im gonna welcome 2009 alone :(

Philippines
December 29, 2008 6:05pm CST
I just want to share this. Ive been keeping this to myself for about two weeks now. I was born in a province in the Philippines and grew up with my family. Just last August, I decided to transfer in the city(which is an hour or two travel from our province)for a very well compensated job. Its a tough decision. I mean its not easy leaving my family, ive been very dependent on them and we really have a very good relationship plus its the very first time I'll be away from them. And then, Christmas Season came. I learned that I cant spend Christmas and New Year with my family. I have to work! Christmas Eve and Christmas Day - Iam totally alone and working! and this New Year too. I really wanted this season to end(im sorry) to wash away the sadness that Iam feeling right now and wherever I go, I can see families shopping around the mall, eating, having a good time. Really feel bad about it but I really cant do anything about it. Well, maybe I'll get used to it someday.
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• United States
30 Dec 08
hi laineyloves...you need to plan something that you enjoy to celebrate and have a good time. a good movie could help. something that can warm your heart and give you pleasant things to think about. best wishes.
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• Philippines
30 Dec 08
you know what Ive thought of doing that last Christmas, after work. But Im so depressed, I decided to sleep for the whole day and when I woke up, it doesnt really helped me. I was trying to stop myself from crying. It made me more sad. So this time, I'll be treating myself and will have a really feel good movie and avoid feeling lonely. Thanks!
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@beeeckie (802)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Sorry you're all alone right now, but it doesn't have to be as lonely as you may think. You can throw yourself a small party.
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• Philippines
30 Dec 08
infairness to my office, they threw a small party last Christmas Eve for us so I think there will be another on New Year's Eve. yeah, I'll try to enjoy this and stop thinking about me being alone. Thanks anyways! Happy 2009!
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• United States
30 Dec 08
I'm going to be alone for New Year's too but I've decided to change the way I look at it. This New Year's is clearly intended to be one of introspection for both of us, right? Maybe you can greet the new year by meditating on what you want for the world, for your loved ones or for yourself over the next twelve months. Or look back on the last year? Are you where you want to be? If not, what happened over the past year or so that led you here? And how can you get back on the path you want to be on? Being alone doesn't have to be lonely. Just remind yourself that you could be in the throng of a bunch of drunks with someone puking on your shoes and being alone won't seem so bad. It'll seem more like a blessing. Good luck and happy New Year!!!!
@spalladino (17892)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I'm so sorry that you've had such an unhappy holiday! It's not fair that you had to work and couldn't go home to be with your family so I hope you're able to next year. Maybe if you talk to you boss early you can get some time off. It's hard to be away from family during the holidays...some of mine are pretty far away...but at least I have some of them here so I really feel for you.
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• Philippines
30 Dec 08
i just started from this company so Im not yet entitled for vacation or sick leaves. Im aware of the nature of my job, that we are working at night everyday even during holidays and Christmas season. It is double pay anyway (but money cant really replace my family) I cant be absent or I'll be terminated. Next year, I will really make sure Ill be spending the most important season with my family. I cant afford to be away from them again during those days. Good for you to have atleast some of your family members intact for New Year. Thanks for your concern though. Cheers to 2009! Dont worry, Ill try to treat myself and have fun being with my officemates!
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@hildas (3031)
30 Dec 08
I am sorry you are a way from your family at this time of year. I think you need to be in company of friends or work mates to take your mind of it. I really would hate to be away from my family but your work is important and I am sure you will get the chance next year to go home and spend time with them. I really wish you well and try to stay with friends and not be alone.
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
thanks for the concern hildas! yap i wont let this happen again next year! its a lot different spending the holidays with friends or workmates but then youre right, its still work! and lemme just appreciate the friends and workmates that I have. Im sure they're feeling the same way too.
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@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
30 Dec 08
ive been in that situation for years. but i am always in the company of friends. i have to accept that i am away from my family and think that i am doing this for them.. focus on your job on that day and tend to put your attention away from what's happening outside. then you'll see, it passed too quickly without you knowing it..
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• Philippines
30 Dec 08
thanks katrhina! I'll do that really and you know just enjoy the day with my officemates, have fun, laugh and get used to it.. I need to treat myself this time around! Cheers!
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• United States
31 Dec 08
Very good, doing something that is going to make your life better is very important. I can completely understand about not wanting to be by yourself during the holidays and such, but if you really think about it, you are only an hour away, I live 4 miles away from one of my sisters, about 8 miles away from another sister and brother, my older brother lives 2 hours away with my father. I lost my mother in 1997, so doing the holidays without her is very hard even after that many years. Good luck and all will be well, just remember all the wonderful times you have had and will have again with your family. I am sure they love you very much and miss you a bunch. Sarafina50
@healer (1779)
• India
30 Dec 08
hey sister sorry to hear that you are alone and you don't want to be, anyway its been few years since i am away from my home and i have get used to it finally. Try to make some good friends out there and i guess everything will be ok for you, i don't have any one around this year as my friends all went back home for the christmas season but i stayed because i got some work to do and its really hard but trying my best to keep my self busy and not to be alone. Why don't you try out my idea like making yourself busy with some work so that you won't be left alone. Anyway wishing you a very happy new year.
@hey_baby (425)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
let me share with you my favorite line - "this too shall pass" . whatever the outcome is, no matter what you do, things will go on. just try to think positive and make the most out of it. happy new year!
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
yeah i love that line as well, thas why i wanted to end the holidays season now. harhar. but im better now because of you guys, mylotter friends!
@coffeebreak (17802)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I'll be alone too! And my kids are right here in town! They just have other plans. No big deal tho... just another eveing/day. I'll just MyLot!
@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
30 Dec 08
It is hard being alone during the holidays. When I was away at college the first time for the holidays I was lucky enough that there were about 7 of us that couldn't get home for the holidays so we all got together and watched a movie and had a small dinner. It wasn't the same but it did help pass the time. Maybe by next year you will be in a better position. Good Luck and Happy New Year to you!
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
you're right it's really not the same to spend christmas with friends or workmates especially when you spend Christmas with your family every year. Even though we try to just forget about being away, its still different. Next year, i wont let this happen again! thanks and Happy New Year!
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• China
19 Jan 09
Well,it's really hard to be away with family in the festivals .But compare to me,you are much better.I graduated in 2008 and I decided to go to a big city which would take more than a day to take a train to find a good job,so I have to leave my family,of course I have to spend the New Year and the Spring Festival(the most important festival in China) alone,and the worse is that I havn't find a job as the financial crisis has infected the economics so much.Oh,My god.
• Macedonia
30 Dec 08
sorry u r alone :(
@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
just look at it positively, atleast youre earning and put it as youre doing this for your family & there are other times you can be with them. :P
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
yeah im really trying hard to do that but you cant blame me, you know its my first time. im sure il get used to it but i wont let this happen again. hehe thanks anyways!
• Malaysia
30 Dec 08
I had the same experience once when I was studying overseas, 8 hours by flight from my home country.True, there are friends around but I was missing my family so much which made me cried often..ha..ha..I was the youngest in my family, never apart from them since I was a little, study abroad was the toughest decision I have to make too.Times goes by, I have to get use with it.You are not far, you can visit them often on weekends, give them a call whenever you can and hang out with friends more often.You will get use to it, trust me.
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
im still lucky i can go back home twica a week. unlike what you've experienced, its not in the same country, i cant do that i guess. but thank you for your advice. i feel stronger now. i know im not the only one experiencing this and it is not the worst, cause some are really alone for the season. you guys helped me a lot. i feel better now but 31st is fast approaching, i hope i can survive hehe! Cheers!
• Pakistan
30 Dec 08
Awww I really feel bad about you spending Christmas all alone. No body likes me to alone on a Holiday. Just my little advice try to make friends with people where you work if possible, it doesn't make up for spending time with family but on the other hand it beats being all alone.
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
Awww...that's the trade off for working in the city! I guess once you become regularized, you'll be able to enjoy more benefits including taking some time off to enjoy the holidays. Or hopefully, you can find a better job which will allow you to go back to the province when Christmas season arrives. I mean, everyone knows that people don't work on Christmas.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I know how you feel. Every year i am used to waking up with my family there. Last year i stayed at my fiance's house on christmas eve. I was so upset and depressed on christmas morning all i wanted to do was go home. I don't know if we ever get used to it. I guess in time. I know i will for my son.
@tanstar (59)
• China
30 Dec 08
well, it feels good to be independent at first, but gradually you will miss you family, that is me. in fact, you're more lucky than me, because i don't think one or two hours' journey is too hard to endure:P happy new year!
• United States
30 Dec 08
Hello Sorry but I am alone too this is the Life I Hope everyone have the Prosperous and Happy New Year 2009
• India
30 Dec 08
wish u and ur family a happy new year laineyloves. im gonna welcome 2009 with u laineyloves u r not alone when u are with mylot here is someone with u with love and care reading ur soul.