What is your greatest fear in loving someone?

December 29, 2008 9:05am CST
Everybody has a greatest fear in loving someone. Me the fear that i have is that i have is losing someone not knowing what my mistake it. How about you
4 responses
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 09
When loving someone my greatest fear is being unable to be true to myself. If I cannot be true to myself then whatever feelings that I have for the other person cannot be true. It is easy to hurt someone we love, it is not difficult to lose the person we care for, if we do not know our real motivation in loving the other person. Knowing exactly where we stand enables us to gauge the distance that needs to be reduced, and the steps that should be taken to achieve this. Mistakes are made when we misjudge the distance, and when we make the wrong move. This is one of the reasons why I appear to be hesitant. all the best, rosdimy
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
I think we have the same fear! When I fell in love, one of the first thing that came to my mind was that if I keep on falling, I'd be crushed if I lose this person. I can't even imagine how my life would be without him. Thanks for the comment on my discussion!
• India
30 Dec 08
Hi my dearest lotters, first let me wish you all a wonderful new year. My greatest fear in loving someone is that they would not reciprocate what ever they are given, look, I am not one of the greatest philosopher to be a non reciprocative lover, when I give a pen , in the least, I would expect a pencil. I dont think, I am wrong. And there is no point in loving some one who cannot love you back in equal measure. Therefore My biggest fear of loving someone is if they would return the same amount of love and care to me. cheeers!!!!!!!!!!
• United States
29 Dec 08
My fear is getting too settled, getting so 'comfortable' with one another that we'll tire of one another. (Namely that he will tire of me, or if I tire of him that it will hurt him.) Although, I will admit that commitment is a bit scary. Maybe that's juvenile of me, but I'm still young to be considering being tied down for the rest of my life. (Which is what, hopefully, a marriage would entail. I'm not a fan of the thought of divorce. It's too messy.)