Does Organized Religion cause Mental Meltdown?

United States
January 2, 2009 7:20am CST
Have you seen it? There they are the Mother and Father frazzled the children doing what children do and there is no family bond, no love or direction they are not united. The example is a dysfunctional family highly volatile what caused the dysfunction? Someone is poor, Someone is jealous, Someone is exhausted, Someone lacks empathy, Someone has a bad idea, Someone chooses to yell, Someone is over burdened, Someone is short tempered, Someone is emotionally drained, Someone has nothing nice to say, Someone claims to Love GOD and is full of hatred. What is the picture that you get?
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@derek_a (10874)
2 Jan 09
I believe that we all have to find what is right for ourselves. For some people this may be organised religion, for others is may be something else. I guess it is all about what you are ready for. I am a Zen practitioner and have realised myself, without using organized religion that it is better to help other and have more compassion. :-)Derek
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• United States
2 Jan 09
See my post above to Ravnjlady #1, Would you still agree that people should be involved in organized religion, or does organized religion become exclusive and a catalyst for suffering? What does suffering lead to?
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• United States
2 Jan 09
It is a pleasure to talk with you Derek, Yes, you are right about your personal path being on the right path and that organized religion does create a desire and that desire causes harm to others, or do the others cause harm to themselves? I'm not trying to convince you of anything that you do not already know and believe, you brought up some very tolerant points that are quite intolerant. How can you say that it is okay for some but not for all? Have you ever seen that type of logic used anywhere else for any other agenda? In short, we have to look at the situation from a new angle we have to have new eyes to see what the real problem is. First question to ask is have we caused anyone to suffer? Not you or I but the system in general, the system being religion and politics... Now if you care to continue to have this conversation I will come back and add to the discussion as long as you are willing to keep up your end of the discussion. We can agree on everything and still have a lot to talk about. We can find points where we disagree and try to win each other over to our way of thinking. I'm in... Cheers and Happy New Year, Happy MyLotting :) Sincerely, Gary
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@derek_a (10874)
2 Jan 09
It is a pleasure talking to you too Gary... These are my thoughts that have come up for me during my 30+ years as a Zen practitioner. They are not written in stone of course, but I am willing to share them. Other readers just need to see what they are ready to see and reject what is not true for them. As Zen doesn't preach or change beliefs. ***do the others cause harm to themselves? We are all responsible for our own experiences. We create our lives and our responses to stimuli and people that come into our lives. ***How can you say that it is okay for some but not for all? In Zen we see the relative (ying-yang) world as illusion, but an illusion that we are here to grow through and realise our own "one-ness" - that nothing is really separate. Therefore what I say may not make a geat deal of sense... We need to become enlightened and whenever we judge another, we are drawn back into a dualistic world. When we realise that the self and other is an illusion, we don't need to judge. We cannot judge anything if we are not separate from it. Therefore when I learn of a person who is heavilly into organised religion, I will let him/her be. They may have to become very obsessive before they realise they are obsessive. Once they realise they are obsessive, they have a choice to quit being that way or stay the same. They usually opt to quit. ***Have you ever seen that type of logic used anywhere else for any other agenda? I have seen a lot logic, but Zen is not logic. It recognises "at-one-ness" and therefore cannot be analysed. If we keep looking at logic [with awareness] logic disappears as all argument and debate does so. ***In short, we have to look at the situation from a new angle we have to have new eyes to see what the real problem is. Yes, we just look at and witness the situation without attempting to make logic or analyse. We can merely share our insights with those who ask. ***First question to ask is have we caused anyone to suffer? That to me is the paradox, like the Zen precept of not killing. How do you do that? Zen doesn't specify killing anything specific. It could be killing time, killing thought, killing an insect you accidently step on. The precepts are almost impossible to keep 100%, but by aspiring to keep them, we develop a higher state of awareness of where are and who we are. ***Now if you care to continue to have this conversation I will come back and add to the discussion as long as you are willing to keep up your end of the discussion. Yes, I am more than willing :-) Please bear in mind that if I disappear for several hours, I am in the UK and may have logged off for the day. :-) ***We can find points where we disagree and try to win each other over to our way of thinking. I will just share my thoughts, as I say, I don't try and win anybody over to my way of thinking. By sharing my thoughts though, another paradox occurs and I learn even more of what lies at deeper and deeper levels of consciousness. Answering questions exposes quite a lot, and contemplationg exposes even more. :-) Happy New Year to you too Derek
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@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
6 Jan 09
The picture I'm getting is, someone doesn't know a thing about God. Statistics have shown that people who are religious are happier and better rounded people.
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• United States
7 Jan 09
Religious, or Spiritual? Independent or Organized?
• United States
7 Jan 09
You are referring to those people of Organized religion are supposed to be happier and better rounded. Have you been in any structured religious services lately, the people on whole are not looking very happy... Look around and really look at the faces, maybe about 10% are happy the other 90% look like they are forced to do something other than what they really want to do, their depression slows down their metabolism and yeah! A lot of them are very well rounded, very rounded in deed... ;)
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
7 Jan 09
I heard religious.
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@nannacroc (4049)
2 Jan 09
Organised religion has always caused more problems than it solved. It divides the people of the world into categories and they use their god as an excuse not to be loving towards their fellow man. I'd best stop now as I get annoyed about religions.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Heeheeeheee, Yep that is not funny but I soooo, understand what you mean...
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• United States
10 Jan 09
Picketing is not a bad idea, I've thought of that often, I'd like to peaceably assemble at the entrance of the driveway to speak truth to the congregation that has no clue of what the truth really is. The harm that I and my family have suffered as they gossiped behind my back instead of teaching the healing qualities that they so boldly propound as a profession to their faith. Who can hold a leadership of a church accountable for their actions? Only a church or government can discipline the actions of such an entity a body of flawed beliefs. I was prosecuted and convicted with out a defense to false accusations with out proper time to prepare.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Yes, I totally agree with this! For anybody who knows me, you KNOW how I feel about people who use religion as an excuse - for anything! I think it is a good REASON as long as you are not blatantly disrespecting other people - but as an EXCUSE? No way. It's a good thing if you are doing good with it, doing something positive. If you're using it to excuse any horrific behavior, tearing someone down, discrediting someone, breaking laws, picketing, killing people, that's like dragging it right through the mud.
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• United States
3 Jan 09
A mental meltdown is what I see. It doesn't surprise me. The Catholic church nearly made me lose my sanity. My whole family was all about church and prayer, but they were more dysfunctional than the family down the street. My dad was Agnostic (like I am) and my mother was a liberal Catholic (she really has no clue how close to a Theist or an Agnostic she really is). My grandmother was Catholic to a T, but her daughters all turned out to have some psychological issues because of my grandmother and my drunken grandfather (he was drunk and sometimes abusive). My mother has a problem with spending too much money and her sister is always a nervous wreak (which is why she nearly miscarried my cousin and the reason why she did miscarry the last two children she wanted to have). When I left the church, I felt good, a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. I could make my own choices and do what my heart tells me, not what the church tells me is right.
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• United States
3 Jan 09
Your story is not unique, The line of a song song that just popped into my mind, "You are one of my kind" Pleased to meet you and thank you for sharing...
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I belong to this same group. I think personal faith is a GREAT thing, and if I ever find myself looking for it, cool but as far as all the church-goers, I'm not buying.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
2 Jan 09
I think organized religion causes many negative things including mental issues.."meltdowns" though, I dunno but plenty of negative issues that cut it close without a doubt...
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Many negative issues that cut it close, I think many issues are created and could be cut... What is worse is when the government and the "Professionals" instead of helping hurt families that are suffering from such curses. Here is the deal, if you get professional involvement that will cost you more time and money, what are some of the problems that created the dysfunction? Exhaustion, a lack of energy, time and money... Let's add a bigger burden on over burdened families... How does organized religion help? It only compounds the problems, mixing the wealthy with the poor only exacerbates the problem because the poor are already doing all that they can do to survive with no help and nothing to live on. Then make the poor live by the rules established for the elite and you only compound the problem yet again. Are you ready to expand your thoughts?
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2 Jan 09
Someone is in trouble... Probably the kids
• United States
2 Jan 09
We are all children.
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@nannacroc (4049)
2 Jan 09
I forgot to mention that our family is totally dysfunctional, non-religious and very, very loving. That'll do for me.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
There are many ways that this line could be interpreted, I'll take the high road and identify the fact that you show empathy and wisdom with Love that is a very positive attribute that I see. So being part of a non-conforming dysfunction, the path you are on could lead you to better things beyond all human understanding. Eternal Peace is a Blessing, As for the low road? Why go there?
• United States
10 Jan 09
My lemonade needs more sugar so that it is not bitter... yeah, I know what you mean...
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
8 Jan 09
LOL! My LIFE is sometimes dysfunctional but very passionate and loving and full of people and things that are both passionate and loving. My life is a gift, I make the most of it as much as I can. Dysfunction exists. It doesn't have to ruin your life. To make it a cliche - shiit happens. Go make some lemonade, know what I mean?
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
2 Jan 09
It is not about organized religion. It is against hypocrites. You are assuming that everyone who attends a Roman Catholic, Presbyterian, Reformed, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Pentacostal, etc. church are all hypocrites and all who go out in the field and sit down under a tree, all who stay at home and listen to Benny Hinn or other TV evangelists are pure devoted children of God? Wrong. Oh and hate - does that person hate evil or hate good. If a person is full of hatred against the evil that men do (like against Hitler) does that mean that the person should now love evil? These someones are infected with original sin. All men and woman have these tendencies. It is only by God entering their hearts through the preaching of the Word that Christ can enter their hearts and get them to fight against their evil nature. Would you now deny them this opportunity?
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hi Suspenseful, You wrote: It is not about organized religion. It is against hypocrites. You are assuming that everyone who attends a Roman Catholic, Presbyterian, Reformed, Lutheran, Episcopalian, Pentacostal, etc. church are all hypocrites and all who go out in the field and sit down under a tree, all who stay at home and listen to Benny Hinn or other TV evangelists are pure devoted children of God? Wrong. My reply: You missed a few, the Mosques of the Islam faith, the teachings of the Rabbis in the Temples of Israel, where ever they gather together to infect people to war against the evils inside the hearts of other members of society... You could go further, the leaders of gangs are also preachers of a religion, The leaders of movements that incite violence, terrorism, acts of torture, these are all based on a religious ideology that is built upon a false foundation. You also wrote: Oh and hate - does that person hate evil or hate good. If a person is full of hatred against the evil that men do (like against Hitler) does that mean that the person should now love evil? I reply: Wasn't Hitler a religious zealot full of religiosity? The people were sheeple following Hitler who built a faith upon a false foundation. I believe it was right to stop the advancement of the Fabricated Ideology of Hitler, but we should not have stopped there... Don't you agree? You wrote: These someones are infected with original sin. --If you say so, that is your belief. All men and woman have these tendencies. -- Please expand on this thought. It is only by God entering their hearts through the preaching of the Word that Christ can enter their hearts and get them to fight against their evil nature. -- What are the fruits of this practice that you speak of? Please show me some evidence of how this works. Would you now deny them this opportunity? -- I would not be against an institution that will work for the benefit of mankind, but I see no proof of a benefit to our civilization as the framework has been currently constructed. An opportunity is a gift that keeps giving, what I see is a symbol of destruction, how can you call bad good and be a witness instead of actively involved, this does not bring about justice, what is seen is corruption. Remember one thing, GOD is Love To define the Love of GOD remember GOD Loves Justice, if there is no justice there is no love and the love of GOD can not be found.
• Philippines
4 Jan 09
i see life is a picture of lies somehow..like when you mention that one is portraying that he loves God but is full of hatred in his heart..that is just so true, i know lots of them going to church acting so Godly but when they act they act nothing like what their portraying..
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• United States
4 Jan 09
You see that also? I knew you would, hey' check out my latest entry you might find it thought provoking for sure. Thanks for the reply, Peace to you and yours, Happy MyLotting and all of that, Sincerely, Gary
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Hmmm. I will say that if organized religion is not your scene, and you don't 'feel it', then if you're involved you are just lying to yourself, a hypocrite. I have no use for hypocrites, never have, never will. If religion is integral to your life and it's a personal and faith oriented thing, then I suppose it is right but if you are only going through the motions, involved because someone told you to, you think you 'should', or any other outside reason, I think it's a bad thing, a crutch. It's like having a lover or a spouse you are not actually IN LOVE with, a sham. Nothing makes me more disillusioned and angry than something that is a pretense on display to fool others. I don't see the point. Honestly, there is dysfunction everywhere, I can't say what's to blame. We are imperfect creatures, that's just how we are. I don't think we'd all be here on earth if we were perfect, know what I mean? Yes, people are poor, jealous, exhausted, angry - but don't forget there are also people who take the high road, people who make a difference, people who smile when their hearts are breaking. I think the greater question is what motivates the people who don't cave to the pressure to act despicable, the people who don't give up, and the ones who try not to hate? It isn't always religion that fixes things. I believe a lot of people need a large infusion of self confidence because too many people are victims and don't need to be.
• United States
10 Jan 09
Hi Mommyboo, You really worked this discussion over and at times I was having a hard time trying to figure out if you were talking to me or to the person and their point of view... I was seeing dual trains of thoughts, I thought at times you were in agreement with me and conflicted by the end of your thought, did I read that right? I would say I read that in several of your comments a duality of reply. I was looking for your post of 2 minutes ago, I found a couple that were 10 hours ago and this one yesterday, so here I parked this reply... It should be easy for you to find and we can continue a bit of a discussion, because you have given me cause to ponder your position. I know very little about you, from what I see you are not involved in any organized religion is that correct? I am no longer affiliated with any other organized religion after getting excommunicated and having my personal property damaged they covered up the lies that had hurt me severely and ended up splitting up my family, that makes the church leaders hypocrites, that I agree, I think you also have agreed to that. There was plenty to read, and after reading the post by Derek you ended with letting go, I cringe every time I read those words you have to learn to let go. It makes me cringe because I feel that a person really doesn't understand what I hold on to is nothing, what I am doing is trying to correct the problem by being strong and doing all that I can with pen and paper. The media is next, but I have to be patient before reaching out I have to allow for a settlement to be obtained. This format while very public is not nearly as public as the 6' O'clock news. Is there a story here? So I answered two questions you asked that I could see jumping right out at me, am I involved in organized religion, no I am not, do I know what religion is? Yes, I do and I know the bible very well, thank you... Also I have nothing to let go of but at the same time I seek to make right the wrongs that have been committed against me, not a physical object to hold onto other than the paperwork involved in processing a complaint. Is there anything else you would like to know?
• United States
10 Jan 09
I put a comment also on the thread started by cooler 1968 above... I was hoping that you would have read and commented on this page also, I'm glad that you did. Thank You... :)
• Lubbock, Texas
3 Jan 09
I'm not against organized religion per se. Some people find comfort in going to church, socializing with like-minded people and receiving emotional support from them. Others listen to the preacher, try to live their lives as he tells them, find that they fall short and this leads to the meltdown. It seems that organized religion focuses on the teachings of the church rather than their Holy Book, whether it be the Bible or whatever. A person who is spiritual, rather than religious, knows the creator personally, walks with the creator daily, stumbles, is lifted up by the spirit and goes on, knowing that stumbling is not failure or damnation. This kind of person may be look on by the "average" people as a little strange, but they cope with life much better than those who try to be what another human tells them they should be. Unfortunately the organized religions today say the words "know your saviour personally" but the reject the means of getting to know Him i.e. meditation. They teach people to "pray", but not to be still and just know I AM. That is the key to true spirituality. Religion is following rules. Spirituality is walking with God.
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• United States
3 Jan 09
Very Zen of you, I hope you have read the reply by Derek... Read and know, There are two paths, choose the right path and everything will work out in the end.
@neuronic (242)
• Japan
3 Jan 09
There are no guidelines that can help anyone if they're not about to respect and follow them. Even if someone has problem with their own personality it's usually because they chose to be this way. What I've learned in my life, that people who have a lot of problems will suddenly start saying some metaphysical stuff when they're talking about themselves. If you cannot be noble and honest to yourself, then nothing else can save you. Religion, sects, whatnot, it doesn't matter, it's up to people. Once they are under influence of one religion and if they're breaking the very foundations of it, it's just like spitting to your own face. Ironically.
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• United States
3 Jan 09
It sounds to me like what you witnessed was people being brainwashed to look for the terrorist never realizing the person that they were spitting at was in fact their own reflection in a mirror. Yep, I noticed that also... So have you seen any pictures in the words? Maybe the presentation of a part of a bird? Like maybe a wing? Or the tip of a wing? I'd look beyond the text into the nothingness to grasp my meaning, I'd be Looking here and the OP to be sure, but then, maybe nothing exists or something exists, and it wasn't noticed...
• United States
3 Jan 09
That post wasn't as good as the OP I think it worked better in the OP But hey' I'm still trying, maybe I can fix it...
• United States
3 Jan 09
Nope, the picture isn't working very well, Not at this hour... Maybe I'll try again later...
• United States
5 Jan 09
Since I'm a Christian, I can only speak from that point of view. I believe that too many Christians have no idea of the blessings that are ours because of what Jesus Christ did for us on the cross of Calvary. Instead of turning our burdens over to Him, we try to handle it ourselves. Christians also don't take the time to study God's word and learn how we should live.
• United States
6 Jan 09
I understand what you are saying but I can see that you have no clue about my thoughts and beliefs. Would you like me to take you by the hand and show you some things that you have yet to learn? There are people in this world that have led you astray, you obviously show signs of not understanding the total concept of which you have just preached there is a duality of concept in your post and in your thoughts, this is a very dangerous duality. You in your reply are both for and against GOD but you don't yet understand how this can be. This is the danger of organized religion at work. I would like to help you by exposing this danger. Blessings of Peace to you and yours, Sincerely, Gary
• United States
7 Jan 09
Hi 6precious102 May the face of GOD shine upon you and may you have peace beyond all human understanding. May you be blessed that your descendants out number the stars. You can not get anymore peace and blessings than that, I'm sorry you fail to see the Universal GOD is greater than the one you read about in the Bible or any other singular man made source of scripture, call the book by any other name it is still the same. I truly am sincere of that which I speak and wish for all the good people willing to be good for the Universe and the Earth. Thank You, Gary
• United States
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your blessing and peace, but I am confident in my beliefs and I wish I could convince you that lives could be changed for the better if people would get into God's word (the Bible) and learn of the blessings He has for us. May the good Lord bless and keep you and may you learn of His blessings.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
2 Jan 09
Hummm....the picture I get....Every single household is dysfunctional. I guess if it is an every day thing and someone is never happy or always yelling at the kids then maybe, but otherwise everyone has their bad days. But I still think every family is dysfunctional in some way.
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• United States
2 Jan 09
Not so true, There are many families that live in peace and harmony with each other, of course we all have good and bad days, but the normal in the realm of study the normal would be of one tight line on the graph while the abnormal or dysfunctional would create a dramatic curve. We needed to first set a base line and separate the normal from the abnormal, almost like a judgment. Once we find the point of dysfunction for the abnormal we could then address a cure or begin a repair and maintenance plan to keep the troubled areas lubricated and functioning. Really the picture that came to me was that of a wing... One wing reaching out to another...