catch me i'm falling!
• United States
9 Jan 09
If you are truly falling in love with someone then you can not help but tell them how you feel. Unfortunately, all to often, we think we are falling in love with someone... it isn't until you have found true love that you realize you were never really in love with anyone before. The false sense of falling in love is what can cause rejection. Don't mistake lust, or intense like for love. When you are in love with someone there is no fear, there is no rejection, you are completely open to that person and they are just the same towards you.
9 Jan 09
I'm scared of rejection first and foremost, and then scared i'll lose a friend if the guy i like is a close friend. I don't want any awkwardness after my confession so i keep reconsidering until i do nothing. I hold back a lot in this kind of thing and it makes me regret sometimes. I guess if you truly like someone you just got to come out and say it, at least to know how he feels. Otherwise you'll be left trying to find signs from his words and body language forever haha.
9 Jan 09
well, that's a normal feeling i guess. you know, falling in love..but for me, right now..i'd rather hold it back and not tell the person. there are many reasons behind it. first, i'm a girl. meaning,i'd rather let the guys do the telling. second, i'm still young, no need to rush things. third, i think it's not yet the right time. i'm focused on my priorities right now- ministry,family,work. telling someone about how i feel will probably distract me from my focus. fourth, if i tell them how i feel, there's no assurance that they feel the same way, so why take the risk. you can't take back what you already said. i'm not saying that you should not fall in love. just take it easy, wait for the perfect tym. it will surely come. and when it comes, it sure is best.
9 Jan 09
yeah. there has been a time when i realized that i was falling in love with a person but i never told him and like you guessed correctly it was the fear of rejection in me that stopped me. The fear of rejection is something that i have never been able to come out of in my entire life. During childhood i was scared to ask my parents something coz i thought they would refuse to buy me and that would hurt me more than me not asking. Same thing happens with my love life as well. Unfortunately my fear of rejection came true as my best pal went and asked this guy if he was interested and it turned out that he was not.. So there i was again,feeling rejected..