Am i getting over possessive??
@blackeyedpeas (445)
India
December 30, 2008 11:23pm CST
I had been into this relationship from past 1 year now. I see alot many changes in myself. Initially, for me everything seems so comfortable.I never use to fight with my boyfriend,i never use to complain in case he is busy and we didnt talk, i never had a problem if he is out with his friends and if he talks to his ex-gf. I was just too comfortable with everything. But suddendly, i dnt know whats wrong with me, i have stated complaining, i feel jealous if he is talks with his ex.,i get upset if he dnt talk to me. I know all i do is wrong but i cant stop myself from doing all this. On the other hand, by nature we both are loving, caring, funny , we love being with eachother. He finds my behaviour weired and i am worried because this can ruin our relationship. Help me out guys..
3 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Hmmm.. i thought you were being unreasonable but when you said that your boyfriend still talks with his exgirlfriend, i think you have the right to be jealous. It's ok if he's just talking to your common friend but not with an ex to whom he's got a past which may blossom again in the future.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
2 Jan 09
aahh..i'll make sure she won't do that..!! what else can i say..lol..:-))
@phoenix25 (1541)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Well, obviously, you must be feeling something to make you act this way. Maybe your behavior is the result of being a little too easy-going and now you feel like you can't just stand by and be silent about it anymore? First of all, it sounds like you and your boyfriend need to communicate with each other more. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's the best way to avoid the type of behavior you're exhibiting. Second, you need to figure out why you feel this way all of a sudden. Has something happened that has made you feel like you can't trust him? Why are you complaining and what are you complaining about? Are you complaining just to do it or are you consistently complaining about something in particular? If him talking to his ex is a problem with you now, just tell him that you thought you were okay with him talking to his ex, but it bothers you and you wish he wouldn't do it anymore. However, I'm concerned about why you are suddenly bothered by him talking to his ex, which he has obviously done for some time now. You need to get to the bottom of these issues and figure out what is bothering you so that you can communicate it to him and resolve the issue.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
2 Jan 09
Hi,you are right in a way, that i have always been easy going, but now since it has been an year and more i am a little more concerned. I talked to him about about everything, lack of time was the only factor, evolving everything. We earlier use to spend more time, but he has been busy lately. That is the only reason we figured out of everything. I am feeling good after talking to him about everything. Thanks a lot for help..!!
Cheers!
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Has your boyfriend been extra busy lately and not had as much time for you as he usually does? Are you under any extra stress with family, school or work? All of these things can cause you to feel needy. If you don't want to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend then talk to him about how you used to feel, how you're feeling now and how confused you are about what is causing it. Maybe he can help but, even if he doesn't have any answers, at least he knows what's going on with you. I've always believed that any problem can be worked out if you're open and honest with your partner.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
31 Dec 08
Yes he has been busy lately with his family trips and studies,due to which we dnt talk much as we use to do earlier. And ya may be you are right, i will surely talk to him once he gets free from his busy schedule.
