What do men want.

@suzzy3 (8352)
January 5, 2009 5:45pm CST
Come on men tell us what you expect from a wife or girlfriend ,do you like the quite type that always say yes and agree with you,do you expect us to go halfs on the date,would you feel offended if the girl offered to pay.How much do you think you have to spend before we come across.Do you prefer someone with a mind of her own who does not follow you around,do you expect the exclusivity in a girl.Do you steer clear of married women or can't you help yourself.Do you like to be fussed over and fuss over her ,or would you prefer to left alone,your terms or hers.Are you at the stage where you are looking for a life partner and what sorts of things would you look for in someone that you intend spending the rest of your life with.If she can cook would it bother you,would you mind her having a career or using a childminder or would you stay at home and be a house parent,we are always asking what a woman wants but I think it is about time we asked you chaps what you want,as the times are changing for men ,on the whole no longer the bread winner and protector of your family,do you feel at a disadvantage or are you embrasing the future with open arms,the reason I ask this is I answered a discussion from a man today saying he wanted to get married on his island but he could not find a pure girl and did not know what to do,he obviously could not cope with the modern world and is it widespread amongst men.
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15 responses
• Mexico
6 Jan 09
Suzzy, as a Man I will tell you what most of us search in a girl: 1.- That she is pretty 2.- That she is a good friend 3.- That she can take care of us 4.- That she is with us in the bad and in the goods 5.- That she is smart That´s what most men want, and for me, as you said, there are a lot of things, that I can´t afford that she pays for her things, I like her to be with me almost all the time, That she do the same things that I do. That we like same music,games, and a lot of other things too. Hope this helps you. Just a question. You put this because you like someone and you don´t know how to attract him?
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
I am very happy with my man and he is everthing to me and worship him,he looks after me I cannot work anymore and he does not want me to ,he spoils me when he can you put friend in your response and he is my best friend.I was driven to write this as I answered a discussion from a rather confused young man in India about meeting a woman who as still pure and what a hard job he was having finding someone suitable to please his parents,we are always hearing what a woman is supposed to make her happy and what she needs and I just thought it might be nice to give you men a chance to have your say.x
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 09
what men want?????????????? i dont know about that. cause men is so complecated. men is so wild. men is so misterious. men is so dangerous. we dont know about their feeling n what they think'
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@vindiku (256)
• India
6 Jan 09
Hey hello there, For your information, its for the first time that i have heard from anyone that men are complicated, but one thing is correct, men are wild. Men are mysterious, but so are women and both are equally dangerous, cause both type of gender has good and bad people and about the last comment "we dont know about their feelings n what they think." one will come to know about something only when they try, so try to :-)
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.x
@vindiku (256)
• India
6 Jan 09
OOps, the second comment was not for you, actually it was a reply for the comment which you got from noniefam :-)
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
6 Jan 09
if i'm going to be myself i expect the same from a woman,why put on airs that will change if your not honest from the get go,it's a waste of time, her's and mine. a woman that makes more than me has a better job,period,so why let that make a difference? so you can argue about money for years? not me. i'm not making a move on any man's woman,married or not it's hard enough to find a compatable opposite,who needs all that drama.as for the young man on the island,he must have an arm the size vw ;)
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.x
• United States
6 Jan 09
A nice and interesting question...Real man only want one thing... Love! I just wrote an artcile regarding this question---you can read @ http://www.socyberty.com/Men/What-Men-Want.396173
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@sk66rc (4257)
• United States
6 Jan 09
My girl friend tells me I sound like a typical guy so I guess I'm a typical guy... With that, here are the things I want or how I would want things to be... First, I'd like things to be simple... Don't over complicate things when you don't need to... Second, when she asks me what's on my mind & I tell her nothing, then really, NOTHING's on my mind, or nothing is wrong... No need to ask me "what's wrong? you're too quiet!!!" This is almost a part of number 1 stated above... I don't have one designated area where I go... I can blank out just about anywhere... "My special alone place" is in my head... If I just wanted to be alone for few minutes, I'll just blank out... Doesn't everybody have few moments like that? Just would like to spend some time alone? I do that... I just stare into a space not thinking about much with blank expression on my face... Why must there be something wrong when I do that? I just wanted some quiet alone time... Granted I should tell her I just want to be left alone but if she asks me & I tell her, "oh, nothing... I'm just spacing out!" That means there's nothing wrong... I'm just spacing out... We don't need to talk at that exact moment... Third, if I can afford it, I'll pay for it... If I can't I'll ask you if you can... No big deal who pays for what... If we have secure enough relationship, that shouldn't really matter, who pays what... On our 2nd date, my current girl friend & I, she brought me a dozen roses & paid for the dinner... Ok, so what... That's that... 4th, "being fuzzed over" or "fuzzing over her" is over-rated... Showing each other how we much we care is one thing... Constantly fuzzing over the other person gets old quick & out right annoying after a while... My girl friend agrees with me on this one... 5th... She's a person with mind of her own as well as I'm a person with mind of my own... Treat each other as such... Why the labels of the roles... I would want a good mother for my daughter, which my girl friend meets & passes with flying colors as far as qulification goes... My daughter has known her to be the mother & my girl friend loves my daughter as her own... My daughter IS MY GIRL FRIENDS own as far as she's concerned... Good enough for me... I don't want a "yes girl", if I'm wrong, I expect her to correct me and vise versa... If she's wrong, I'll correct her... "How much do you think you have to spend before we come across."? What are we, negotiating a price per hour? When time & feelings are right, people should get together... Why the dollar sign on feelings?
@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Brillant just what I needed to know thank you very much you have answered perfectly for me,I am so pleased,thank you.xx
@sk66rc (4257)
• United States
7 Jan 09
Thank you for the best response... I didn't mean to over simplify everything, lol... I guess that too could be a guy thing... Just remember, there's always an exceptions to all... Even what I said above, take'em with grain of salt, as the saying goes... Yes it is nice to feel wanted & fuzzed over once in a while... Yes it is nice to be shown that you care enough to ask me if there's anything wrong... It is nice to hear when I screw up royally, "it's ok, hon... We'll make it right...!!!" They're all nice things... I'm not down playing any of them or even saying they're all bad things... Not at all... I'm just saying, in more case than not, us guys are pretty simple & easy to please...
• India
6 Jan 09
a man always wishes that his wife always be loyal ,sincere n loving to him.she must be caring,understanding,trustworthy n moreover she must share evrything wid him.
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.x
• China
6 Jan 09
What kind of women do men like?? Every man has his own answer,which is often different.In China,women tender,virtuous,considerate and beautiful are popular in any place.
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.x
• India
6 Jan 09
I am married and havebeen married for 28 years and still very much in love with my wife. She is a darling and and I adore her, bu that does not stop me from looking at other women. I love to flirt. Basically all men are flirts and love the attention of other women too. Men are by nature polygamous. My fantasy has been to have 1000 wives. ha ha ha. Yes 1000 wives. Each having a special quality of her own. I woudl give each one of them special attention and pamper them. I love to pamper my women and make them feel special. Women are made for loving and pampering and I love it. Anythinng to keep them happy.
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
You know I have always wondered what men really want, I have seen men being treated so badly by their wives and girlfriends and they are the ones that seem to sticj by their partners, and then i have seen the women who do everything for their men, are just wonderful people and they seem to be the ones that men seem to cheat on, I would like to understand what goes on in the male brain...
@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your response.x
@mogutou (24)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Men want a woman that can bring him a sense of security. In other words a woman who can comfort him when he's down, and help raise the family etc.
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@vindiku (256)
• India
6 Jan 09
Hey Suzzy, I don't know what information to provide you as an answer to this question, because in my girlfriend I have not found any mistakes that will make me ask such questions, but let me tell you one think What a man from a girl is: 1. She must be pretty, but should not be too proud of it. 2. She can be complicated, but should be understandable. 3. She should be able to command you, but should not insult you. 4. She can be possessive, but not suspicious. and about paying the bills, just imagine you are in a Top class restaurant with you Boyfriend/husband, to whom will the bearer bring the bill. Here in my place obviously it will be to the Boyfriend/husband, i don't know about whats happening there. Now you tell me what you expect from a Man :-)
@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Ihave a man who is loving,caring ,generous when possible,good dad,understanding ,hard working, sensible, abit silly,strong and bold,I like to be protected but not smothered and I can respect him as he respects me.thank you for your comment.xx
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@vindiku (256)
• India
6 Jan 09
Sorry, did i provoke you :-) from that particular discussion that you have started, i felt like you had some bad impression about men, am not arguing that all men are good, but cant also say that all are bad, there are good and bad people irrespective of male of female gender. Its a persons basic character and not the gender. Best wishes.
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• United States
6 Jan 09
Hello, I myself believe that men should give women everything. Give them the world. I love to see my wife happy, if i think for a min. that she isn't happy I will change what I am doing. As for paying for a date when i was dating, i would never ask or want a women to pay for it ever. If they did I would take it that they weren't interested and probably not call them back. I believe that if you love somone you should put them as the highest priority in life. I also belive that everything should be 100% equal based on decissions. I myself don't even want my wife to work at all. I want to take care of her and give her all of her needs possible. I like to see her go out and spend my money on nails, hair, shop for new clothes and etc. It makes me happy in life knowing that shes happy. I hope this helps a little from my point of view. Have a great day. Matt
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@suzzy3 (8352)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment.x
6 Jan 09
I can only speak for myself. What I want in a woman is that she is her own person, willing to share her life with me as an equal. Intelligence is essential, as is humour. Outside of that, it's all just extra bonuses! Looking for an 'uncomplicated' relationship is a contradiction in terms: relationships are always complicated. :)
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• India
6 Jan 09
i man never like this type of girl who is alwas reddy for everthing there should some boundation especially nfor girl friend,man say they those type girls who are for everthing but it is only for some times
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@Frederick42 (2019)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
I do not want anything from anybody. I accept people as they are. If I expect anything, then it would be a horrible infringement upon their personal rights. But surprisingly, some people do not like this. They want others to expect something from them. But I feel tht most other men want to dominate the woman. After all, that is the essence of marriage. The desire to dominate is inbuilt unless a person comes out of that desire because of his wisdom.