Who is More in Love in Your Relationship?
By margaux08
@margaux08 (1094)
Philippines
10 responses
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
31 Mar 09
I read this several years ago and you are free to agree or disagree.
"The one who loves the least controls the relationship"
If you think about it this is true, if you are the one that loves the most, then you are always expecting something more so that means you are not the one in control
@cblackink (969)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I think I have to agree with that. And sometimes, I've been the one who loved less. Sometimes, the one who loved more. The relationship I'm in now, I'm certain I'm the one who loves more.
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@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Hi RobinJ,
Makes sense! Everything is clear now... The more one loves, the more he/she assumes something in the relationship... expecting... hopeful that the same level of love received if not more, is just the same.
Keep on posting more intelligent and well-thought of responses and discussions. Thank you!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
30 Mar 09
I think we all think that we our partners more that he/she does. I am no different. I would want to give utmost love and caress but then he night think that he loves me more. 
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
Hi mimpi,
That only means that you have a healthy, loving relationship! It works for both ways. Good for you!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
For me and my partner it's always the feeling is mutual, it's not a one way sided relationship. A relationship wont work out when only one feels more love and only one who understand. For me it's always fair for both of us with everything even loving each other, and understanding each other more. We both reciprocate with each other feelings. Anyway margaux08 have a nice day to you!
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Hi n30wing,
I think I already responded to one of your discussions or a comment to one of your responses that I admire your relationship. You have a healthy loving relationship and it's good for both of you. Nowadays, it seems unreachable to have a model relationship as yours but you still maintain to have one. Please keep it up!
Again, my best regards to your Special Someone... Thank you for this response. It's nice to feel that at least... not all relationship is bound to have one loving more than the other.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hello margaux08! My husband and I used to talk about it. I always told him that it seems I love him more than he did and he just laughs at me. I know that with his life, it's saying it's not true..hehehe
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi aisaellis,
Probably, women like us are more emotional, more showy of our feelings to them. There is certain "machismo" in almost every men and that includes not being too showy with their emotions. My gay friend put it this way. Men don't like to show their emotions especially if they truly love someone because of two basic things: One is that, they are afraid that girls might think that is so gayish; and second, because in the event of showing their true emotions, they might lose the one they love. You know. Guys hate rejections more than we do. And they have their egos and pride; and it might got into him so much if they show they love someone but that someone will not love them as much asthey do.
Hmmm... so probably that was why... I so love gay people!!!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
24 Mar 09
hello marguax! I actually 100% agree with your second explanation because that's what I think why my husband doesn't show how much he loves me although I felt it sometimes..hehehe..
I love guy people too..lol
@sambarwell (173)
•
31 Mar 09
I've always thought that I loved her more, now this post proves that this is possible.
I always tell her I love her, and she says love you more. But then after an argument once, she says: "You can't love me, you don't know what love is. I don't know what love is. It took my mum and dad at least a year together to love each other."
So maybe she sees things that she had to be with me for a while before loving me.
I'm not convinced she loves me that much tho, as she won't ever make time for me, as I will her. She won't ever take the chance to see me, whereas I always want to see her.
Do you think this is normal, or will something go wrong between us?
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Hi sambarwell,
Oftentimes, perspectives differ between males and females' point of views. It was a good thing that you are vocal on how you feel with your girlfriend. Not every gut is like that. There are times that their machismos blind their emotions.
I can speak with the girls on their behalf. Oftentimes, we are emotional and tend to show how and what we really feel. We dream of attention from our partners. It might be embedded within us already.. We can't help it....
Thank you for this calid response.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
4 Jan 09
you cant know for sure how deep your partner feels about you. but if i was to base it off of the way we show love..i would have to say me. my fiance is real non emotional non romantic. he meets my needs in a relationship but im startign to wonder if he meets my needs on an emotional level. its like i have to beg him to show me he cares and im kinda gettig sick of asking for romance from him.
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi chantalgiardina,
Why is it always this way? It is easier for women like us to show our emotions to our partners. like there's no hold barred; no qualms, no nothing. But when it comes to men...
They will think... pause... or just stare at you whenever they hear "i love you." I;m not generalizing though, but, y'know. it;s kinda frustrating some times that you are into this deep level of feelings and your man just stare back at you with nothing to say.
...if only they knew how painful it is...
They will think... pause... or just stare at you whenever they hear "i love you." I;m not generalizing though, but, y'know. it;s kinda frustrating some times that you are into this deep level of feelings and your man just stare back at you with nothing to say.
...if only they knew how painful it is...
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
You must be very fortunate of her love to you... Just don't ever spoil it.
Wish you both all the happiness and love and trust abound!
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
4 Jan 09
That is so hard to say! It could be either of us between my redhead and I. I'm the one that writes the most emails, sends him the most letters and leaves messages and gifts on his MySpace page. Does that make it look like I love him more? Let's look at his side. He calls me (only because I can't call him, he's at a base in Iraq) and...on his leave next month, he'll be seeing me and not his family. How's that for love? So, in my position, my love and I are tied...though I'd like more attention from him. Hehehe
*Pleiades
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Hi Pleiades,
Thank you for the response (this is way over due!)
We all want to have the sweetest attention from our partners. Doesn't that make us even sweeter? But I'm sure he's also doing the efforts to make you feel that he is more in love in your relationship. The time that is supposed to be spent with his family is given to you, isn't that twice sweeter? 
More love to you and to your boyfriend!!!
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We all want to have the sweetest attention from our partners. Doesn't that make us even sweeter? But I'm sure he's also doing the efforts to make you feel that he is more in love in your relationship. The time that is supposed to be spent with his family is given to you, isn't that twice sweeter?
More love to you and to your boyfriend!!!
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
As for our relationship I really don't know who is. What I know is that I love my bf very much and he expresses the same thing towards me. Before, I think I'm more in love to my partner than he is to me. But when I watched the movie about this I just suddenly realize that maybe he is loving me the same intensity as I did but because we're two different person, maybe what he thinks is best does not measure up with what I think is best.
