Why Are You Still Single? Love to hear your answers....

Philippines
January 5, 2009 3:24am CST
I've been single for two years now....no dates, no crushes and no friendships that look like they could lead to something more... It's been one of the most rewarding years of my life. There's been very little stress, no arguments, and I've had heaps of beauty sleep... On reflecting, I think I have gained enough insight into myself to realize why I am still single.... 1. I love doing what I want to do, when I want to do it. I will compromise only if it is not going to too much effort. I love my independence... 2. I feel happy and content when I express my opinions, no matter how unconventional they are. I do not mind if no one else feels the way I do. 3. I have very little idea of what I truly want in a partner. So, if I have met that person, I probably did not recognize them! 4. I like being by myself. Most of my favorite past times are things you can do alone. I love curling up with a good book by myself, I am a loner by nature... I wonder if anyone else knows why they are still single, especially if they don't want to be?
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11 responses
sanuanu
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
6 Jan 09
Loved your answer. I don't know why I am single up till now. May be I can't carry on a relationship! Whenever I had relationship, I did something wrong and that girl is gone. May be I don't know "when and how to" in love. May be I am way to short of patience! May these are the reasons why I am single this date!
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sanuanu
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
13 Jan 09
You don't need to mention Amazing Heart. By the Way, why did you choose this username?
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
The best is yet to come san. In a right time... Thanks always!
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
That user name describe my personality San.. :)
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michaeldadona
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 09
Gear up garl you're a real great-single-loner and happy with your life, added with your four (4) logic reasons. Your smart reason is you love your independence which is something like borne to be free. Corrects me if am wrong. About me, very simple after being a single parent for 12 years - just take deep breath and next exhale it with great hope waiting for one and only, a Zamboangan, in 2010. That is only the reason as well as my answer to your question. Hopes got A++ for my answer...LOL!!!
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I never forget to rate you all my respondent Michael hehehhe.. That's my way of saying thanks, for the ideas as well, I learned so much from mylot. And there's no reason for not sharing my feelings and thoughts as well.... It's a good outlet you know! LOL Congrats for finding your love....Stay happy! Happy mylotting! P.S.I keep growing as if I will be alone forever, but I keep myself open for friendship and love as if I will meet someone wonderful today...
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michaeldadona
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
6 Jan 09
outch !!!
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ammie07
@ammie07 (322)
• India
5 Jan 09
i am single and i do agree being single is good as we can be free independent.etc but at times i do feel i do miss being with someone,holding hands of someone.especially when i am in blue i wish someone was there to hod me and be with me............but coming back to reality i like being single as of till now.surely i don't want to loose my independence as many of my friends have due to there relationship,they always grumble and complain for small to big stuffs......at that times i feel i am better off........[",]
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Hi ammie!! We have the same thought ahhehhee... Developing our independence does not mean that we are giving up on finding a love relationship-it will just make us more ready and able to have one.... Happy mylotting! Thanks!!
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Nisha_Verghese
@Nisha_Verghese (551)
• India
5 Jan 09
well, i wish i had positive reason to give like you did. My only reason is that the guy whom i wanted to be committed to forever, didnt like the term "forever". he wasnt that keen on marriage and stuff.. so i kinda had a resolution to steer clear of having relationships for a while
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
5 Jan 09
Thank you Nish! Just go things slowly, its just sometimes are people are complicated, relationship are hard, and we just to let it go. You will find gradually that it does not matter to you, anymore... It takes time, but you will come stronger in the end.. Move on and good luck..
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paoxav
@paoxav (1382)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Before I was committed last year, I was single for 6 years. The reason is, I want to be alone and explore the life of a single more. No attachments, no demands, just pure you. I had some flings of course but serious commitments was set aside first. Until well, I'm done with it and I luckily found the girl that I really want to. It's not bad being single, but do not close your doors. If someone comes, then open it.
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Thanks Pao! Nice words.... Congrats for finding your love... maybe mine is not on this earth yet LOL I enjoy my solitude... Thanks!
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madposas
@madposas (98)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Actually, Im not into finding partner. It was a waste of time. Is it that harsh? well, i also believe that it is a big waste of incomes. I also love doing what I want to do. Independence. like what you have already said. It is good to be alone sometimes. you can think of the mistakes you did. and you have time to upgrade your self. haha, what i mean is you have a lot of time to change.
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amazingheart
@amazingheart (781)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
LOLwaste of incomes! hahhaa..yes, that all true, its kind hurting the pocket also LOL, for maintenance.. LOL Thanks for dropping by....!
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lingli_78
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
i am not single anymore... i am already married for more than 3 years now... but i would like to give my 2 cents of thought to your discussion as well if i may... i used to think like you as well in the past... i want to be single and free with nobody disturbing me... and i thought i will enjoy it... but i am completely wrong... i enjoy my married life now more than my single life... i can achieve more things together, share my life with someone that i really love for the rest of my life and supporting each other... the feeling is really wonderful... that's for me though... hope one day you will find somebody that can make you change your mind... take care and have a nice day...
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jtr115
@jtr115 (722)
• United States
6 Jan 09
I think the main reasons I haven't been able to start a relationship are shyness and not knowing what I want. I've always had trouble with conversation. I also never dated during high school, so I don't have as much experience with relating to women. I also don't know exactly what I'm looking for in a partner. I tend to like being alone from time to time, but I've also imagined having someone I could turn to when I'm feeling lonely.
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mimico
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I've been single since the day I was born. I just haven't met anyone who interested me that much. I look for guys who have the potential of being my future husband, so if a guy doesn't have the potential then I won't waste my time with him anymore. I use my head over my heart a lot so it's really difficult to just fall in love. I've never been in love actually. sometime, I do yearn for that companionship that other people seem to enjoy so much, but at the same time, being single is also stress free because I only have myself to look out for.
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sophia1984
@sophia1984 (278)
• China
6 Jan 09
After graduated from my college I began this job, the company is new, so I am very busy everyday, so I have no time to find a boy. :( I am young, I don't want to marry before 28 :) When I am walking to my company lonely, I will think about to find a boyfriend, but then thinking about the querrals, oh, boring. Now enjoy the life when I am a lonely person. :)
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planters
@planters (46)
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
im single and im happy ... yeah i love being independent with no strings attatched ... no one to update with what am i doing or where am i going and stuffs ... im single because im happy with my friends and with my family alone ... and the best thing about being single is that you wont have to save money for your anniversary or even for valentines day ...
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