How to keep good friendship?
By Zhu Huifen
January 8, 2009 9:47pm CST
Friends are necessary for our happy life. They are my company, sometimes my extended brain and hands. We have similar experiences and share same values. But there are also difficult times in terms of relationship. In such cases, I tend to think of the good aspects of them, looking for possible excuses for their words or deeds which seemingly to be offending. I do not usually make explanation, or argument. For mature adults, I believe time is the best cure. Both will find way to calm down. I try to be the one to initiate a greeting or party to erase the grey shades. It is because I cherish the friendship developed over years. I cannot do without friends.
9 Jan 09
Based on what you posted here, I can say that you are a wonderful person.It is a good thing that you are not a person of "pride." Not everyone can put down their pride and I admit that pride is one big reason why any kind of relationship falls -- be it love or friendship matters.I am sorry to say to myself that I am not like you. I can say I am a person full of pride sometimes, especially when it hurt my ego. And because of this attitude of mine, I made some of my friends cry whenever we got into a quarrel.I admit that I cry also whenever I ignore my friends because I treat them as real brother or sister but my pride is being an obstacle for me to make peace with them.However, whenever I feel that it is so hard for me to give up my pride, I just put it in prayers. I am just human and I really need God to direct my wrong attitude in life. I always try my best to swallow my ego just for friendship's sake. I keep to say it in my prayers so I can keep all of my friends. Moreover is I can have a long and lasting relationships with them.Being honest with them, is also a good sign to build good friendship. Making things understandable between each of you is a must for friendships. By this, I mean that communication plays a vital role.Loving and caring must also always be there. Whenever people feel concerns from others, it gives them a sense of happiness. I believe that being concern with your friends feelings is great also.
• United States
10 Jan 09
These are some good thoughts. I think a lot of times it is important to have Good friends. When you have others that you can go out for Coffee with, or to be able to confide in when the going gets tough, that is a Great thing for sure. I have a couple of people I feel I can count on, and would not trade. Especially when times are rough like now, most people need Friends they can count on and call on more than ever.
• United States
9 Jan 09
Honesty and love is my policy. My friends know that if they want an honest answer, they'll get one from me. Even if it hurts. I don't hold back with them. But I am also there to guide them, comfort them and be that shoulder for them to cry on. I also accept their time and place in my life. I do not hold on to what was in the relationship, or worry about what will be. I take each relationship as it comes, and let it go when its time.