She stop texting me... BUT

@Jhordie (5116)
Philippines
December 31, 2008 9:52am CST
Just a few hours ago... She left a message for me in my Friendster account saying: "Happy New Year. I know you are happy were you at right now. Take care always and I do miss you" I did response to her latest text message with a simple "Thanks for your concern" but I don't want to text her anymore. What should be the BEST REPSONSE in this kind of message from an EX who seems to be so BOTHERSOME in her EX boyfriend which is ME. Ughhh... Wish she'll stop and I do not want her doing the same thing til next year. I want to start a NEW CHAPTER of my life without her TOTALLY! How can I do that?! If she keeps on coming back... Sigh...Ughhh... PLS HELP! Its a NEW YEAR suppose to be but some OLD things keeps on rising from its grave.
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24 responses
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
Happy New Year Jhordie! What you and your ex need is a closure. Do you think ignoring her will just make her disappear? Do you want her totally out of your life or are you just over re-acting? May I ask what happened between the two of you? Anyways, that's not really important anymore because that's the past already. What ever happened between the two of you, may it be bad or worse, both of you should talk about it. Talk with her, dude. Do you still want her to be your friend? You know, just a friend. A friend without malice or guilt is much better than pretending she's out of your life. I think you're pretending. Why the hurt feelings? Whoever fault it is we should not carry it as a burden for the rest of our lives. Communicate dude. Pour out what's in you. It will just eat up on you if you don't release it. If you both want out, talk with each other. Come clean with it. It is much wiser to get over with each other without guilt feelings. And it is much, much better bumping with her in the future with a smile in both your lips than a frown.
@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
Hey... You sound so rude at first... but I still read it ALL and realize something. That was the nicest respond I've got here and you actually gave me the courage to speak up with her and tell her how I feel. Thank you so much... but please try to read my other discussions about her. And you'll see why I do react this way. Hope you'll understand why. but STILL...THANKS for that WONDERFUL ADVICE!
@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I would BE MORE happy to do that... but can I ask you a favor? Please read my other discussions about her... especially the one entitled MY LOVE STORY and NOW KWOW THE REASON WHY SHE SAID! I would love to read your response on those two topics as well... I am not instructing you or whatsoever but I am begging you so that YOU'LL UNDERSTAND WHY I AM SO HURT AND REALLY WANT HER OUT OF MY LIFE. To prove that I really like your response...even if you won't ask for it... I will definitely MAKE YOU the BR here. Thanks again... looking forward reading your future responses on my other discussions. GOD BLESS
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Thanks a lot Jhordie! I really appreciate it! About those other topics you mentioned, I will search for it and I will be most happy to read and respond to it. Thanks again for making my response the "best response" for this discussion.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
Do you think anything will make her stop? She's obviously trying to give you a chance to get back into her life. Why not just tell her that, for the new year, you're planning not to awaken sleeping dogs, so she'll have to stop contacting you. It's hard, but necessary. Good luck, and have a wonderful 2009!
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
I will try that too... maybe a short pep talk would help... We would be seeing each other in one of our church activity this coming Jan 2... and by then, I'll try to settle the things ONCE AND FOR ALL! Thanks my mentor
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• United States
31 Dec 08
You know, if it doesn't work, ignoring her is about all you can do, especially if you see each other at least occasionally at church.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
I guess so... I do hope it will work though. SIGH
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
ooopss.. same story to mine.. i really feel like i'm on the side of the girl.. well, my x will not respond to all my texts, emails, calls, even gifts.. being ignored made me realize to stop hoping for someone i love so much.. so for you Jhordie, please ignore her.. though its painful to our side then but it helps a lot. Happy New Year!!!!!!!!!
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
Thanks for UNDERSTANDING me... if there's greater word than THANKS... I will use it. :) Gracias
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
Buenas Dias... How are you feeling tonight? Wish u will have peace for both of you. Rock one always Jhordie:) And ohws, I'd like to know if your into article writing??? Coz i'm looking for...
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
You should be kind and considerate to her. Become her friend. I think she still loves you and you will be hurting her feelings more if you will just ignore her. Teach her how to forget you slowly just to ease the pain. But remember..she is hurting...just be gentle with her...ok.
• Goose Creek, South Carolina
2 Jan 09
I agree. On the upside, maybe this was a text to tell you that she is ready to stop hurting and start healing - which means she'll stop contacting you on her own. I can see how it might be on her side, because I'm on her side myself. I'm still healing from a relationship gone sour over 3 years ago, and I've made a commitment to not contacting him unless I need some information from him or if he contacts me (against all odds). So maybe your ex is making that same commitment. It's a big step for her towards healing, so if she does contact you still, be a friend for her, because it will probably hurt for a long time. Believe it or not, contact can help her heal.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I respect BOTH of your opinions... And I do appreciate your concern for her. I am glad to meet nice people like you TWO who tried to look not just on my perspective but IN HERS too. Thanks again
@KrauseHome (36682)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Sounds like somehow you need to get the point across to her to Quit Texting you, calling you, Emailing you and leaving messages for you on any of your sites you are on. On most sites, and your Cell Phone there are ways to Block her, so if you have too, you might have too. Just wonder why if you have really shared your feelings with her, why she is not wanting to leave you alone? She needs to learn to move on so you can as well.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
We BOTH need to move on... I just hope she REALIZE that! I just hope...sigh
@salonga (27820)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Hi Jhordie! I'm back after my long vacation. Regarding your query, I think you have to move on. If she is greeting you that way then I believe your simple response of "Thank you for your concern" is good enough. You need not add up anything. Just reply casually as if she is just a common friend. Now if you don't feel like replying back that would depend on you. If you think she is bothering you with that kind of messages then delete her in your Friendster account. I know your feelings my dear. What she did to you is really painful so you have all the reasons to totally forget everything about her. If she keeps coming back and you are true to your words that you want to start a real new chapter in your life without her then go and do all the necessary options. The options are readily available. All you have to do is choose those options. I already mentioned one: "Delete her". There are many more and I know you know what are those. Happy New Year!
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Just a sort of good news... she have lessen her text messages... I just hope itll stop. :) Thanks for that great advice which I am actually planning to do. Thanks for the support most of all. :)
@shenqixu (130)
• China
5 Jan 09
YOU must still have feeling for her. I Know it is not easy for u to forget her competely, after all you and she have had beautiful time before.NO MATTER WHOSE WRONG, HERS OR YOURS..YOU do not love her again and want her leave your life for ever.Have a chat presently,just tell her that you do not love her and want a new charpter without her.it is fair for her...it is also right for you to do like that...
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I do like your advice here... I guess we could chat sometime. thanks for letting me know that way which I actually did not realize. Thanks again
@shenqixu (130)
• China
5 Jan 09
I know you must still have feelings for her, or you would not respond her. it is difficult forget her completly, after all you and she have spend beautiful time before. Now that you do not love her now, whether his wrong or yours. Just tell her, you do not love her, please leave me now and you will find your blessdness.i bless you!!! let you and i have a new charpter respectively!!
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Please tell me HOW TO HAVE the GUTS to say that! Ughhh... so hard NOT to HURT her! I just hope I could make it a less hurting for her. :(
• United States
3 Jan 09
Don't text her back. After enough times of getting nothing back from you, she will probably give up and leave you alone.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I wish IT WILL be like that... 4 days without text or message... i guess its a good sign... wait... its 5 days already! YAHOO!
@roniroxas (10568)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
hahaha this has been a buden for you for almost a month now .... or just weeks. dont response. just end it that way. if you will respond to that then you will start another thread that you yourself will have a difficult time on cutting it. just walk away. dont message her back. thats it. it is like telling her its over. its like telling her i wont fall for your thricks.... but of course in a silent way.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I love my friends here SO MUCH that I could HUG you all.(if you are just near me) THANKS for the UNDERSTANDING...LOVE... and SUPPORT! May God bless YOU all. :)
@wildplace (154)
• Germany
1 Jan 09
Just stop answering her messages. This is the only way to get her off.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I just did that... since the 31st of last month of LAST YEAR! :) And I will continue to do that
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
Bata, if you really want to move on, then stop responding to her text. ignore things about her. or just simply tell her the truth.. though its hard, i think its the only way for her to realize that you dont want her in your life. the easiest way is the hardest.. Happy new year to you and your family!
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
Nice call there... BATA?! I'm not A CHILD anymore but I guess I sound so childish.. sorry. But thanks for the wake-up call. I will agree with you specially your 2nd to the last line... the EASIEST way is the HARDEST! Ughh... Thanks for your sage advice PO! :)
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I think that the best thing for you to do is to tell her straight out that you do not think that a relationship will work out with her again, and that remaining friends would just be too awkward. Try to cut it off, but not harshly.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I wish I have the GUTS to do it... Ugghh... so difficult for me. Sorry but I really do feel like that
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
1 Jan 09
Just don't text her back. Ignore that text. If you're to text her back, being quite desperate (or that's how i see it), she might think that there is some hope in reviving that fire of love. So just ignore it and go on with your life.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I will definitely DO that... I did NOT response to it ANYMORE. Thanks
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
Sort of the same thing happened to me a few months ago but the only difference is that I'm the girl.Even if he already knew that I'm happy with my guy right now,it's so obvious that he still likes me until now.I still have little feelings for him but I know tht I have to forget about it so what I did was post a blog in multiply saying that I'm already happy and that he should allow me to move on now.We're still friends now but I ignore him even if I see him online in ym.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
WAY to GO! I wish she have the same MINDSET as well. Sigh... I am so SORRY for her
@cbreeze (1206)
• United States
1 Jan 09
stop engaging her in any type of communication. Every time you do, it gives her the fuel she needs to stay a part of your life. It may seem rude or mean, but if your serious about starting a new chapter, then you need to close the last chapter for good.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I will surely CLOSE that one... and keep it inside a VAULT locked for eternity. LOL just kidding. :) Thanks for the response here and for the support MOST OF ALL
@mjoy07 (202)
• Philippines
1 Jan 09
well, if you really don't want to have any communication with her anymore, just simply don't reply to any of her messages ever. It's one way of telling her that you don't want to be bothered by her anymore. One way of forgetting someone on the past is having a NO communication at all.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
Having said that... I SHOULD SAY... I should DO THAT! Thanks
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
31 Dec 08
Well, you could always change your phone number, Jhordie. I know it would be very inconvenient, but she would get the message. Doesn't your phone have a 'Block Caller' feature? If you contact your provider, they can probably arrange to stop her number calling you. Otherwise, you could text her back and ask her to please stop texting, as you'd rather start your new life with some peace and quiet.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
I will try that too... I hope they have that kind of feature. THANKS
@angelface23 (2497)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Yeah you really need to just stop responding or get a new phone number. You can probably block her from friendster. If you don't want her to feel like you're giving her the cold shoulder to be mean just send her one last message and tell her you need to move on and you don't want to talk to her anymore.
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
I might be doing that if she will send another message... I just hope she'll notice that I do not want to respond in any of her messages for me.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
31 Dec 08
Maybe she just wants to send u a simple greeting ^_^ For your side, just take it as a friendly greeting from her.. IF u really wanna make her step back, dun respond to her msgs immediately.. ALways wait till after certain time b4 u reply, so that she wont feel that she's still your top priority ^_^ Overtime, she will then realise both of u are just frenz and there's nothing more.. Though it's gonna hurt her, but that's the only solution.. Let her know her status in u, and she will be able to let go much more easily ^_^
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@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
I see... I clearly see that now... THANKS to my kuyaKUN! God bless you my kuya
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