I Almost Bumped Into My Half-Brother, And We Didn't Recognize Each Other...
By grumpybear
@ShortyAkbar (384)
United States
December 29, 2008 2:29pm CST
Earlier today, I went to Wal-Mart with my mom. I was walking in front of her and we were going down the aisle where the toothpaste was, and I almost bumped into this guy. I took a few steps back and let him pass. He walked past me, then he came back and said hey to my mom. He reached out to touch me and I stepped back, because I didn't know who he was. My mom said "That's sad. You two see each other in the store and didn't even know who the other one was." I finally realized that it was my half-brother. We have the same father, but different mothers and he is at least 30 years older than me. I haven't seen him since I was 10. He never came around to visit me when I was younger, and he wondered why I wasn't excited to see him. I don't know him to tell you the truth. I have 9 other siblings. They all came from my father's previous relationships. I'm the youngest and the only child that he had with my mom. They are all older than me by at least 30 years, they even have children my age. If they wanted to see me when I was younger, they could have. The messed up part is, they never came to visit me and expect me to be excited to see them or to know who they are automatically. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
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@janjee (160)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
Well, i'm quite confused, what did you mean in the line "Am I wrong for feeling this way"?
Is it the same thing as:
Are you to be blamed for not being excited to see your half-brother?
If that's the case, then, I believe the answer is no. You are not to be blamed. As you stated, you didn't even know who he was. As such, you will never be excited of seeing him because in the first place, you didn't even know him.
P.S.
You know, your family situation is more complicated than mine, but I'm hoping that you can get through it soon. Good luck and have a nice day!:)
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@greenglitterturtle (2750)
• United States
29 Dec 08
hi shorty...it's just the way you feel and it is natural. if you haven't seen him much and you didn't recognize him how are you to be excited? just a cordial greeting is fine. being friendly is enough. don't feel guilty about it. it's just the way that it is.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Jan 09
I am not sure if you are wrong to feel that way. But you can not say what was their reasoning for not coming around. Things happen that keep people away. I can say this as I have 2 real sisters, 2 half sisters, 2 half brothers and a step sister between my mother and father. I did not get to see a brother and two half sisters much because I was raised by my father and he would not allow me to be with my mother much. My sisters grew up thinking I did not care. But that was never the case. My heart ached because I could not be with them more. By time I was old enough to leave the house I married young and had my kids, I had troubles of my own. But I can say one of my best friends is my youngest half sister. Our daughters are less than a month a part and extremely close. Oh and BTW..we currently live 1200 miles away from each other. I am glad I made an effort to connect in their lives.
