Do you live your life based on what people think ?

@ronnyb (6117)
Jamaica
December 28, 2008 10:06am CST
Or do you only live your life the way you want to and do anything that you like. Maybe you try to you best to make your parents ,teachers ,teachers or other members of your family proud. Would you think twice about doing something that would bring shame to your family ? Or you believe that your life is your to live and you don’t care about anyone. Is something wrong with living your life as a model for others or that will prevent you from being your self ?Is there anyone that would change your life to suit ? ,if yes who is this person and to what extent would you change for this person ?
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@suzzy3 (8352)
28 Dec 08
Maybe once I tried to please everyone all the time,but not anymore.It is not my choice to make people live how I live and it is not their place to tell me what to do,mind you advise is always handy,whether you choose to take it, is up to the person.On the whole I please my husband first then my kids.The rest will have to wait if they don't like it there is not anything I can do about that.We live funny hours in our house because of my husbands work hours he starts work at four am every day and that restricts our social life somewhat,we went to my daughters for a family get together today and we left at four,My husband came straight from work and got so tired we left and came home as he has to get up at four tomorrow moring as well,everybodies used to it now.A few people in the family used to say stay and get a taxi later on,he will be alright,can't he survive on his own,I said he probably can but I don't want him too.Mind you that ladies boyfriend cleared off after ten years as she ignored him and did nothing for him.I am not a door mat by any extent,it just goes to show that living how you want to works and not to be bullied by anyone.As for living your life as a model for others is a big mistake,saying that I don't use foul language round the grandchildren or my Dad.So I do adapt to certain situations like talking to the vicar ect,but everybody seems to like me for being myself so thats another good reason to be your self.If you change to much it becomes false and you have to have a good memory,to remember how you behave with that person or that person and the falseness shows through.thank you for reading this if you made it to the end I applaud you.x
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@ronnyb (6117)
• Jamaica
28 Dec 08
Great answer and I did make it to the bottom and with regard to living your life as I see fit ,I always tell people about the man ,his donkey and his son who were walking along a street Until someone told him to ride the donkey let the boy walk as he was big and strong.This he did and was continuing along until he met someone who said he was a big strong man and that he shouldnt be burdening the poor donkey ,so he came off and let the boy ride the donkey.They continued for some time and met someone else who suggested that both should ride and they did this .Continuing further they met someone else who suggested that they were both cruel for burdening the poor donkey with their weight and that tehy should carry the donkey.This they did but as they were crossing a bridge with the donkey he panicked and eventually the donkey fell off into teh river . I am glad that you are an individual who is not easliley led ,keep it up and all the best wished for your new year .
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@marky15 (75)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
I don't care what other people may think. I live my life the way i want it to be. Most of the times i commit mistakes, but that's a part of growing up. That mistakes will someday turned out to be my greatest weapon to survive and be successful.
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• United States
29 Dec 08
I've lived my life half trying to do things the way I want to do them and half trying to make my parents proud. Nothing I ever did was good enough for my step dad and my mother never stepped up and said 'you know, she's trying her best the least you can do is give her credit for her efforts.' And both of them constantly bad mouthed my father and step mother so essentially not only could I do very little right, but I was caught in the middle and often felt ashamed to sympathize with my father on many levels. I've now moved out of state for many reasons, and one of them being now I do whatever I want, how I want and just have to stop and think sometimes that it doesn't matter what my parents think anymore because I don't live with them, and they can't hold anything over my head anymore.
• United States
29 Dec 08
we have to remember that what ever we do will have an effect on persons around us and to make some decisions without considering the effect that it will have on persons close to you is kinda selfish to me. i think there is a difference between asking for advice and making an informed decision and making a decision just to please yourself. yes well all know that as you get older you are no long obligated to take advise form our parents at this age we make or own rule and decisions but remember the older ones are most times the wiser ones
• India
29 Dec 08
nah i live my life as i want i m very thankful to my parents that they do support me all the time. if sometimes i went wrong then ma n pa is always there t help me out i luv them n my decisions can be effected by them only no one else can do that
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
i think for any situation, balance is needed. Personally, i had my share of wrong decisions because i wanted to please other people, not knowing that I was the one left uncertain and "unfulfilled". Moving on, as a parent, I would also like to be a model to my kids, being a good example to them so they can also live their lives to the fullest. I should not act as if I don't care about anyone since I care for my kids and they have to adapt the same principle. However, i should not impose a certain goal for them to achieve if they are half-hearted about it. My kids will tell me what they want in life and being a loving parent, it is my duty to let them have it, as long as they keep their values in tact. Nice discussion!
@MizzLadyB08 (1174)
• United States
29 Dec 08
No, I do not live my life on what people say, I do things for me and not for anybody else. If people did live their life based on what others say what will this world be? Nothing, because people are not gonna have a mind of their own which I think everyone should have.
• India
29 Dec 08
no never ,living through others saying is dangerous.we should live on basis of our conceptions.
@Ithink (10618)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I really used to worry about what all these other people thought about things I did. I realized I was worried on not saying the wrong thing, moving the wrong way. Just not being what everyone thought I should be. It gets really tiring trying to be what everyone else wants and I stopped. I'm now me and I like me. That said, I really feel if someone doesn't like me or what I do that is their problem and not mine. I will no longer change or act differently for anyone, I am who I am and if someone doesn't like it oh well.
@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
Part of me lives the life accdg to people's expectations, part of me lives the way i want to. It's always difficult to choose the way you live your life coz most of the time, you just live your life without really taking things in consideration, maybe it's all about balance, you try to live your life the way you want it at the same time not disappointing the people around you. :P
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I live my life by the Golden Rule as much as I can. I make every decision always considering how it would effect my family, especially my children. I try to be the best role model that I can to my kids. I like for my parents and family to be proud of me, but if I know what I am doing is the right thing, and that I am doing my best, I feel good about myself. Sometimes, just because a decison we make is not one our family and friends approve of doesn't mean it is a bad choice for us.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Well I think if you learn who you are really without relying on other's opinions of who you should be then there is no other way to live your life than for yourself. That's not to say that you should not take into consideration the things you do or say, because everyone is a role model for someone. And I think it shows the level of respect you have for yourself by making sound choices for yourself. In other words your actions tell others what you really think of yourself. I am glad I was raised in an environment that allowed me to find who I am and learn my own truth of myself and live my life that way. It's sad that so many people at all ages really do not know who they really are because they are pleasing others and forget themselves. Plus how in the world can one person please everyone....it's impossible because everyone has soemthing to say about everything.
@diillu (5128)
28 Dec 08
Well, I wouldn't say that other people thoughts doesn't matter at all. Yes, I care about what people think about me. But I don't give much effort to be the best of every people and try to impress them by doing what they like. I do things according to me but hearing other people thoughts also helps me alot in my life about how and what to do.
@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I believe in living life to the best of my ability. I do what I feel is the best & most honest thing to do. I try & live within society's guidelines & live my life in a way that brings honor to my parents!!! In doing all that, I try & bring happiness to myself!!! In general, I do not care what others think. Yet I'm realistic enough to know there are a few rules to survive in this world. Therefore, I tend to skate on the fringe of the universe without falling over the edge!!!
• India
28 Dec 08
I just want to live my own life so i don't care about others .I always do what i like and i think a lot before doing one thing and take my own decision i may ask a sugession from others but i don't go straight away with their decision bcoz this is my life good or bad let me face the whole problem.