Good news, you got promoted, Bad news, she didn't
By Bella75
@nixxi76 (3191)
Canada
January 9, 2009 8:42pm CST
Recently I wrote a discussion about a fellow co-worker being late 125 times in a year and being put on probation. She has been fighting for a fulltime position and our work will not give it to her because of her always going to the union and creating ruffles in the water (so to say) with our employer. I asked all mylotters what they thought an employer should choose between senority or promptness. Most of you answered that being on time, showing up for shifts and just keeping your nose to the grindstone would have a positive outlook and the employer would most likely go with that. Well you were right. I want to thank all who responded to that discussion and gave me a positive look at what I was getting into.
I just got promoted to fulltime and now I"m a little nervous about that other co-worker finding out. Eventually she will find out but unless they offered her a fulltime position as well then I have a feeling she's going to hold this against me and use it as filing out another greivence as she did already for them asking me to work a double shift when they didn't call her. (She didn't get it but she sure did try) I am realy getting tired of her pulling me on her side without a choice. I see she's the type that is out for herself and would drag another person down in the dirt with her. Unfortunitly she works all nightshifts too and our shifts happen to land on the same ones.
I'm not sure how to react to what she's going to do when she finds out I got fulltime. I'm sort of hoping that they offered her a position too because there were four positions opened because if they didn't, then I'm in for a rough ride with her.
If you have any suggestions I would appreciate them.
7 responses
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
15 Jan 09
congrats! :)
i'd just tell her hey,i just work here..i don't make the decisions.
what can she really say to that?
if she's a constant filer she'll probably file a grievance no matter what you say,
and with her record it'll most likely speed up them finding a way to terminate her.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
15 Jan 09
that's not a bad deal at all.
i agree-we need something-i don't think there'll be much left after the last generation collects.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
When it comes to education and getting further ahead, my boss is all for that so what he does every couple of years or so.. he will allow about four people to get certified and send them to school and pay them for that. That co-worker decided to ask him too late and he denied her so she went to her dad and borrowed money for this course and took it her own way. Now she's claiming that our boss hates her because of this lol. I don't think he hates her but I do know that he thinks that she's very irresponsible because of her wanting to opt out on our pension plans. She has three young children and he tries to look out for us in the long run by making us join a pension plan because of the way it looks.. the babyboomers are going to have claimed all the pension by the time our age generation is going to retire so there maybe next to nothing to take. Sure we have to put money into this every paycheck but our employer also matches us dollar for dollar and in no time say a year's time goes by.. $3000.00 gets saved up by then. It's actually a great plan.
Thanks for your comment
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
10 Jan 09
TEll ya what if she is just part time help I dont see where she has a bi**h coming .
You might have to try to ignore her.
and that can be hard.
Might have a long talk with women that put you on steady as she looks at the things that has happened they just might let her go , then you would be ok. Just a sugjestion!
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@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
oh wow!
hi nixxi! that is a tough situation to be in. there is one thing i can tell you though: be careful.
i mean enjoy your job and your responsibilities but do make sure that you don't have lose ends. do not lose your integrity so that she or your bosses will not find a reason to get you into the dirt.
she is a lousy co-worker. but i do hope things will look brighter for your and that your superiors will see it in her that she is not worthy.
anyway, i do hope that your efforts will be rewarded.
take care and God bless you! :-)
@dropofrain (1167)
• India
10 Jan 09
It is really bad to hear such a thing about your colleage. These times are really togh for you as a person. You actually need to put i a lot of efforts to show everything is in place. Just ask her to show more commitment towards the job.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
It's very difficult to get into a debate or even bring up real facts with her because she thinks she's always right. In my eyes, it looks pretty bad when a co-worker is always trying to get after the company by sicking the union after them. That just goes to say that she can't fight her battles on her own.
Thanks for your comment
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
10 Jan 09
From what you have said I'm sure that the company knows what kind of person she is. Just keep doing the good work that you did that got you the promotion and don't worry about what this person thinks or does. If she tries to make trouble for you I'm sure the company will consider the source and you won't have anything to worry about. In reality the only one she is hurting by her attitude is herself. She apparently feels like she is owed something in this life that she is unwilling to work for. She is no threat to you as long as you do what is right.
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@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
Very good points here savak and I'm not going to let her get to me by trying to ruin this happiness. I truely hope they offered her a fulltime position so I don't have to hear how unfair it is for her. It's a really sickning ongoing problem with her.
Thanks for your comment
@LuckyLadyD (359)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I didn't respond to your previous posts, as I am a brand new user.
However, from what I understand, you sought advice, and used it well.
It's ashame that you can't enjoy the promotion you just received because of a co-worker you truly seem afraid of.
Unfortunately, you yourself may have to complain to your superiors about her, and maybe even file a grevience of your own.
Mind you, I truly hope it won't come to that, but if it does, it's best you take the official way of dealing with it rather that just being the better person and putting up with it.
The decision to give you the promotion was not made by you, however, the consequences may be placed squarely on your shoulders by your co-workers.
So, you should probably put a game plan together. You could develop plan A, B, C, and D. D should be your the last resort.
I wish you well with this dilema, and truly hope it all works out for you.
You should be able to work without being afraid, and you should most certainly be able to enjoy the fruits of your sacrifices, and labor.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
10 Jan 09
HI luckylady and welcome to mylot!
Thanks for your comments and advice and I do plan on coming up with alphabetical plans incase this backfires in my face. I'm going to have to just go to work and if she confronts me then I will tell her the truth. There's a reason they asked me to take this full time position and I thought it would benifit my life, and I"m sure she would do the same thing as she's been fighting hard to get it. I think that's her problem, she's trying too hard. It always works out that way for some reason.
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
..just move on.. be courageous and strong enough.. it is not your fault to be promoted so even if your co-worker file a grievance, it will not affect your promotion.. be kind and don't bad mouth her..
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