Your Plate Is Ready Dear.
By Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
United States
December 29, 2008 3:58pm CST
At the family dinner Sunday, we had fixed our plates and sat down at the table to eat. One of my nephews was sitting at the table with no plate, I looked at him and I said what are you waiting on, I know you are not waiting on your wife to fix your plate and bring it to you. The wife replied yes he is I always fix his plate, she said I started that when we were dating and now he expects me to do it all the time. He is spoiled, I got him that way. I told her well you know you shouldn't start anything you don't intend to finish. And it is said what you do to get them that is what you are to do to keep them.
Another niece's husband had gone to the store, and when he came back I told his wife to fix his plate, he replied I'll fix my own plate, I don't want any favors, I said what do you mean by that he said if she fix my plate I will never hear the last of it she will be throwing that up in my face for a long time.
My question is...Do you fix your spouse's plate for him or her to eat?
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26 responses
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Well, I'm divorced now but when I was married I would do it once in a while, and vice versa. Otherwise, he fixed his own plate.
I'm not a maid, nor was he my Butler. We were both very capable of fixing our own plates.
Sorry, being nice sometimes is wonderful and just sweet but never would I let it become a habit, especially when it EXPECTED of you? No Thanks, I don't think so.
Take care and Happy New Year!
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
hi dear!
if my boyfriend and i, were either at our house or at their house, then whoever get first on the table then he gets the plate for the whole family, or actually whoever in the family member gets in the dining first, she'he has the task to prepare the table including the plates and cuttleries...and if me and my boyfriend only, i actually take the initiative to prepare the table since he does the cooking...so it was fair enough...lol
...and if we were at a party we actually get plates on ourselves!
Have a Prosperous New Year!
God bless! Happy mylotting!
...and if we were at a party we actually get plates on ourselves!
Have a Prosperous New Year!
God bless! Happy mylotting!
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
29 Dec 08
My husband and I love to do things like this for each other, but we rarely do any of these things in public. Nobody needs to be embarrassed or be asked why he or I can't get up and do it ourselves. When we're alone, we often fix each other's plates and have a little giggle about it.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
29 Dec 08
don't have a spose but can't believe a grown mad hadn't rather fix his own olate. he is spoiled. i'm not saying i wouldn't fix someone a plate but they'd have to be in pretty bad shape for me to do it every meal. lol
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
4 Jan 09
When we are at home, I fix my husband's plate, it is not because it is expected of me, it is just something I do not mind doing. If we are out, he fixes his own plate, because I do not know what he want and do not want. At home, after I cook, I automatically fix the plates. He would do the same for me as well.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Actually it depends each time when I make dinner. We also share in the cooking duties from time to time. More often then not he ends up fixing my plate.
It is always good for a married couple to help one another around the house especially at dinner time. It makes for a good relationship.
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
30 Dec 08
My wife will fix my plate on the table. I don't see nothing wrong it that. If she does me one favour, I ll try to return it back *wink.
@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
30 Dec 08
lol! that is quite funny the differences.. I Do not really fix teh plate.. if i do i leave it on the counter and he can bring it to the table himself. . Thats if he's the last to get the food out of the dish, cause he wont rinse it, then i'll slopp it on the plate for him so it gets done. . I dont throw it in his face when i do it though either. and sometimes he gets me lunch.. rare happenstance.. but sometimes.. maybe once a year :P LOL
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I dont have a spouse but if i did he would be fixing his own plate and i fix mine. I trained my kids to fix their own plates when they were young. That way i would not give them more than they could eat. If my kids could fix their own plate than any man i know best be capable of helping hisself. Unless anyone is too handicapp they better help themselves.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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30 Dec 08
Hi Chevee,
Oh yes! his mother spoilt him and when we got married he expected the same thing, I told him he is lazy and expect me to be his mother, well I am not! I told him but he just throws tantrums just a like child so I do it just for peace sake and now its the norm, his answer to everyting is 'well I go to work and you don't'and I told him I had to give up work but still run around you like a blue a** fly, well no more' but I just can't win, the lazy so and so. Hugs.
Tamara
@6precious102 (4043)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I'm not married, but if I were, I'd let my spouse fix his own plate unless he was physically incapable of doing so.
@LadyWinter (195)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I fix my husbands plate all the time and he fixes me plates as well. On New Years eve we will be going to his friends house to play poker and you can bet even in front of all his manly man friends he will fix me a plate and bring it to me....and I will feel like the princess.
I wonder about the second comment you made..the person who said they dont want any favors, or they wouldnt hear the end of it...not very complimentary things to say about your spouse....especially around others.
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Yes I fix my husbands plate. But he also fixes his on to. and we both cook. We both like to cook and make different things. But we share everything. He also fixes my plate as well.
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
30 Dec 08
no, i seldom fix my hubby's plate... he usually fix his own plate although i help him to do it once in a while... but i don't want it to become a habit and i want him to be independent... i fix my own plate as well and i never expect him to do that for me... take care and have a nice day...
@walijo2008 (4644)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Sometimes I fix his plate and take it to him, he appreciates it and doesn't expect me to do it all the time. The only time I'll fix his plate is if we're eating in the living room, he's usually sitting at the computer and I'll bring his plate to him there, and usually we may just be eating sandwiches or something like that. Most of the time tho, we eat at the kitchen table and he fixes his own then.
@capirani (2817)
• United States
30 Dec 08
When we were still married, sometimes I got his plate for him and sometimes he got mine for me. Usually we got our own. We generally did not eat at the table, but in the living room watching tv or a movie. It was part of our family time. The food was in the kitchen and everyone would get their own plates.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I admit I often do this with my current guy. Mainly because he is so very thin and really doesn't eat well. He often skips eating entirely until dinner. And if I left it up to him to fill his plate he'd put enough on there for a 3 year old, not an adult male. So, to try and get him to eat enough and also healthy, I fix his plate for him. I'd rather not, but having him get enough food is more important to me.
@shihtzumama (290)
• United States
30 Dec 08
NOOOOOOOOOO I do not fix a plate for my husband. I don't have the time. I will cook for him, and I will come home if I am out for a drink with a friend and I will cook something for my hubby for when he comes home from work. BUT, I don't fix his plate for him. If I did, he would say that I either gave him too much food or not enough food or he didn't want something that I put on the plate. Hes a big boy, he can do it!!!
Shihtzumama
