Does everyone believe they have the best kid in the world?

United States
January 4, 2009 9:14pm CST
I have always wondered this. I have one 5 year old son and "I" think he is perfect but I always wonder if other people think he is special or is it just me that thinks my kid is the greatest because he is mine? Does every parent think that their child is the best kid on the planet? Best meaning; cutest, sweetest, smartest, funniest or most talented. Out of every kid I know, my son is my favorite and there is no child that I love more than him but what happens if you have more than one child? I only have the one so I am curious to know how do you deal with loving more than one of them that much? I have asked my family but they are no help, since my son is the baby of the family and they are all fans of him too. My friends have children and they gush about their own kids but when I ask them a question like this they don't really have an answer for me. I can appreciate other people's children and I can see why they love them but I also see faults that some parents seem to be blind to. So I guess I am just asking for your honest opinions and thoughts about this subject. Are we just partial to our own children because they are our own or what...?
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@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
5 Jan 09
It's funny, I often wondered the same thing. I do believe that I have the two sweetest daughters of all time. My six year old is the most kind, gentle, smart girl I have ever had the pleasure to meet, let alone raise. My two year old is the most adorable mini comic the world has ever see. I believe that my children are destined to do great things for the world and everyone that meets my older daughter has a chance to glimpse into the eyes of a true wonder. She talks about Jesus like he is her best friend. She is amazing. I spent many nights crying when I was pregnant with my second baby how I could ever love her. Not to sound weird but I thought that the love I had for my first daughter and the aching that went on inside my heart could never be duplicated because I would burst at the seams if I even tried. I cried for the thoughts of somehow depriving her or the new baby of the massive love. I became obsessed. Ever saw a pregnant woman lugging around a 75 lb 4 year old? Well I did. I carried that girl everywhere cause I couldn't get enough time in with her before this new little girl joined our family. It is still a struggle to this day to show equal affection but I love them both the same. I think the paranoia that came with focusing all of my attention on one child dissapated a little bit when the second less healthy, more noisy baby came along. It allowed to regain my sences a little bit and realize that I loved them both deeply. Way more than I could ever love anything or anyone on this earth. I would lay down my life without so much as a blink for either one of them. I believe that they are both gifts from God and I thank him everyday for allowing me the opportunity to meet such wonderful little people and for trusting me to raise them the right way and love them as he does all of us. Being a mother is like running a marathon that only involves emotions. It is crazy, happy, sad, extatic, exillerating, wonderful, overwhelming, hectic, and completely in love with that honeymoon feeling all the time, kind of thing. No one could ever put into words and I could write an entire book trying to describe all the different kinds of love I feel for my children. Sorry this is a ramp but it is the most passionate topic I could ever find to discuss. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to express my emotions about my wonderful girls. I'm sure your son is a lovely boy. With parents that love them as much as us they have to turn out perfect, right???
• United States
5 Jan 09
Your comment got me all teary eyed. Sheesh I am such a sap aren't I? I had thought about having another child but recently decided against it for the same reason you just said. I thought I would be taking something away from the first child and it tore me up so much that I decided not to have another child. It is nice to know that you can love more than one at the same time in similar ways. I am just scared to have a favorite child I guess.
• United States
5 Jan 09
Oh sweetie, not only is it scary to have to share the love, it's scary to think if you would even be capable, physically of loving two little beings that much. Let me tell you, those of us that love our first child so obsessively, can give a second child a wonderful home and environment with all the love they could ever want. And I'm going out on a limb here and assuming that you are a bit like me and I will tell you honestly. The love we have for our first borns is a bit of an obsession. Now it's not bad at all, although it could be, it is just our way. The second child allows that little think to turn over in our brains that allows us to love them to bursting but without so much obsession. Do you understand? I'm a bit wordy tonite. Anyway, the best gift you could give a first born is a sibling. They need that constant companionship of a sibling. There is so much sibling rivalry in the world but when they come from parents like us, they grow up close cause we keep em roped together with all our love. My daughters fight/bicker but they love each other almost as much as I love them. It is nice to see them cry and feel a sence of saddness when their sibling is not with them. They truely do love each other in a capacity that is truely mind boggeling for such little things!
• United States
5 Jan 09
I see exactly what you mean. Obsession is a very good word for it in my case and it actually explains a lot. I understand the sibling benefits and maybe in the future I will reconsider. It is so scary to divvy up my love and attention. I have a lot of respect for you even if you say that it comes naturally. In my mind it is still inconceivable and I suppose it will remain that way unless I have another. It is so nice to know that others understand the way I feel and think and to know I am not alone.
@ntmingyu (65)
• China
5 Jan 09
I have one 3 year old son and I also think he is perfect, I think every parent is the same, even they find there will be other kid better than his, he do not mind. we think that's parent's natural feedback. I plan to have more one child before my son is born, but now, because I love him so much, I do not want my love to deal to other child, so I decided not to have more one. I will work hard to earn more money, to give me better situation to live and study, to satisfy his hobby and send him to best education...... we love him and like to give all the best to him is because he is my own and I have too much hope for him.....
• United States
5 Jan 09
Yes, I feel that I never have enough time, money, attention, etc.. to give to my son and if I had more I would happily to give it all to him. If I had additional children I would have to divide those things between them ultimately taking away from my first born.
• India
5 Jan 09
I too have an only child (a son of 9 yrs) and to me, he is far from perfect. Though I have never compared him with other kids or his friends (that’s just as bad) I don’t mince my words either in pointing out his faults. He doesn’t like them all the time but I keep at it. I sure hope he would grow up to be more balanced if he is aware of his shortcomings. I praise him when he deserves it, but never gush about him to others. I don’t want him to grow up thinking that he is the best…rather he should know that there are others better than him and he should try to raise his own bar.
@bethyboo (399)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I believe all parents think their children is perfect. I know I think my 14 month old is perfect. He is the cutest, sweetest, and smartest 14 month old I know. I brag about him all the time because I am so proud of him. I am pregnant with my second and I'm sure I will feel the exact same way about this one. I think all parents brag about each of their children.
• United States
20 Jan 09
No offence to anybody, but everyone believes their child or children are the best kids in the world. I do not really know a parent who does not believe that. I only have one son whom I think is the best boy in the world. Every child out there has faults, even yours, but like you said their parents don't see their childs faults. So you would not see your childs faults either. Parents are partial to their children because they are their children. You really can not pick out what is wrong with this child or that one because it is unfair to them. That would be like you saying there is nothing wrong with your child and he/she is perfect in every aspect. All parents see their kids that way. But its untrue. As the child gets older you will slowly realize that no kid is perfect. Not mine, not yours or anybody elses.
• China
5 Jan 09
I think it is hard to answer if you have two or even more children.I am unmarried now.But i know your feeling since my niece was born. I thought she is the most lovely and beautiful kids which i have ever met.In fact,she is overbearing sometimes,and her mouth is too big but eyes are too small.Aha, i still think she is the most lovely and beautiful kids.How about my kids when i have own children? I often think of it.I am afraid that i will love her/him too much.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
i don't have a child yet at the moment... but when i have one, i will definitely think that my child is the best kid in the world... which parents wouldn't??? i think it is just a natural thing to do that every parents will think that their children are the most special and the best in the world... take care and have a nice day...
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
I think it's what everyone thinks about their kids. Well, before they could actually do anything or be in school and see the gradesheets and performances. Anyhow, I believe it's a mother's nature to love her kid, and it's by blood that relatives would be more proud of their own blood. I could attest to that because I find my nephew (my first one) to be the best kid ever, he's got the best features and is truly fun (he can't speak yet but he could truly entertain anyone, even those who he doesn't know). Well, I guess we just tend to be proud of our kin. :)