Fights Behind Closed Doors

Hi ya wolfie34 Well my husband had no problem with putting me down in front of people or saying what he thought about anything no matter who it upset. It was mainly in front of my mum and she would never have interfered. She was always worried that if she poked her nose in then he would stop her from visiting us or us going to visit her and I needed to go to her house sometimes with just the kids just so that I got a break from him!!

I have indeed gotten in a fight over the phone with my hubby and my mom was sitting right beside me. I hate being in that situation because then after I hang up I feel like I owe her an explanation. I'm not one to keep a fight inside when I feel one coming. When I have something on my mind such as a person doing really stupid things and not having a reason for it.. then yes I get super mad at them. Sometimes I think I should try control my anger a lot better. Have a nice night

yeah and me and my husband have always had this problem where when we start fighting we fight , we do not care where we are or who is there. That is something that we have always tried to work on , but I think after 17 years of marriage it will be hard to change now. But we do fight less. Usually when we do fight though it is about money.

Me and my husband haven't had a single fight since we got married. When we argue we talk very carefuly and very calmly even though were very upset. I did have a fight with my siblings though when we were kids. I mean really fight. But now that we're grown up, we're more closer to each other and more civilized when it comes to things that we don't get along with.

If you fight alot in front of people they might get it into their heads that you aren't right together cause they don't see enough to judge. And my family and her's both would jump right in and try to take sides so I don't even really even talk to other people about it. I don't want other people looking at her differently. o matter how mad we are at each other, we still don't want anyone else to say anything bad to the other one, we would forgive each other before we forgive them. It's our busisness and we can only really resolve it ourselves anyway. And all I really want when we argue is to make it right so we can make up asap. It does make me uncomfortable when people fight in front of me whether they are a couple or not.

I have had a heated argument in front of my relatives but, I never let it get out of hand to the point where they would have to get involved...

In our 9 years I don't think we have what some call fight but we do have tiffs from time to time but doesn't contain yelling and stuff. If i get upset with him around family i just get quiet as well as he does the same. But we can have a tiff in the car we can hop out and be holing hands as we head for the door...His first marriage was a lot of fighting so he doesn't want that. I use to lay awake at night and listen to my mom and dad fight so s kids wouldn't see and I didn't want that so since neither f us want it it don't happen.

[i]Hi wolfie, SO far we never experienced that situation and I will hate also to do that! I want to respect my husband and at the same time, i am expecting him to respect me! That is not a healthy scene anyway and for both matured people like we are, I guess we can always control our temper and discussed the problem later![/i]

We don't really fight very often - we've been married 29 years now, so most things tend to be resolved - but I remember being really frustrated with my husband once when the kids were quite young, and I flung a dinner plate (loaded) at him. He ducked, and it went sailing past him, out of the back door and down the stairs! Hahahahaa! A couple of the children were standing there with their mouths open. It was pretty undignified - but sometimes you just lose it!

I got beat up in front of my mother and father in laws once. By my husband. They just told "us" to knock it off and walked away. We have argued in front of my family as well but nothing like that. They usually just back off and make sure nothing gets escalated. They will then act as a sounding board for my husband and I if we need it so we get it resolved quicker. We always bicker though so it is not unusual to know us and have witnessed at least one good argument. I'm very passionate and grumpy about some things and he is an aggravator so we don't always mesh.

I can't say that my husband and I have ever had a massive fight in front of relatives but we have made the mistake of arguing in front of our little six year old daughter who once came into the bedroom after I ran a in there after a shouting match, to see if I was ok and then she ran to her father and dragged him into the room and said, "right you two are going to forgive or are you going to split up?" We just had to smile and claim forgiveness. We felt very guilty for putting our child in that position. Kids should not have to witness their parents fighting let alone sort out their problems. We apologised to her and vowed never to do that again and became a lot more aware of keeping our arguments private because we had friends who used to quarrel in front of everybody and try to involve innocent bystanders into their so called discussions by trying to get them to take sides; it happened often and made us want to leave.

I haven't experience things like you have mentioned. As for me I really don't want to argue matters if theres people around whether they are relatives or friends. As much as possible, i want me and my partner discuss things privately.

i argue whenever i personally do not care were i am . if we are at my house my mom just knows to get up and leave she will call later to see how i m , i do get carried away at times i have a hot temper.lol

Thankfully we havent had an arguement in front of anyone. Its been almost 20 years and we still keep with the idea that we keep those things to ourselves. We just bite out toungues until we get home and "discuss it" LOL Be arent ones to belittle each other like that in front of people. I have some relatives that do it all the time and we end up leaving because it makes us feel so uncomfortable. Noone wants to see that.

Me and my boyfriend usually quarrel behind close doors but his voice is so loud that he can be heard no matter where we go.My dad heard us fighting but he helped us patch up.

Hello wolfie. I have to say that we had some small quarrels between my wife and me, but we have never quarreled before our relatives. The small quarrels were long time ago. I think that it is embarrassing to let the others know about it.

I have always been pretty good at keeping things behind closed doors, although just lately the things I am being put through are making it increasingly hard to keep those doors shut lol. The only time I have completely blown a gasket is a week or two before xmas when I very nearly lost the plot but luckily it was only our kids that were about. well i say luckily not luckily but they were the only ones about and that is the first time they have ever seen me lose it at their dad.

Generally, my husband and I do not argue or argue in front of others. There was one time though, his sister was visiting. One night we all were talking and my husband said something to my sister in law, that he had never mentioned to me. He was planning to move to Colorado, and leave me home and come back for his son's wedding. That was an argument I could not contain and wait until later. Eventually, everything was straightened out, again, he was being selfish and only thinking about himself.

before kid we always have a fight like cats and dog.i even killed the door coz i kicked it so hard.i did also fight around my family and ralatives but only shouting but dont lost friends or relatives.they advice me and it was my fault anyway.but now we are very fine no more fight. sometimes we can avoid misunderstanding but we end up in a big discussions.

Yeah, i have, an I wish it doesn´t happend again, because you look bad not only to yourself and the one you fight, but the other ones that are watching too. I admit this is horrible but, sometimes you can´t just take away your emotions and be quiet. You need to be very strong to do that, when I´m angry I just explode and say I all have to say just to shut up the other one. Everyone who is reading this should not fight, not even when you are alone with other people, this has to be stopped.