I Was Nearly Murdered in My Sleep

@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 28, 2008 2:30am CST
Prologue Yesterday morning my spouse left home to go to her parents' house for a family function. Even though I was not invited, I gave hrt full permission. She went with one daughter. Two of my sons were informed since the day before that she would be returning late at night. That was her excuse for bringing along another set of clothing. The point here she had many times in the past returned late at night but never did bring any spare clothing. At 8.00 pm the daughter returned alone. When asked she said the mother would be sent home by her twin sister. At 11.30pm I tried to call her. Twice she did not answer. At the third time there was no ringing tone because she had alreadyswitched off her hand set. Together with my two sons I went to her parents' house. Her youngest brother said she went to her twin's house. It was already past midnight. I called her sister's handset. I was also cut off. She returned home close to 1.00 am this morning. The truth came out. She went to a social gathering of her former school mates. This upset me because she did not ask for my permission. The gathering included singing and dancing. She had never danced with me before even though I did ask her to several times in the past. If you know my life story you would probably understand why we ha a short argument about it. The daughter butted in and defended her mother. She came short of hitting me with an aerosol can. This is one daughter I failed to educate. I had various jobs during the time she was growing up. Her mother, grandparents and aunts managed to brain wash her. So I was the no good, irresponsible bum. The money that I gave to her via her mother was said to be her mother's. My third son came out of his room and defended me. I did not brainwash him. He saw, heard, and experienced many things in the past and came to his own conclusions. In fact his younger siblings also came to similar conclusions. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that they had less contact with their relatives. I thought it ended there. The Act About three hours ago I became tired while trying to comment the responses I received for yesterday's discussion. I laid down on the floor with my feet on the chair. Within seconds I fell asleep. A noise woke me up at around 2.30pm My second daughter was standing near my head with a kitchen knife in her left hand. Her mother was holding her right hand. The size of the knife? One and a half inch wide, seven inches long blade. I sat on the chair. She was determined to kill me because she said there was nothing good in me. Her mother tried to stop her because she did not want a murder in the house, not because she cared for me. There was a short struggle with me involved because her mother was not strong enough for her. I took away the knife and put it on the computer desk thinking that she would cool down. She made a lunge and took it back. The knife was wrested free and was put further away on the desk. She stood for a while and grabbed a pair of scissors. I took away the scissors and sat on the chair. She left the room. All the time she was screaming things which were untrue or presented in a bad light. It took me some time to write this down, not because I was in shock but because of how far things had gone. Thank you for lending me your ears. all the best, rosdimy
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4 responses
• Malaysia
28 Dec 08
oh god!!si it true?oh no what happen to the world today?we should love our parent not kill them...even though i am not a good daughter but im still loving my parent so much...they love me too even im making too many mistake they still accepting me as a daughter...ohhh...im scared when im reading this...
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 08
Parents make mistakes. When a parent said something wrong and apologised for it children should try to accept it. I was raised in a poor family not because my father was stupid. He scored high marks in his class but he preferred working on his own. I remember the day we had nothing to eat at home but I never blamed him, and never regretted having him as my father. He did try his best to earn money. So I do not think that what happened to me was a form of retribution to me. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
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@reject (95)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
haver her arrested or at least go through bootcamp...an attitude like that is bound to get her in trouble with the law down the road. You'd be remiss if you don't set her straight.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 08
I think she was actually seeking some attention for herself. She felt at several points in her life she was neglected. To a certain extent this was true because during those times I was not always at home. As for my spouse she used to leave before 7 am and always returned home late at night. She used to tell the children I was being irresponsible. As for her she said she returned late because she had to work to earn money9!!). She was having night meetings with another man several times a week. The daughter believed this. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy
@sivanj (1263)
• India
28 Dec 08
don't worry about the murder in the sleep. it won't happen in the reality. dreams are dreams and so don't worry about these.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 08
It was real. Ah, my imperfect English. It was not a dream. I was a few inches away from being stabbed to dearh. Thank you for your response all the best, rosdimy
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@jordan04n (463)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Listen and listen carefully. Your household is dangerous and totally out of control to the point of someone will get hurt, disabled or worse. There are young impressionable children in your home who do not need to be around this type of behavior. I am interested to know how old is the "child" with the knife.She needs help and now before she hurts someone seriously. She is totally out of control and she may need to live somewhere else for a while til she can gain respect for her elders(parents). She is abusive and there are places for her to go. Her safety is also in danger as she could have gotten hurt hurting someone else. No one in that home is safe with anyone who is as angry as she is. Put all weapons, knives, icepicks etc up or out of the house. Do not wait until something happens that can't be fixed. What ever the problem is between you and your wife. My husband has always said...we go as a family or we don't go. Throw that phrase at your wife. ....as a family or a sitter for the kids and go as 2 adults together or not at all. This is easier than you think and isn't this what marriage is about. Lay some ground rules slowly and everyone expect them to follow them or move on where they can have a better life. We have a saying in our home "peace at all cost'. Cain and Able do not live here. Don't let them live there either. God bless you in your search for the peace that only God can bring.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 08
Thank you for your suggestion. My daughter is now not at home since the new semester has started. She has disowned me as her father. I used to send her but this time she asked my third son to send her back. As for my spouse she only listen to her parents and siblings. In this case all of them support her. Other than her immediate family she would only follow the advice or suggestion of certain male friends. They too support her actions and give further encouragement to her. I guess I will have to put my trust completely in God. Thank you for your response. all the best, rosdimy