Scrapping pictures with scrapping people!

@jillhill (37379)
United States
January 8, 2009 7:58pm CST
When you are scrapping and there has been a fall out between two members of the family...do you still put them in your scrapbooks? My daugher has been married twice. The last family picture we had before my mom died was at her first wedding. I haven't scrapped the event because she is now married to a wonderful man....but I really want to have a memory of my mother at the wedding...So what do you do? Do you leave the pictures out with the ex spouse in them? Or do you still scrap them because it's part of your life?
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@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hello, I in fact put people in my scrapbooks that are no longer part of my life only because my scrapbook I started when I was with my ex. So it has pictures of my ex in there along with pictures of my 2 children I had with him. The book is for them when they come to find me so I figured it was only right that the book had pictures of their father in it. But with me being married to someone else now, I even put his picture in there too because he is there step-dad. There are even pictures of my other 2 children that I have with my husband in there. I think for me it is a closure thing and that is why the pictures of my ex in there. Happy Mylotting
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I think you are right....put him in. He was part of our lives!
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Thank you for your comment, He will always be part of the family even if he is no longer in the picture. Happy Mylotting
@Seppy1984 (2145)
• United States
14 Feb 09
Thank you for the best response
• United States
9 Jan 09
I wouldn't get rid of the picture because it is of your Mom. You're not hanging onto the picture because you liked her ex alot, it has nothing to do with him. In this particular case, under the circumstances, I think everyone would certainly understand. You can always mark it somehow in your scrapbook "Last family picture with Mom", or something like that. Do you know what I mean? Just make it a "reference to her" more or less so anyone seeing it will know. Or like "Mom and then the date". I'm trying, really trying to help you but can't seem to get out what I'm talking about, lol! I could never write for a living, haha. Take care.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
What's really scary is that I understand what you are saying! LOL
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• United States
9 Jan 09
HaHaHa, we'll call it a meeting of the minds. Oh my gosh, someone else thinks like me? Yup, you are right, it's scary, lol!
@SukiSmiles (1998)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Somehow, I missed a whole bunch of scrapbooking discussions two weeks ago. But I agree with Kash..cat above. It's not like you are doing it because it is your daughter's ex, it's because of your mom. I also agree that he was a person in your lives at one point in time, so it's not like you can just make him disappear. I have tons of photos of exboyfriends, but they are not scrapbooked yet, because they are just not that important to me. I have lots of other things to scrapbook - like my kids. Maybe I'll go back and do them some day if I ever get caught up. Because even though they are ex's they were still part of my life and I did have some good times with them.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Yes....he was part of our lives for several years...and we did have some mighty good times with him!
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
9 Jan 09
I had this problem with my eldest sister. She was staying with me and we were looking through photographs and she came across some of her wedding. I was only 16 in the photos and this is the only photo that I have of myself at this age. My parents never took photos of us. My father was in the photograph along with my sister and it was taken just as we were all entering the Church. She went crazy even though she divorced him over 20 years ago! She grabbed the photo to tear it up and I protested vehemently and grabbed it back, much to her horror. It was her divorce but this photo is of my sister looking very beautiful, my father looking so handsome and me looking so young and pretty. Why should I allow it to be destroyed? This event happened. She did marry this man and that fact cannot be erased so why do I have to destroy a photograph of us that will pass dowen to my children? She was so cross with me.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
It's very hard to know what to do....my daughter was absolutely beautiful in the pictures! And it was part of our life so I might do it then hide the scrapbook! LOL
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I would choose to put all the pictures in the scrapbook. Sometimes when there is a falling out, life can change. I'd definitely put the picture of your mom in the book no matter who is in the photo with her. I have a great family photo of our oldest daughter when she was married. My now deceased mother-in-law is in the picture. This daughter is now divorced and I seriously thought about cutting out my ex-son-in-law's picture and replacing with a photo of our dog. I still may do it just for grins. There were no children involved so our daughter has no contact with him.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
My neice that just got married had pictures of her old boyfriend sitting around the house. She came home one day and found her new boyfriend had cut all the faces of her old boyfriend out of the photos and put his in place! LOL..it's so cute....I maybe could do that too! LOL
• United States
9 Jan 09
i take any enemies out or ex friends out unless we ended on an ok note.. but i wouldn't include them in a scrapbook unless it would seriously deform the picture or something.. but i cant tell you how many pictures i have chopped up lol
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
There will be some cropping here too..
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I put every picture that I have in the scrap book.. I have some 40 years of pictures and am almost through scrapbooking them.. I don't get along nor speak to about 5 of my sisters but I can't bring myself to delete them.. I have pictures of my son and his ex-girl friend but none of his new.. I will wait for awhile before putting her in there.. I am on break from the scrapbooking, it is a job..
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
It is a big job.....but so much fun!
@PearlGrace (3172)
• United States
9 Jan 09
I am not a scrapper but I do occasionally put photos in a photo album, or just leave photos out for guests to browse. I think I would leave the picture in, but make sure I had plenty of more currently photos also. I'd tell the truth about why I thought the pictures were important, hopefully, then people wouldn't be angry/upset/disappointed about the pictures.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
My kids are pretty critcal..but they don't look at them that often so if they find them after I die.....oh well! LOL
@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
9 Jan 09
If you wish to keep a picture of your mother. You can always save that picture, crop it down and add it to the new scrap book. That way the ex isn't in there and you still get the picture of your mother.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Jan 09
He is in the family pictures and all the pictures with my daughter! LOL But I can crop him out of alot of them!