Does your partner ever get mad about the time you spend online?

@JenInTN (27545)
United States
December 31, 2008 5:46am CST
I know that sometimes people get mad about the time their partner spends online. Maybe they are feeling neglected or maybe they are jealous because they want to be online too. I have a laptop I use so my partner can play on the home computer.lol Makes him happy to play poker online and keeps him from being mad at me lol. What about you..has or does your partner get upset about the time you spend on the net?
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
31 Dec 08
yes sometimes he do get upset but i tell iam working and i need time to do my work he don,t always agree but thats ok i do it any way.working on line is time consuming.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
It is time consuming and there are just things that have to be done. He likes his internet time too. I figure if I don't get upset,he shouldn't either.Thanks annjilena.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
2 Jan 09
Thankfully no.She uses that time for herself to do her own things.At time I wonder whether she is happy that I am not disturbing her in her activities. Well at time she looks upset if I am too busy in Mylot for an appointment.But I always manage to get the cue somehow or other to close my pc on time to go our with her.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Heyya balasri! That's great she has some hobbies of her own to keep her occupied while your on the net. At least you pick up on her cues before she gets annoyed with you. I try to do that with mine too. I'm pretty good at knowing when to log off.lol.Thanks for reponding.
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@balasri (26546)
• India
3 Jan 09
We must always know our timings.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Jan 09
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@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
There was this one time when my husband got upset with me. I asked him to bring home my favorite snack after he got off from work. Because he knew that I would be upset if he didn't bring me that, he tried several stores to look for that particular snack. When he got home, he was expecting me to be waiting for him and my favorite snack. But what he saw, really annoyed him big time. Not only was I not waiting for him, but I was glued to the monitor, Mylotting. He told me that he brought my snack and I think, I absent-mindedly told him to just put it on the table, without even looking at him. He didn't say anything for a full minute, just stood there, looking at me. Then he just turned his back and walked away. But he didn't talk to me for a full whole day after that. After that incident, I learned my lesson. Whenever I'm online, especially Mylotting, I still make sure that I let my husband know... that I know that he still EXISTS!
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Jan 09
That's what keeps me above water.lol Acknowledging existance.It is the key to internet time and lots of it.lol As long as I don't get so into what I'm doing not to answer or look at him when he talks we're usually ok. He likes to play online too so that helps me out.Thanks for sharing your story.
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• Philippines
3 Jan 09
When it comes to using the computer, my husband and I take turns using the laptop. But most of the time, he lets me use it and he uses the old desktop. Now that the desktop is totally non-functional, we make a truce on who's going to use the laptop on that day and how many hours. He teased me that when it's my time to use the laptop, I go beyond my hours and tend to forget that it's his turn.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
3 Jan 09
Good for you that you guys agree on time spent on the net. Nothing wrong with squeezing out a couple extra minutes
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• United States
31 Dec 08
I can spend hours upon hours looking around at junk on the computer. He spends a few hours and gets bored. We each have our own laptop, so it's not a matter of one being on the computer while the other sits with nothing to do. He does get jealous though. It always seems to be the time I'm actually getting into something, like if I'm writing or whatever and he'll come over and start talking about something I have absolutely no interest in. Then I have to stop what I'm doing and try to listen, even though he can see I'm really into it. So, he'll start talking and then say, oh, were you writing? And I'll say, "yes." I have to let him finish talking though or he won't leave me alone and will keep coming back.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Mine does the same thing except he'll flip on the tv and say look at that...did you see that.lol I'm right in the middle of an article I need 450 words for and very in to it and there he comes.lol If I don't respond he'll start sighing and huffing.lol I have to stop and acknowledge him or else he's grumpy all night. Thanks for responding.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
Wow, I'm so glad you know where I'm coming from! Do you write for peanuts as well? I've done a few for associated content. I'm on helium also, but not as active. I noticed down the line you said you and your guy play poker online. Have you tried videopoker.com? My husband and I like to play the contests on there. They have them once a month or so. There are free accounts as well as "gold" memberships, but either one can participate in the contests.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I do helium and a.c. I haven't tried peanut but I'll check it out. We play poker on pokerstars. WE used to play on pogo. I really liked it because it has all kinds of games on it. I'll check those sights out though. I definately understand. Take care.
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@Ravenladyj (22919)
• United States
31 Dec 08
No not at all and if my husband DID ever get mad I'd just point and laugh at him...I dont neglect my housework, cooking, cleaning, the kids etc etc AND since I dont work anymore and dont go anywhere (we live in the country, I dont drive etc) he knows that my online time is my social and entertainment time and wouldnt even think about stressing me over it..
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@Ravenladyj (22919)
• United States
31 Dec 08
plus my using the computer all the time isnt a factor either since I have a laptop and a regular computer both internet access, he has a computer with internet and the kids have one with internet as well so really he has no reason to even think about nattering about it
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Hi ravenladyj...I'm glad your husband doesn't give you a hard time. I'm the same way. Everything gets taken care of before I sit down for my time. Everyone needs their own time to relax and do what they want to do. I figure if I don't give him a hard time..he shouldn't give me one either.Thanks for responding
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@eshwarik (180)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Yes, he does get mad most of the time that I am online which pays 2C.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Well....if it pays..lol Thanks for responding
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@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
My husband never got mad at me whenever I spend time on line.Because I know my limitations.I don't go overtime.When it's time to sleep I stop.I can open as early as I can too.He understand always especially when I can't sleep at night.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hi Erssyl. Your husband sounds very understanding. It's also important to know your limitations. Thanks for the response.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Yes all the time, I am always online doing research and checking mail and playing games i tend to skip on my chores, bad me..
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hi fit4lifein07! If I neglected my chores mine would be mad all the time too.lol I try to get everything finished before hopping online that way he has less a reson to be upset.lol So far so good.He just gets a little grumpy sometimes.Thanks for responding.
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@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
1 Jan 09
Nope he doesn't get mad about the amount that I'm online as long as the housework doesn't get too far behind. Plus him and I play an online game together its called World of Warcraft. But I always put my family first, housework then the internet. So that's why he doesn't get mad at me because he knows I'll always keep that order.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hi crysi23..That's my motto.As long as the housework gets done and everything is in order there shouldn't be any problems.Thanks for responding.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
1 Jan 09
No he don't get mad when I'm on the computer. He really has no room to talk if he did because he is on it just as much as I am. We usually take our turns . Some times I do get annoyed when he is on it because when he is on it he don't pay attention to anything around him. Even when I am talking to him he don't answer me. When I am on it I am still aware of what is going on around me and when he asks me a question or is telling me something I am still paying attention to him. He is more important than what I am doing on the computer.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Heyya messageme! I know what you mean. I try to be attentive while I'm on the net too. If not,that's when he gets annoyed. As long as I answer him he's usually ok.Thanks for thr response.
@stormygrl (762)
• United States
1 Jan 09
We had to set up the older computer that's not on the internet to play card games so he'd quit whining about it.Usually I'd have to wait for one of the kids to get off the computer but not so much now.So now he doesn't whine as much but when we divorce he may not get to take it with him..
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hi stormygrl. I hate he gives you a hard time about your time on tne net. It's tough if you really enjoy doing something and your partner doesn't support you. At least it's not as bad as it was now that you got him some games. Thanks for the response.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
1 Jan 09
My wife and I spend equal amounts of time online and off line. She mostly spends it online when I'm at work. I usually spend it online after the kids have gone to bed or when I am off on a vacation from my job, not necessarily a vacation as in traveling anywhere. Normally though, when we do travel anywhere, my wife brings her laptop so we can equally share time online an off line. I could see if the time that I spent online was a detriment to our relationship, then I'd say I'd have to choose. In any event, I'd choose my wife of course, no other relationship could be better than the one I have with her, outside of my relationship with my heavenly father of course.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Yes..if asked to choose..i would definately have to choose my partner. I hope it never comes to that because as of now he just gets annoyed. I'm glad you have such a close relationship with your wife. Thanks for responding.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I usually don't spend time online when my husband is home. I'd rather spend the time with him. We usually spend time talking, playing golf, doing outside activities together or maybe watching a movie. He hasn't been replaced by the computer, yet! LOL! Rhonda
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Jan 09
Some people don't get online when their partner is home. My partner is always home right now so I can;t avoid it. In the summer I am on a lot less though because we do run around alot. Thanks for sharing joerhonda.
@xlinzixx (511)
31 Dec 08
my partener rarely gets upset about the amount of time i spend online,but thats because i've cut it down alot im lucky if im online for more than two hours a day at the moment im that busy lol.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Jan 09
That's not alot at all. I get on and off after work.I'm not on it for a long time at once but if you add it together,it's probably more than two hours.Thanks for the response.
@savypat (20244)
• United States
31 Dec 08
He only gets upset when he has something he wants to work on and I'm using the computer. I tell him we need two but there are no funds for this. Maybe I'll start asking for donations.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Heyya savypat..I just got mine a few months ago and I was the one always waiting for a turn. I got my laptop off ebay for $100.00. I paid $20 for shipping and handeling.I didn't think I would win it but I lucked out and bid at the end of an auction. Thanks for the response.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
31 Dec 08
not really, she get on the deck top and i get on my laptop. but sometime she might want me to watch a movie with her and i don't want too then she might.
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
That's good. My b/f don't all out raise the roof but I can tell when he's annoyed with me.Thanks for responding.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 08
Hi Jen, my husband has his laptop, and I have my desktop. I spend a lot of time online, maybe even more than him. I think he feels a bit annoyed that I pay more attention to the PC than him; but well, he consoles himself by getting into online games.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Heyya lazeebee! My b/f plays poker online all the time. I have my laptop snuggled in bed. He does get annoyed but he to has his online games. Thanks for responding.
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@jesbellaine (4140)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
Hi There! When he was here, he does not have any issue in me getting online since we were always together when we go to Internet café to surf the internet. I go online when watching streaming movies or videos and he knows that. He never really get bothered since he knew that I will be just checking out my Friendster and multiply account or download some music and games… for the computer and my phone. Lolz… Goodluck! Thanks for the discussion! Happy New Year and Happy HOlidays! Cheers!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Me and my partner play poker games online at the same time and have alot of fun doing it. I can hear him fussing when I win a big hand and take his chips.lol.But he does get irritated with me if I'm on it and he's bored. He's not concerned at what I'm doing on there..it's the time I spend he gets grumpy about.Thanks for the response!
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• China
1 Jan 09
ha!good question.i dont think of this problem before,just a moment ago i ask my bf about this question and he told me if we only have one lap in our home,he will let me use it.happy to hear that,thanks for your discussion,wish you good luck and happy new year!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Jan 09
lol..At least you know you'll have plenty of computer time if you want it.Sounds like your husband is a pretty easy going guy.Thanks for responding.
• China
1 Jan 09
what does the "lol" mean?i always see some people use it,what is it mean?
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
1 Jan 09
laugh out loud
@dpk262006 (56727)
• Delhi, India
2 Jan 09
You've asked a very interesting question. My answer to your question is in 'affirmative'. My better half does not like me that I should be on-line for more than 10-15 mintues, while at home. You may be right that she might feel jealous or neglected. She has no interest in the social networkind sites such as Mylot etc., so it is difficult to make her understnad about these sites. The pleasure and knowledge which I gain and I enjoy, while working on mylot etc. can only be felt and enjoyed by me. Excellent Post!
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@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Thank you dpk..I thought there might be some kindred spirits out there where this was concerned.lol. If she doesn't understand it can make it harder. My partners online interests are different than mine too. Thanks for responding.
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@dpk262006 (56727)
• Delhi, India
2 Jan 09
Thanks for 'understanding' me and my position.