Do you choose your friends?

@JannaLee (660)
Philippines
January 10, 2009 9:24am CST
People say that it's quite inappropriate to choose friends, since you may hurt other people if you don't choose them, or shall we say include them in your preferences. However, let's accept the fact that we don't get along smoothly with everyone. Thus we have a couple of pals whom we can be with, and we choose them. With these, I guess there's nothing wrong with choosing friends. What's your opinion about this?
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• China
11 Jan 09
I also think that it is a difficuty problem .Usually i didn`t introduce my friend to other friends, so i don`t know it is right or wrong.but i can get along well with other friends . I will tell them if i plan to marry.this is my opinion,thank you.
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• United States
11 Jan 09
well no they just pop up in many ways you can be walking home and your money drop and they see it and tell you. and the next day you see the same person who said something about your money falling out of your pocket. so you ask them if they drink or smoke then there on that same person is all ways going to come to your house if he or she knew where you live
• India
11 Jan 09
good review
• India
11 Jan 09
ya
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
I choose my friends; life is too short to spend it with people you are not compatible with. I think people meet and if they are meant to be friends they will naturally be drawn to each other. Your family on the other hand; you don't get to choose them!
• United States
12 Jan 09
Choosing our friendships is a skill actually that's developed throughout one's lifetime. For example, in high school, you might choose the "cool" friends because you want to be cool to....it was that simple. As an adult, we might choose our friends who we might want to network with for a career move. As we grow older, our patience wears thinner and thinner. Therefore, we grow to be a bit pickier about who we keep company with. So, is it a bad thing? No, not really. It might be the smart thing to do. You might consider it using people, others call it networking. As long as you're honest in your intentions and not out to hurt or degradate, what's the harm? If you're a lucky soul, you might make a friend who one day gets you that promotion you've worked so hard for otherwise. Just remember these wise words. You are what you eat and you are who you socialize with. If you feel a person will only drag you down, stay away from them because they probably will! If you choose your friends based on what they can do for you, just prepared to do something for them. That's only fair.
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
I used not to choose my friends, until a friend of mine did something that changed my life and my children's life forever. Since then i thought to myself,i think it is time to start choosing who you hang around with and who you can trust with you most delicate information. So yeah, it is better to choose your friends.
• India
11 Jan 09
You are quite right...We have to choose friends by ourself
@righty (6)
• Brunei Darussalam
11 Jan 09
How many JEWS does it take to make a HOLOCAUST? The answer is ALL OF THEM
@hotsummer (10523)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
wish i have chosen my friends well. cause i have not. not that i have been in bad crowd or peers. but i was not able to choose also those that i consider important or even liked at first impression. but because i felt that they will not like me anyways, that i misjudged that person a not good person to associate with. i was wrong. wish that i have not just easily make presumptions before. and so i have should been with friends or friend that i really love to hand out with. well i could not bring back the time when i was young. there was lots of times that i lost. and there are not much opportunity to start the friendship at this age. i have been thinking of this person for many years now. it had brought such a deep pain in my soul. i have not been at peace for a long time because of this. there are many times or occasion i was thinking of the person over and over again. i just got confused how such a simple problem as losing a person that was not yet a friend totally but lose just because of my own fault. and how did this incident brought such a deep pain in my heart realizing that i could not see the person or have not seen the person because of what i did. i regretted the action or decision that i did. wish i could talk or see the person again. wish that i will be able to speak to him in person.
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 09
i choose my friend cause i dont want to be hurt. its difficult to find a good friend now. when we know n meet friend sometimes they lie about their selves n promised
@davido (1623)
• Canada
11 Jan 09
It is very important to choose your friends because not all the people you come across in life are of the same upbringing, ideology and belief. Your intuition will always guide you in making such decision.
@gegechen (13)
• China
11 Jan 09
It's hard to say .I think it's very difficult to make a real friend .The problem about friends always trouble me .I only have made several friends during my high school time .I think friend is a person who will courage and help you when you are in trouble .And share his or her happiness and sadness with you .He (she )will always be consistently himself (herself) .If a person have these requirements .He wiil be your real friend .
@cedric_a (12)
• Singapore
11 Jan 09
i think its alright if you decide to choose who you want to befriend and hang out with. the main issue i think would be whether will your intention to befriend someone be reciprocrated? What if the person you want to befriend, doesnt want to befriend you? Choosing your friends is also a wise choice if you avoid hanging around bad company. But always remember that even if you decide not befriend someone just because you think that " he's not cool enough", it doesnt give you the right to be nasty to him.
@arvintot (401)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Yes I kinda choose my friends just because to make sure that I will be alright with them that they will not be a bad influence in me...
• United States
10 Jan 09
Hi JannaLee, I have a bunch of friends, but my relationship with each one of them is different. I have friends I have known for years and some are relatively new acquintances, my friendships are constantly evolving, ebbing and flowing. Pretty much you are my friend until you prove otherwise. But one must describe the meaning of friend for themselves. I have friends that I just love to hang out with because they are just plain fun, and I have others that are in a more serious league, sharing the deeper more complicated sides of life with each other. But my very best friend is my husband, I have known him and he knows me, he is the only human on earth that knows me inside and out. So, I think everyone chooses their friends, and all of them are friends in varying degrees, based on time, trust, love, smiliarities. One of my better friends from church is a man that I have more disagreements with then anyone, but just like a sibling we argue, we makeup and we are furious if anyone talks against them, I can but they can't LOL! Best wishes in your friendships, be happy, be joyful, be safe, be strong!!! oohcute2340
• United States
10 Jan 09
I think it is important to not only chose our friends, but choose them wisely. A great friend can build us up, help in times of need, correct us lovingly when needed, and always be there no matter what. A bad froend can bring us down, only call when they need something, hurt us over and over, and abuse the love we give. Its important to have "friends" of both kinds in order for us to remain balanced. BUT the good should always outweigh the bad.
• India
10 Jan 09
Your question is slightly confusing.I might choose people with whom I have to deal.And among these people some become my friends and others remains as and when situation requires of them and of me.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I don't know if it is so much that we choose friends is it is human nature that we hang out with people we have things in common with. Those people that we do not hang out with or that we have not chosen to hang out with are people that really wouldn't want to any way. They would have nothing in common with us and would want to hang out with other people that share thier interest.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
10 Jan 09
Yes I do choose my friends. I prefer to mingle with persons who are nice and who are kind. Everybody has his likes and dislikes. I don't think that we can do much about that. I prefer a few and good friends with whom I feel confident to share my true feelings and opinions. (c) ronaldinu 2009 - the more people I meet-the more I love my dog
@23uday (2998)
• India
10 Jan 09
hi friends yes its quite true that we cannot move freely with each and every person we meet.i prefer staying close to people who pretty well understand me and help me when i am low.i am really happy that i have got really very nice friends who are always ther for me. bye!!!!!!!!!!!
• India
10 Jan 09
i always choose the friends.because once,one my friend stole a jewel from my house and i came to know from one of his friends from then i make it a point to choose my friends and trust them.once they have become my friends ,i give anything for them.i dont have any preferences among my friends,i always think that all are equal to me...happy myloting and have a enjoyable weekend.....