Love is a CHOICE

@oyenkai (4396)
Philippines
January 6, 2009 8:15pm CST
...do you believe it? That we choose who we love? I think it's true. I don't want to think that somebody else chose my boyfriend for me. I can clearly remember that I honestly thought about our chances - if we'd get along together, and that I clearly made a decision when I let him in my life :)
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@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
CHANCE: When you meet the right person to love, at the right time and at the right place. CHANCE: When you meet someone you are attracted to CHOICE: Knowing that there are hundreds, maybe thousands of people out there who are more attractive, smarter, richer, more famous than your loved one, and yet... you decide to love him/her just the same. LIFE'S LITTLE LESSON: Chance may bring us to meet the person we choose to love and spend the rest of our lives with... But it is still up to us to make it happen. We may meet someone by CHANCE but loving and staying with that "someone" is still a "CHOICE." Never stop being in love...
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@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
I love it :D Thank you for that wonderful response!
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Thank you for the BR! Looking forward for meaningful discussions like this one you started. Keep it up! And... never stop falling in love!
@ktosea (2025)
• China
7 Jan 09
it's definitely our choice, we may like several girls or boys,but there is only one we choose to love at a time.noboby else could make this decision for you.if you have no feelings for someone,how come you get along well in the future? Aha..just my point,Have a good day
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@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Choosing to be with someone doesn't necessarily mean you choose to love them :P It might just mean you choose to suffer :D
• United States
7 Jan 09
I don't think I chose to fall in love with my husband - that would have been crazy, since he was dating my best friend at the time! The only choice I had was what to do about that emotion. I chose to tell him I loved him. He chose to tell me he felt the same. Then we had to decide how to handle that. I decided NOT to pursue the relationship, because I felt that if I really loved him, than all that mattered was that he was happy. I knew he wasn't happy with my friend (and I figured that's why he developed feelings for me - out of unhappiness in his relationship), and I knew why he wasn't happy with her. So I tried to fix their relationship, giving both of them advice. When that didn't work, he and I told my friend how we felt about each other, and eventually they broke up and he and I have been together ever since - with my friend's blessing, thankfully. Now, as nicely as that turned out, I can't believe that I would CHOOSE to love someone when being together would be so complicated! I chose what to do about the feelings I had, but I didn't choose to feel the way I felt.
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Well based on your story - I think you DID choose to love him. You had feelings, but it was your choice if you would pursue it. At first you said no to your feelings but in the end, you finally said yes and you have been working on it ever since! :) I'm glad you're happy and that you're in good terms with your friend.
• India
9 Jan 09
I only chose my girlfriend for me..being a very lonely guy i didnt want anyone else to choose my girl and so i chose her myself and only after a year i introduced her to my friends and they were not happy since they linked me with another girl with whom they thought that i would go but things changed that i saw the perfect pair for my life and chose her..You surely have to choose and not let others choose for you..Happy Mylotting..
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@dr_ankita (114)
• India
9 Jan 09
yes i totally agree with you! only we can choose the person whom we love and no body else can! if we take the decisions ourselves wed be able to carry our relationship by our means and well be happy..get along very beautifully..it was all my decision when i decided to marry the man of my dreams..and ill suggest every body to do so if they really wanna listen to their hearts n live hapily..
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
7 Jan 09
Hello oyenkai! I do believe in destiny but I also believe that it's a matter of choice. I know my husband and I were destined to each other. Eversince I was young, I got attracted to white skinned men. When I was in highschool, I told myself to marry an American one day. I went to online dating sites and found my true love.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
7 Jan 09
yeah i do agree with you my dear friend its us who choose whom to love and whom to not.we have a choice in life the decision entirely depends on us.it depends on us to love or not to love someone.its our feeling that matters ............[",]
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@marisriel (1157)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Yes, love is definitely a choice. And everything in this world I think is our choice. Because that is one of the freedom given to us by God. It's just sad that many had chose to use that freedom in not so good ways. But sticking on the topic, it's also good to get opinions on who to love. I've had my fair share of heartbreaks during my younger days because I didn't listen to my relatives who I thought was just seeing superficially.
@rsa101 (22631)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Of course love is really a choice. We are gifted as humans to choose who we want in our lives. I think we should use that gift wisely because if we choose worngly we will have to pay the price for that.
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@kafrosGR (138)
• Greece
7 Jan 09
I dont think that anyone can control our feelings and especially the other half of us
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
7 Jan 09
Hello oyenkai :) I'm not sure, if I do believe that Love is a choice, although a lot of people would say yes... but there are other circumstances where we would be confused if this is really a choice...
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@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 09
I agreed with you... I also choose my dear by my feeling... I know that if i really want to be with my dear, i will have a lots of problem to face, but i still choose my dear... I believe I right... and I will doing my best to protect and fight for my love...
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