I met my boyfriend's ex yesterday...:-//
@blackeyedpeas (445)
India
January 2, 2009 12:14am CST
My boyfriend was at old friends reunion yesterday and his ex was also there. They shared a good relationship before and now they are good friends. Yesterday i got a chance to meet her and her little sister. They both were good to me and behaved really rude and weired, i didnt spoke to them much. It was really bad, my boyfriend felt bad because of what i did. He understood i was jealous and a little upset as well. I apologized to my boyfriend for my behaviour and now i am feeling really bad because i met her for the first time and i was bad. What should i do now?
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12 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
I told you, Ex are just nothing but trouble, at least most of the time. She just blurs your boyfriends faithfulness to you. Hopefully not, but sooner or later you'll find yourself in deeper trouble. I guess you should tell your boyfriend to give you a little respect and peace of mind by trying not to be too close with his ex. Exercise your authority because you're the legal girlfriend.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
3 Jan 09
hey, i dont have anny problems if he talks to her, but i wil surely talk about everything to him and make him understand how i feel and not to get too close to her.
@magnifico19 (46)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 09
we must always keep a good relations with all people inlude our ex
@monkeykingaround (896)
• United States
3 Jan 09
You should apologize to her. I know it's hard to said you're sorry. BUT you have to do it. If you don't, he will be mad and probably will be on her side. It doesn't matter if you mean it or not, you have to or ELSE you will lose him. You don't want for him to see you are that type of person do you?
I hate EXes.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
3 Jan 09
hey, i apologized to her and it feels good though i didnt mean it..lol..He is happy that i apologized for my behaviour.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 09
The question is why did you feel insecured at meeting your boyfriend ex. You shouldn't seeing that you are the person who is now in his life. Apologies to him and let him know exactly what you did feel. Sometimes insecurity makes one does things without really thinking. Always remember that when one forms friendship inside of a relationship when the relationship is over that friendship is this there.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
3 Jan 09
hey thanks, that was really good. Even i think, being a friend with her is fine. I should respect their friendhip and should behave normally..:-))
@gorjuzliz10 (201)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
it really is hard to be nice to your partner's ex, specially when you know that they have shared something special, but i think there is no reason for you to be jealous anymore. because if they still like each other, they could have gotten back together looong time ago. how you reacted was normal and it is good that you apologized to your boyfriend and i am sure that he understands your reason for acting that way.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
2 Jan 09
Thanks for advice. I'll try to be react normal when it comes to meeting his ex..!!lol..
Happy New Year..:-)
@arwenangel (184)
• Morocco
2 Jan 09
i think you still love your Boyfriend :p it's normal hunny to act like
this :) if i were you i will just do the same
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
3 Jan 09
I do love him, thanks for concern, even i think i was normal:-))
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
3 Jan 09
i dont have any problem if he go on renuions and all, but meeting his ex was really a torture..
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Well, from the sound of it since the Ex-girlfriend was not wanting to be too nice to you, then she was probably the one who was jealous for some reason, and not wanting to let go. If you at least tried to befriend this person, and she snubbed you, then you at least tried, and if your boyfriend feels as if you at least tried then that is OK. You are with him now, so that is all that really should matter as well.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
3 Jan 09
If they are rude to you then you have all the right to be rude to them. If they are treating you good then that's the time you should treat them good as well. You don't need to be really perky and extra nice to them because you are not related anyway, being civil is fine.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Jan 09
You should contact her and appologize for your behavior. Lower your pride and be honest as you were here and tell her that you were just jealous and realize that you were wrong. It was an awkward moment for you. If I were her, I'd understand and would appreciate the appology.
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
2 Jan 09
Thanks! I asked my boyfriend to make me met her again and so that i can apologize to her. Thanks for the help..!!
Happy new year..
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Something you can do is maybe suggest a double date with her and her boyfriend. That shows that you willing to be friends and then maybe apologize to her for your behavior.
@pulangpluma (334)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
I think you ought to talk to her and apologize for being rude. Your bf need not be around. You can do that on your own time.
