Situation 1 - How would you solve this......?

January 7, 2009 6:43pm CST
My best friend is in a problem. She loves her husband and her husband loves her too. From past six months, her husband always talks about girls, watch girls on the internet, shopping mall, watches neighbours through window. But now he says he would like to bring girls just for timepass. But she hates those talk. She don't want her husband to divert his attention from his wife to other girls. Is there any idea where this can be solved without any figths between husband and wife? And also, why he'd be doing this? Any help would be appreciated.
5 responses
@kylaerin (146)
• United States
8 Jan 09
She has to straight up ask him whats up and let him know that she is not okay with it. He should not be ogling other girls in front of his wife and if he is watching them as much as you say its borderline spookish to me. She has to be up front with him other wise things will just get worse.
8 Jan 09
She loves her husband more than anyone. So, she doesn't want to hurt him speaking anything wrong. She even sometimes told to bring girls home to make him happy, believing it would not happen. Without hurting his feelings how can this be solved?
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
8 Jan 09
hi, kylaerin was right,your friend must discuss the matter to his husband right away. if she's really after the feelings of her husband , she could talk to him in a very calm manner. you know, if your friend would always consider the feelings of her husband then theres no way she could solve the problem. and i guess it not a wrong doing for your friend to consider her feelings too, for sure she was hurt about the actions of her husband.
@daffy838 (20)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Maybe she needs to find out what he likes about those other girls that she doesn't posess. Are they spending enough time together that his attention is getting diverted?
@redhotpogo (4433)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I think she is living a fantasy thinking that her husband actually loves her. His actions show that he doesn't. She needs to tell him to knock it off. Oh and watching people through the windows? that's weird.
@AnakSuNamun (2084)
• United States
8 Jan 09
Maybe her husband is one of those people whou would want an "open" relationship,somehow by saying that most men mean that it's OK for them to get with other girls but God forbid his wife does as much as look at another man! I also think she should talk to him openly and tell him she doesn't appreciate him disrespecting her like that. I understand she loves him very much but she should respect herself and have her pride. If he really cares for her and doesn't want to lose her,he will stop.
@conbill (369)
• United States
8 Jan 09
I believe your friend loves her husband but I don't know about him. I don't know his age. Is he going through a midlife crisis? Either way he is much to obsessed with other women. If I was your friend I would tell him straight out to cut the bull. If he didn't I would throw him to the dogs. He has a real problem if you ask me.