Some one help me please

United States
December 29, 2008 10:42pm CST
Okay ladies, let me tell you what I have just found. Going thru my closet to put some clothes away, I look down and I find a females jacket. Now this jacket is not any type of crap that I would wear. So I ask my husband and he gets very defensive. I call everyone I know and not tell them whats going on but just ask if they may have left a jacket at my house and every one says it don't belong to them. Im thinking and I don't know who's jacket it is. I only have one person who I realy consider a freind that comes over my house and I know it aint hers. So ladies I just need some help calming down befor I do something stupid and end up in jail cuz I want to beat fire out of his behind. Thats why I'm writing to try and calm my nerves. I done smoked abut five ciggarettes, some one help please.
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@dvmurphy (326)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I agree with your other response. He would be gone! Nip it in the bud right now if you want to keep his cheating butt. Get rid of his dating service , get rid of the jacket by way of the trash where it belongs and if he doesn't straighten up he should follow. My husband had a midlife crisis and stepped out on me with a college buddie of mine years ago and I didn't see it coming when all the signs were right in front of me. When I finally came to I kicked his butt out of our home and beat the snott out of her. We were separated for five months before we got back together but it made him realize what he had had all along and he has never cheated on me since. You have to be strong and put your foot down or he'll just keep doing it behind your back.
• United States
30 Dec 08
I totally agree with you! If your husband got defensive about teh jacket, it definitely means he is guilty. You need to get the truth out of him by all means and let him know you ar enot going to take this crap . He needs to appreciate your devotion and loyalty or else he simply not worth it! Cheating is not something any of us should have to put up with! Take help of friends and family , if required. God knows since when the jacket has been lying in the closet! What level the cheating is going on! So you need to stop it right here or else he will take you for granted! I wonder, how the hell he have the guts to do something so stupid as to hide this lady's jacket in your closet..and forget about it!
• United States
31 Dec 08
I won't lie, it does seem that your husband is cheating on you. How else would the jacket get there if it wasn't you or him? Who else has access to your home? Who has copies of your keys, who may drop by anytime? People change if he wasn't cheating then he is now. Just by his reaction you would be able to tell. In the meantime, search the jacket for any pockets to see if you can find out who it belonged to. Or take pictures of it and email them to your friends or people you have over and ask them again. "Who does this belong to?" Give a day or two for response. In the mean time keep a close eye on your hubby and the jacket and his behavior. My mother always told me that women have good intuition. So if something's not right you'll know. Have all your facts before, you give your sentencing. Good Luck!
@marina321 (4561)
30 Dec 08
Well going by what a previous poster has written about your previous posts on the online sites and all... I'd say he is really walking all over you... You do not need to leave but show him the door! Look how mad he's made you, you do not need all this stress, life's too short to be wasting worrying about this and that. If you have kids, this takes its toll. Do something about it before you look back and think you wasted a few good years of your life... 'It is better to be on your own than stay in an unhappy relationship'
@vanonas (950)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Wow you should try to calm down first then try asking him again. Give him an ultimatum to tell you the truth now and you'll forgive him or he can lie to you and you'll be gone. What a complete butt to do that to you. I'm sorry.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
30 Dec 08
I know I'm probably not being much help, but I would be furious!! But then again if it was something he was trying to hide, why would it just be in the closet. Isn't that something you go into everyday? I think I have read all your discussions you have started about your husband and it doesn't sound like he is a very good man. Maybe you should reconsider your marriage. You deserve to be happy.
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• United States
30 Dec 08
Well that is a hard one because I would react the same as you. Its hard to be calm over something like that. I would talk to your husband and ask if he thinks there are problems in our marriage. You need to try to work them out. There is nothing that hurts worse then a cheating husband. I would rather be told the truth from my husband even if it would hurt me. Then not to know at all. And ask if him if you two can talk and work it out. If not then maybe there needs to be some time alone like a break from each other. Maybe you both need to go to a counselor. Sometimes we cant fix everything on our own we need advice.
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Well, if it were me I would already be gone. I skimmed your other discussions. The minute I found my husband had a dating site membership I would have kicked his butt to the curb. No one goes on those sites "just to look". I certainly wouldn't have stayed for that disrespect from him. I hate to say it but it sounds like your husband is cheating on you. If it hasn't been physical yet it is at any rate emotional cheating. I think you need to get out of that relationship. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
It sounds like you need to take a long look at your husband. I read some of the other responses and it appears that he had belonged to a dating site. No one joins one of those just to see what the site is like. I would get rid of the coat and keep a extra special close eye on him. Generally where there is smoke there is fire but not in all cases.
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@Ithink (10618)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I'm not going to be much help here, sorry for that. I would be so mad, if the jacket meant nothing I wouldn't think he would get defensive. I would say do on your gut instinct and what you feel is the truth. I would be thinking on when the jacket could have been put, misplaced or whatever in my closet. I would think on how often he would have had a chance to have anyone over. I would also think on it for a bit just to see if anything or anyone comes to mind. Another thing, do you have a reason to think that he could be cheating and not to trust him?