OMG - Her Live-In Boyfriend Has A Personals Ad Online!

United States
January 11, 2009 7:52pm CST
I couldn't believe it last night. I was was browsing some online personals ads and I came across a man who is the live-in boyfriend of someone I know very well. I thought maybe it was an old ad that maybe he had before he met his girlfriend, but no, it wasn't. It showed that he was recently active on the site and some of the pictures he had on the ad were taken at his girlfriends house. The ad said that he was single, lived alone when in fact he is living just up the street from me with this lady and her 2 children. This is crazy, I tell you! Have you ever ran across something like this before where someone was saying that they were single, etc when in fact they aren't?
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24 responses
• United States
12 Jan 09
Oh wow, that is crazy. Yeah actually I have noticed this of one of my friends fiance' actually, he has a myspace account and he has still single and he is active and everything but his fiance, my friend, she has on her page engaged. I'm like hmmm, does she notice that he still has himself single and does she mind. It shows that he just put it up and stuff. So I don't know maybe, he forgot to change it or what, but they've been together for like 9 months.
• United States
12 Jan 09
Yeah, I've notice people's myspace pages being like that. It is crazy. To me if you are happy and in love you won't forget to change something like that because you would want everyone to know how happy you are to have someone special in your life. Maybe some guys just don't think or don't care how their girlfriends would feel.
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• United States
12 Jan 09
Yeah exactly, I know after my husband and I got married, we were both so happy that we changed our status right away on our myspace pages from engaged to married. Even when we started dating from single to in a relationship. Like you said though, I think most guys just don't care or care about their significant other's feelings.
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• Netherlands
27 Jan 09
I had my myspace account LONG before I had met my last boyfriend. When we got together, I simply never thought about switching my status on myspace. I mean, really.... As though I actually felt it that important. I don't use myspace to flirt or anything. Anyway my boyfriend had mentioned my status and I told him it never crossed my mind and I changed it because he asked but really there was no reason behind it. I never out much importance on my myspace or any of that nonsense.
@tammytwo (4302)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Wow, how rude of him. I did have a neighbor that came over one evening and was having some drinks with my husband and another friend while I was away at a meeting for a bit. When I got home of course my husband wanted me to sit and chat with them, something I hate to do because I don't drink and I think the guys need a little buddy time. But I gave in and made him happy but I soon found out I would have been happier if I hadn't. My neighbor blurted out that he is cheating on his wife and has been with several women. Now I know he has done this in the past and the wife believes he has learned his lesson and will never do it again. I can't even look her in the eye anymore. I want to tell her so badly that he is still being an inconsiderate jerk.
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@ktosea (2025)
• China
12 Jan 09
seems the old adage"Once a cheater,always a cheater" works for the jerk you mentioned.I guess he will never learn his lesson from what he did,this is something like his own natural character and I think he will never chang back as he has done this many times but never lean a lesson.He may think that he is right but not a jerk but really he is!
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@ktosea (2025)
• China
12 Jan 09
it's a funny world as everything you can think of could be happened. not only guys,girls cheat their boyfriends or husband too.how a cruel world it is.
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• China
12 Jan 09
refuse this phenumone! i can think it is true! never think this is the things happend around us!
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
13 Jan 09
I had a friend who was like that. His wife was six months pregnant with their first child. He had lost his job and was in the process of getting another one. So his friend, who was my boss, brought him to the cyber cafe. I regretted teaching him on how to make friends after his consistent failure in maintaining a conversation with girls in chat rooms. He followed my advice and managed to attract the attention of several girls. He claimed he was single and belongs to a royal family and many fell for his scam. Whenever he wanted to discard a girl he told her he was going to be married off by his mother. At least one girl had her heart broken. He refused to stop doing it. His friend did not believe he did it until he had a chat with one of the girls by accident. He may be still at it. all the best, rosdimy
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@gracie04 (4554)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Yay, that's awful! in my case, i found my hubby's ex gf myspace account.. she visited her account last august of 2008 and she didn't update her status yet.. she's still in a relationship with my hubby.. duh!!! we've been together for barely four years!!! so please, stop fantasizing about my hubby, b****!
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
Oh tell me about it, people seem to think that they're trapped with their present relationships that when they do go online, they pretend to be single. I've come across a lot of those in my fair share of the internet world, and it doesn't surprise me that a guy would ever do that to his live-in partner or even his wife. Now, I ask you, what are you going to do about it? Did you tell your friend? It hurts doesn't it? I mean, I for one have just gone through that (not the same instance though) that I thought he was no longer looking for someone because we talked about it a few weeks back and we told each other that we stopped looking and were contented with us. And lo and behold, I find out that he is indeed still looking. It was really hurting and regardless if it's only a joke or just nothing, it still hurts big time.
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I used to 'date' this guy and on his myspace he said he was single... but I guess that's not what your talking about. I think it's crazy and I would definitely invite the friend over and let her see this for herself, as she needs to know what kind of man he is. Who knows whether he'll sneak a girl in when the kids and mom are away.
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• Australia
12 Jan 09
That's just so wrong and so sick! Tell the lady that he's with. She deserves to know, I know anyone would like to know if they were being cheated on. And show her the PROOF. Or she won't believe you. All the best, xx
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• United States
12 Jan 09
I don't know. I don't think I could tell her because if I do then everyone will think I'm meddling in their affairs and it is none of my business.
• United States
12 Jan 09
my thought exactly tell her omg I will tell her send me the link pweety princess we are on the same page here tell tell tell I know if my bf was to cheat on me and someone knew and dint tell me I would be ticked off put yourself in her shoes this is something she needs to know plus their are to kids involved omg what a a-hole
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@halynn (1809)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Man that's horrible. Are you going to tell your friend about it?
• United States
14 Jan 09
No, I don't think I will. I don't want to be a "troublemaker" so to speak.
@breepeace (3024)
• Canada
12 Jan 09
My ex boyfriend did this to me after we'd been together for a few months. Even worse, he had actually used a picture of the 2 of us that a friend had taken, and cropped me out of it!!
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• United States
14 Jan 09
OMG, that would have totally pissed me off!
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Many guys are this way. Said to say they are living double life. One life is easy and secure, the other is childish and not fair. I met many people doing the same thing. I know someone who is dating for many months and her profile is still on and active. This is not fair game. Your friend should start her profile and respond to his profile...I wish to see his face...
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• United States
12 Jan 09
Yes, I thought about responding to his profile, just to see he would say.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
12 Jan 09
This man must have a very low character, singlemommy, to betray his girlfriend this way. Sadly, these things happen more often than you might think. You didn't say how good a friend you are to her, but I don't believe that ignorance is bliss, so if she was a good friend of mine I would let her know about it.
• United States
12 Jan 09
back when my finace and i first got together he had created some accounts on fling and adultfriendfinder and sites like that i found them one day and i went off it took him a while to stop but he finally did.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
It could also be that someone stole his pictures which could be readily available online. Maybe he or she used to make a profile then make it as his/her own possibly to fool someone or just to have an immediate profile. That kind of thing normally happens online that's why we shouldn't believe it right away. I see people with "single" status online but they're actually not and to me it's like attracting more people to view your website and gain friends. That would somehow be unfair to the partner.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
12 Jan 09
Hi there, that's pretty bad - I wonder why he is doing this? I have never personally known anyone to be on a Personals site whilst they are in a committed relationship and I'd be mortified if one of my friends was involved. Your friend must be in what she sees as a serious relationship as they are living together - I think that I would want my friend to know the truth, especially if she is really into him. Whilst it may appear like meddling, and I am sure there would be many people who would advise you to stay out of it, I think that by telling your friend what you know, you could end up saving her a lot of heartache down the line
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@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I guess a lot of people do not tell the truth about themselves online. I guess people feel more confident when it comes to lying about themselves online because it is very convenient. A lot of people who meet online and fell in love didn't even recognize each other when they finally get to see each other face to face. I guess that your friend's boyfriend is just one of the millions of people who gloss up their online profile to make them look more attractive and interesting to others.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
12 Jan 09
H[i]i singlemommy, I don't know anyone of my friends or acquaintances who are doing like that or maybe I just didn't encounter....But, that is very alarming! I will be shocked if I know someone who will pretend to be single![/i]
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• Netherlands
27 Jan 09
My last boyfriend did this. He made a profile with a dating site while we were still together. I found out about it because he had borrowed my laptop and he did not log out his email and when i go to my laptop the screen was up and I wasn't really trying to see but it was right there.... A subject line that was welcoming him to the dating site and I saw the date was a few days earlier and two emails after showing him possible matches. I didnt open his email but the subject lines were enough. I asked him and he denied it. So I let it go but I left him a week later forever and I told him his user name and the date he signed up and told him I hope it was worth it for him.
• United States
26 Jan 09
Hey' I subscribed to a single site, but I clearly stated that I was currently separated and I won't hide the fact that I am not divorced and I see no way to get divorced in the near future. I'm still a living being... Lonely too... And going through a lot of tough stuff... Nope nothing hidden here... As for my former partner, well she lied about me and she lied to others but I guess it is alright to lie for that is a very worldly thing to do. Be the light to the world, be the truth. Peace and Blessings,
@rmuxagirl (7559)
• United States
26 Jan 09
I actually found one of my best friend's boyfriends on a site like Hot Or Not and a few other sites. I Was appauled by it because my friend thought this guy was totally in love with her, but here he was looking for someone else. When I brought it up to him he told me they were old sites/profiles, and I couldn't do anything but believe him. Now they are getting married and when I check, hes not on any of them anymore.
• United States
25 Jan 09
Wow, that's something OMG, it doesn't surprise me, a lot of men do that, but I wuld tell on him, oh yes!!!