence in a relationship and self-esteem as well as make them more forgiving and understanding of their partner. If you see your favorite hot movie stars doing something boneheaded it might make you realize that, hey, sh1t happens and get over it! Annie
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• India
28 Dec 08
Hey there crimsonladybug if it had been a study they would have taken the stats from nearly 1000 people who have really had this sort of problems and i think it cannot be false and i think it really is true and even though i really dont have any experience in love i think that romantic comedies really would be bad in love as i have heard that most of the women dont like this type of comedies....happy mylotting..
• United States
28 Dec 08
A side note to the study was that men, not women as one might think, are more likely to believe there is one "right" person out there for everyone, the idea of Miss Right, soul mates, however you want to think of it. They didn't really expound on why but I thought that was an interesting fact.
@skysuccess (8880)
• Singapore
28 Dec 08
crimsonladybug, In the first place, these shows comedies or serial dramas or sitcoms are in fact meant to entertain the audience. It is never meant to be educational and / or to be taken educationally. I believe what the article is trying to point out is that these fictions put onto the screen should not be taken seriously and as a yardstick for ones' relationships and expectations of our partners. It is simply entertainment and not otherwise. Although, I cannot help but notice that the younger generations are very much into it nowadays. No? Well, have a look at their dressings, hairstyles and perspectives of life and their ideals. It can be quite scary. Take care and compliments of the season.