Should parents be banned from smacking their children???

no, i'm not against with this disciplinary action..God told us in his commandments that we should give the right discipline with our children it will not affect their future but instead this will make them a better person. Too much discipline is not good for a child because it leads to violence when you smacked your child just make it soft. Don't smacked too much.

Do you mean smacking, like a smack across the face? Or spanking, a swat to the bottom. I don't think any child should be smacked, that indicates that its done out of anger and will be psychologically damaging. But spanking is a completely different matter. We rarely spanked, but when we did it was always handled in a certain manner. Never, ever out of anger. Never with our hand. And never in front of anyone else. Not spanking out of anger was so that they could see that while spanking is a punishment, its not a reaction to the situation, but a consequence of their actions. Never with our hands because I never wanted my kids to flinch from me if they see my hand coming towards them. And never in front of someone because they should never be humiliated by being punished in front of even their own siblings. Sadly, many people don't have rules they spank by. They will lash out at their child for any little thing. Spanking should be a last resort. Which may be why we rarely had to use that form of punishment. I don't want my kids growing up thinking its OK to hit, but they do know there is consequences to their actions. Now that they are older I feel we have very well behaved and free thinking children that aren't afraid of us or afraid to challenge us in healthy ways. But too many spank or smakc their child, which in my opinion is the same as abuse.

I believe that it is my right to raise my child in the way I deem necessary. Barring abuse. I believe that spanking is a useful tool if used correctly. I spanked my child, after she was about 5 I didn't have to anymore! I think if a government wants to decide how to discipline my child, then it should take responsibility for that child!

My oldest grandson was diagnosed at a very early age with ADHD and ODD. We tried not spanking him at all - the Dr. recommended sitting him down with his face into a corner. Well this didn't work either - one day while being punished by being made to sit with his face in the corner he peeled off the wallpaper in a room that was newly decorated. Nothing seemed to work especially when we took him into a store - we were at our wits end with the child. Finally the Dr. wrote us a prescription stating that because of his problems the child needed to be spanked. One swift spank on the butt did more good than anything else we had tried or that the Dr. had recommended. I don't think that kind of dicipline ever hurt anyone - I am not alking about beatings I am talking about spanking and there is a whole work of dofference between the two

Hi lingli_78! I guess, we all have different views about smacking children. In my case, I believe in smacking them and explaining to the children why they were spanked. Children should be given the proper discipline and letting them understand the reasons why. When children learn that if they did something wrong, there will be consequences for their actions. I do agree with you and we both know that we are not talking about being in the boundaries of child abuse. Just my thoughts. Take care always and have a nice day! lovelots..faith210

The bible essentially says spare the rod and spoil the child. I believe in smacking children to show the the "light" of obedience and conformity. Its not by mistake that most western economies are struggling with child crimes at the momemnt, children simply dont listen and no one can do anything about it. If we want a better society the age old concept of discipline needs to be part of the plan, otherwise our communities will just get worse and worse.

I am a parent and I do think that some amount of smacking is necessary to bring children up. Haven't you heard the Bible " Spare the rod and spoil the child." It is a universal truth and violence occurs on roadsides on increasing scale due to several other reasons. One is parents not looking after children and not developing a friendly approach. Everyone must smack but must not provoke the children to anger.

That Law was enforced in the UK a few Years ago and it is not working as Children have a hold over their Parents if the Parents smack them, they know that the Parents are breaking the Law and no matter what the Child did the Parent can actually go to Prison for trying to discipline the Child I did not smack mine often I did not need to as talking to them or Punishing them another Way like no TV, early to bed and things like that always was enough

I think the parents have all the right to spank their children if needed. I don't mean they should be cruel to their children but rather discipline them with a rod if needed. I don't think spanking the butt of a child who transgressed would even kill him. As the word of God of said. "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child but the rod of correction shall drive it away from him". So I believe the parents should discipline their children to show them the path to righteousness.

it is always a matter of explaining to he kid why you are doing it to them. You many not smack them but still you can discipline them in other ways. I don't say it is bad but I say it should be controlled. Too much of it is really bad and may really hurt the kid. We should avoid it as much as possible, I am guilty on this one. I do lay hands on my kids sometimes, but I try to avoid it most of the times. There's a lot more ways to discipline the kids. But passing a law is too much I think

Yes.. i do believe that smacking isn't a good way of disciplining your children.. instead of doing this kind of punishment, do something else that won't hurt or give emotional scar to your children.. you can give them advices or give minor reprimands such as not allowing them to use the phone for a week, etc..

I personally do not believe that spanking is an effective means of discipline. When kids behave properly because of fear of being punished, then the motivation to be good is not intrinsic. I follow positive/gentle discipline myself, but since my daughter is only two, I do not have my own success story to share as yet. I do know that my daughter does not hit her playmates. The other mothers have remarked on that. If you want to learn more about the different discipline styles, here's an article that discusses them: http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/big-story-your-discipline-style

No parents should not be banned for smacking untill and unless its proven that they are mentally sick.All the parents love their children what ever they do they do for the good of their children they are not enemies of their kids they just want them to be better then what they are. Guess what to igive iron a proper shape it is beaten sometime so that the efficiency of iron improves same way we need to smack our kids to teach whats wrong and what's right there is no harm in it. Smacking is like that chemical which is mixed in gold to help it glitter. I think that explains everything. By take care.

Excess of everything is poisoness same way smacking children all the time will have adverse impact but doesnt mean you wont smack your kid when they cross their limit. ok let me quote few examples we all know when you eat more what happens you get sick so what you do you eat in limit to avoid complication. See smacking can be used but in a limit that too to decipline and polish your kid not as a habit. Like you do for diamond you polish it. Same way What i am saying is everything should be done in a limit. A small dose of poision can take life and a small dose of poision in other case saves life. Depends on you how you use it.Same way you smack when no other alternative is there.I hope you got what iam trying to explain.

I believe in spanking a child on occasion doesn't leave scars for life. That is a bunch of huey. Most often the spanking id forgotten after the child learns to stop what ever they were spanked for. I even believe there are occasions when a pop in the mouth is needed. Just enough o get the child attention. I don't believe that even spanking or the ops in public leaves lasting scars. When we started letting psychologist tell us how to raise our children is when we started having trouble with them. Now I don't think that spanking or pop in the mouth should be used all the time but often enough to get the childrens attention. I used these with my children and two of my grandchildren and they don't have any emotional scars because they knew and know that I love them. I think we worry too much about the kids sices(Spelling) and not enough about the final out come. which is well rounded responsible adults. Spanking and an occasional smack on the mouth doesn't teach kids to hit either.

Sometimes kids won't understand what your telling them unless they get punished this way. I know that some people emotionally overreact, but there also some positive 'management' in it. Consider it like this, if you drink and drive you get a fine, and usually you have to pay it in a old fashion money way. Now think about the influence if there were people who actually punched you a few times when you did that. I think many people would reconsider driving under influence over being smacked in them face a few times in a row.

Wow that's deep. Someone's been reading up and doing their homework. Truthfully i think it would be ok to smack your children in a descretionary matter. As in occasionally when their really bad. I mean think about it if you did it everytime they did something bad they would end up even more hated. But if you don't do it all he'll walk all over you. So if you do it just right you may make a good kid out of the whole deal.

Hello lingli_78! I don't really against with smacking because I myself had been smacked when I was young. I have nothing against my parents and I do love them very much. I even thank them for disciplining me.

i definitely don't consider a minor smacking an act of domestic violence or child abuse. I've been smacked a lot of times before, but never to the point of getting injured. Parents should note that smacking must not cause injury to the child. They must punish because the child committed an offense and not just because the parents had a bad mood that day and the kid was bothersome and all that. There must be a sound reason for doing that. And most importantly, the child must understand why she/he was being smacked for. Otherwise, he'll rebel not knowing why he was hurt for doing something that he thought wasn't wrong. I'm not a mom yet, but I learned all those things from my own mom and fellow mylotters.

I don't think a government should get involved with how a person disciplines their child unless it's a abuse case. Before I had kids, I swore to myself that I wouldn't hit my kids in any manner for any reason. I've since learned that sometimes you need to. My boys are very strong willed and very opinionated which is fine as long as they don't get disrepectful. It's our job as parents to teach our children the difference between right and wrong and sometimes talking and punishing are not enough. I was hit as a kid and while i hated it back then, as a mother I can understand.