being apart

You're a strong person to want to hold onto your love while you're so far away from each other. I can tell you, not as a military wife, but a military girlfriend that it's not easy. It's not easy because there are times when I realized I haven't heard from him in several days and try so hard not to read the news to see if there's been any attacks or bad news from the war zone. When I first entered into the ranks of military girlfriend of a deployed Army man, I didn't realize how it would affect me. You asked what you can do to make sure she knows you are waiting for her and things? Easiest thing is to email her and even post a letter as much as possible. Let her know that there will be times when you're not able to tell her what's going on (due to security) but always...always always always reassure her that you'll be safe and everything will be fine. Tell her this, even if you fear yourself what will happen. Last thing she will need is to worry about you. Again, write...my red head lover used to write to me every day but as the weeks went by, those numbers dwindled to once a week if I'm lucky. First time he didn't contact me due to security was hell for me. I cried, thinking he didn't love me. But, that was stupid because all his letters, phone calls and stuff reassured me how much he loves me. The reason it's holding up this much because of the time and dedication we've put into this. Now, keep in mind that no matter how hard you try, she may not feel the same way. She may find out that she can't handle having someone away from her in the way, just hold on...let her know that this will be temporary and if possible, to find other people in her position to talk to. I've got several online friends who are in my position. It's great that way because when one of us feels down or frustrated, we rely on one another for support. *Pleiades

I have never had any such romantic relationship before, not two-sided anyway. What happened to me was that my company sent me to UK for 6 months in 2007 and 2008 period. At that time, I was still going after this girl which I have fallen in love with at the end of 2005. It has been about 2 years then and she did not reject me. She was very nice to me and even hinted that she wanted to give me a chance. So we kept in touch even though we were far apart, very far apart. But what happened was, she was seeing someone else and was going steadily with the person. She did not tell me and kept me in the dark. True, I understand that I have no right to question her life but after waiting for so many years, she could have told me in order to make me give up. But she did not do that until April 2008, 1 month before I came back to my country, I decided to give up. And 5 months later, she told me she's going to get married to the guy who she has been seeing for a couple of years now. The problem here is that I do trust her a lot, but something else was happening without me knowing it. It was a terrible feeling. That's why I don't really believe in distance relationship. There are still people who managed to make it through, no doubt about that but most of the cases I know, the relationships would fail in the end.

I am sorry to hear that. I think true love can't be apart by distance. My idea is that you should do something to kill time and remove your pain. for intance :writer letters to her let her know how deeply you love her.and keep close touch with her. make small gift for her ,make sure all the gift made by yourself. best wishes to you.

You just have to trust that it will work. My now fiance was gone for a month over in Europe this past summer. Not really an eternity, but it was still very hard. I did miss her every single one of those days. But, make sure you do try to keep as much communication with her. And trust me, she knows how you feel. They always do.

email her.just try call her.thats the things u have do communication is very emportant copules was beign apart if love each other she can wait you then if gods well u can be,even how long been apart with you guy's hope u been together wish for you

i was in this position before its not fun but we made it through.all we did was talk when we could and let each other know how we felt and that we wre waiting for the other no matter what.we are a stronger couple now becuz of that.so be strong and let your spouse know how you feel.good luck and hope it goes well.

I don't know what you can do,but i wish she will come back! Happy new year!

I'm not military nor my husband, but I can relate to your situation of being apart with someone you love. As a child, my father always has to be abroad to work, and I have seen how my mom handled the situation. I have seen that to make it through, there has to be a tremendous amount of love and trust for each other... Now that I am a wife myself, I am the one who is far from the one I love. And when I am the one in the situation, it is when I realized how difficult it is. But what really helps is the constant communication between us. We are feeling that the only barrier in between us is a screen. We are talking with each other as much as we could online. And when it's sleeping time, we are keeping both our pc's on, to have that feeling that we are just near. Keep the hope that she will be back. Keep trusting her. And never fail to make her feel how much you love her. Don't let her go without letting her know that you look forward to the day when she is coming back. Tell her that you will still be waiting, until the day that you no longer have to be away from each other. Let your love for each other lead you, and sure that it will make you strong.

gOt the same LOve Ending with your story... but then again its really part of loving..sacrifice makes our life go round and so PRAYER is the most powerful tool to make her feel that you still there standing next to her..huhuuhu

A constant communication from you and an assurance that no matter what happen you are there waiting for her, if she is not that confident and afraid that you maybe give up and break the relationship due to her situation, maybe take an effort to make a video since the relationship begin,post it in a you tube,and maybe a journal when and how your relationship grow and your feelings for her become stronger and intense... or things that can makes her happy.... Good luck tmariew!! Happy mylotting!!

It is very hard being away from the one you love...The most important thing is that you two stay strong for one another...Assure one another that you'll always be there no matter how long the wait, how far the distance, your the one I want and I'll always be here for you. Keep the communication line open, try to talk to one another frequently or write just stay close. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"