Trust issues and how to deal with them
By AnakSuNamun
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
United States
December 27, 2008 2:55pm CST
I used to have this co-worker who seemed nice enough and one day she quit out of blue with no notice. We all had to work extra hours because of her but I don't hold any grudge cause my personal life wasn't really affected.
Well,she called a few days ago and started asking me for employee's personal numbers,I was kind enough to give her a couple and later I was told I was wrong and that should've been avoided. I totally agree with most security issues but how do you give up someone who you thought was cool? We've been thru a few things together and I didn't suspect anything bad but I was notified she turned to be a stalker harassing former co-workers with irrelevant phone calls and outright psycho.
I feel perplexed now,I guess,she is weird in a way. I would never bother calling my place of previous employment,let alone harassing anyone. It was your fault you got fired,move on and live your life.
Would you be wary is someone you were in good relations with called and asked for other people's personal info? Given that you were as unsuspecting as me?
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I would never give out another person's phone number without that person's permission. It's just not something you should do. Regardless of the reason for it. If someone wants a phone number, they'll just have to ask that person themselves, or look it up in the phone book like everyone else.
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@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
27 Dec 08
The problem is that she used to have that person's phone number but she lost it,you have a point anyway. Thank God there is no phone book for cell phone numbers!..
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I think it would just seem fishy that she wasn't asking that particular person for their number, but was asking you instead. Just remember from now on don't give out someone else's number for any reason.
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@rodmarshall (9)
• Canada
28 Dec 08
Yeah, uuummm.... I would probably get permission anyhow on giving someone else personal information whether I know them like a sister/brother or not. Its cool by the way what you did, but that would just be me. Sorry that happened to you!
@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
28 Dec 08
No I wouldn't give out another employees number but the reason for that is that at my former job that was reason for immediate dismissal. We were cautioned about that from the start. We were not even allowed to give it to other employees or anyone.
I agree with the fact that she needs to move on but people are strange, you just never know what they are up to.
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Yeah,we have precautions now,too which makes me sad. Never know who to trust.
@808nala (640)
• United States
28 Dec 08
My situation was a little different. I had a really good friend that moved away. We hung out with a large group of people and she was loved by everyone. A few months after she moved, she called me to ask for some our friend's numbers. I didn't think anything of it because we were all really great friends. The following week she called and asked for a few more. She kept calling asking for everyone's number. It never bothered me until she told me not to tell anyone that she asked for someone else's #. I finally put two and two together and found out she was going down the line asking everyone for money. She got at least a few thousand dollars. Some of them got mad at me for giving their number to her, but I don't know why they got upset with me when she had their #'s before she moved away. She just lost them.
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
28 Dec 08
That is crazy,I take it she never returned the money? People might get mad at you for giving out their numbers but how could you stop them from lending money to somebody else?
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@808nala (640)
• United States
28 Dec 08
You're right, she didn't return any of the money. She changed all the phone numbers that we had for her, she was no longer working at the job we called her at sometimes and she was no longer living with her boyfriend in his apartment. I assume that he dumped her. So we completely lost all communication with her. I have no idea why they were mad at me. They're the stupid ones for giving her money!
