After spending whole night with a guy,she says i love u still!!!!!!!!!!!!!

India
January 12, 2009 6:45am CST
hello friends... i amvery sad at this moment to write this discussion here... i have one question about my personal life... my girlfriend have shared all with a guy in one night. after 3 days she tells me that she did this all but still loves me. how can it possible???/ should i trust on her or not. I am planing to breakup with her and to kill that guy. suggest me the right path.... help me... thanks..
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@sniper7 (13)
• India
13 Jan 09
One thing I tell you, dont be anger just relax and talk to her, what is the reason behind all this?Why she shared herself with another guy, find the reason very frank to say that may be she like you but you have never fullfilled her urge, you never understand what she want what she needs, Ask her and try to complete her all wishes, If she shared herself with other guy ,I m sorry to say that but its true ,its your fault This is my advice to you dont break up without any proper reason Love is very precious, Its hard to find true love Best of Luck
• India
13 Jan 09
i am not sure about ur thoughts... if she loves me to fullfil her wishes..then it is not love..got it.. love is not for taking something ..it is just to give all..
• India
13 Jan 09
Different people loves in different ways as they view love with different angle but all come to one point that is love , Do you have the reason why she shared her , Did you asked her
• India
13 Jan 09
whatever the reason behind that but it is not love...to share herself with another guy in any manner..
@thanxiang (126)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
In Your situation is really hard to decide whether to break up with your gf or not.The fact that she cheated on you,well,i guess you have the right to break up with her.It is hard to trust again after the things she did.If she is serious to you,then he cant do it,making love with other guy is not good so why not give up her and wait for the right girl for you.You deserve someone else.that type of gf you have now is hard to trust again.If she's a decent woman and committed to you,she will not sleep and make love with other guy except to you.By the way,don't kill the boy she has made love.For what that you will kill him?For you to be in prison after killing him?why not go on with your life and move on.Somewhere out there deserves your trust and love.your gf was not faithful to you so why give her another chance?Anyways,that's your life.I am just here to give you the advice,the final decision is yours and just weigh things properly and dont always use your heart,use your mind also.
• India
13 Jan 09
yes you are right . she have cheated me and now i am not able to give her anymore chance. but i can't love someone else too .it's true.
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Hey,you can still love someone else.Just wait for the right girl and dont be in a hurry.The right one will come in a right place and right time.You made a nice choice and i salute you for that.I know that's not easy coz i guess you really love the girl but everything happens for a reason so just be hopeful always.good luck to you!
• India
13 Jan 09
yes...i will keep this thing in my mind... but right now i am jjst trying to forget her.
• India
13 Jan 09
Hi Gjsna Sorry for whatever has happened with you. But seriously if you don't want to deal with anymore, then please forget her. As far as i think, she has taken you for granted, because after doing all this she is still saying you that she loves you,because she knows you love her and you will surely come back and that would be the most foolish thing if you do it. I think you should talk to her and make her understand what she has done and you try to forget everything, don't bound yourself with in her, there are more beautiful things to do in life. And yes don't ever think of killing somebody! Goodluck Blessings
• India
13 Jan 09
I am feeling sad..as all are giving me some kind of satisfaction but why she didn't think about me while doing that all with him..
• India
14 Jan 09
i know its really hard for you to get out of all this, but seriously you have to.
@twinklee (894)
• India
12 Jan 09
Hmm.. it is really a pathetic situation. And your solution just depends on how much you both love each other. Do you know that guy? And you may question her why she had did this mistake to you. .. You just put the question, ask her to imagine in your situation and ask her what decision will she take? A sorry and I LOVE YOU , cannot be a solution for your heart ache.. It really hurts.. i can understand. Think on it.. decide whether she means to you, and henceforth she will not cheat you any more. Regarding your aggression on that guy, it is not needed, because you don't know whether he is the actual cause or not... THINK twice, thrice...or even more,it is your life
• India
12 Jan 09
i really love her very much.. but now i lost her...but why she is still sayig that she loves me
@twinklee (894)
• India
12 Jan 09
Ya, it really shows how much you love her, you have to first speak with her. Ask her what is her problem,was she compelled or whether it was her desire? also, ask her whether she was ethical to you...
• India
12 Jan 09
You can't trust her anymore becoz she has cheated you once. If she really loved you she wouldn't have indulged in such activity. So the best thing for you to do is to forget her and i'm sure you will forget her just as i have forgotten all my bitter past. There is a medicine for love disease and thats transferring love to another person. Automatically you will forget the first person and i guarantee you that there will be no pain in your heart when you remember her. Gud luck!
• India
13 Jan 09
yes...i am not able to forgive her... but what will be her aim behind saying i love you still.
• India
13 Jan 09
What is her aim is very difficult to tell without knowing her personally. But better forget her becoz the fact that she cheated you will be there in your mind forever and you wont have respect for her. And there is no point in marrying a girl whom you don't respect and not only that in future if she gets into that kind of situation she is likely to repeat her mistakes again becoz she has no control over her mind.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
12 Jan 09
Lol agreed with those up there ^ no point in killing the guy. But as for your girlfriend, well, i'd leave her if i were you, but its your choice and your life. If you love her enough to forgive her and forget, then thats okay for you isnt it.
• India
12 Jan 09
i have tried a lot to forget her and to forgive her too. but iam neither able to forget her nor to fogive her.. what i should do in this case
@lopium (33)
• Portugal
14 Jan 09
You will never forget that. Ever. The question is: with the time, if you can get over it, than there may be a chance that you can still be together. One thing to ease things out for you may be telling her that you want to do the same. If she could, why wouldn't you?
@smacksman (6072)
12 Jan 09
Maybe you think your relationship is more serious than she does. Maybe she thinks of you as one of many friends and therefore what she did was not cheating. Some girls simply enjoy the company of many men and see nothing wrong in it. Hmmm - and saying 'I love you' today is more often 'I like you'!
• India
12 Jan 09
so u want to say that she didn't do wrong...anything and to share all is good thing.. great!!!!! but i can't forgive her......
@smacksman (6072)
12 Jan 09
Much better you find out now the way her mind works than later when you have the responsibilities of marriage and children. Time to move on for you.
@chiaeugene (2226)
• China
13 Jan 09
i am just curious, how old are you now and are you sure she is the one you loved the most??? how many relationship have you got yourself into and do you think there are no better gals than her? for her to cheat you once, she can do it again so what is the point of keeping her unless u think she can be devoted to you. and what is the purpose of killing the gal, she had already slept with him and it would not change the facts. I say, life must go on and you can meet someone better who deserve your love. no point crying over a single fish in a pond when you can hunt for a bigger one in the ocean.
• India
14 Jan 09
i am just 22 years old..yes i loved her most of the most.
@Ravenladyj (22919)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Should you trust her? no IMO because she was being deceiptful and cheated...Is it possible to cheat but still love your partner? In some situations yea it is..I mean it would depend on what her reasons for doing it were I guess..
• India
14 Jan 09
i don't know that what was the reason behind that and i don't want to know too. she cheated me and still saying i love u.how it possible.if she loves me then she can't go for this all.
• United States
13 Jan 09
First of all, I think its not best to kill the guy. I mean really there is no point in doing that unless you are being sarcastic. Also, she spent a whole day with him how. Like cheating wise. I believe this is my stand point, I believe that if someone loves you that they will not cheat on you and they will not hurt you in any way. And for her to say that she still loves you, she may and then she may not know what she wants. This is in my opinion, I'm not telling you how you think or anything, but in my opinion, I believe if someone cheats on me then I would never be able to trust them. I mean its really hard to trust any one that cheated on you. There is no point in sticking around in a relationship if you can't trust her. You need to seriously do some thinking and decide on what you want to do. I hope everything works out for you and good luck.
• India
13 Jan 09
yes///there is no reason to forgive her and trust her anymore. thanks....
@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Life is too short forget about the both of them and move on. There is someone better waiting for you. Someone who will be true and someone you will be able to trust.
• India
13 Jan 09
yes...buddy i am just trying to do the same.. but..i am not getting sucess in forget her
@arijit2 (79)
• India
12 Jan 09
Just 1 advice - Do not kill anyone. I can imagine what you are going through , I really can. I have faced it- even worse I suppose.
• India
12 Jan 09
I'm sorry-there was a problem with my computer which made me post 2 times.
@arijit2 (79)
• India
12 Jan 09
Buddy i'm really sorry but i can't help you in this matter other than just giving 1 advice- don't kill anyone. u'll be sent to jail then. I can imagine what you are going through as I have gone through almost a same thing once.
• India
12 Jan 09
i love her most...and she is also saying that she also love me most
• India
12 Jan 09
Sounds like you are new to being in a relationship. Well i cannot tell you what to do and what not to do because its your life.. But i can make you think about what is good for you and what is not. First of all, whats the point of killing the guy? For all you know, he might have not even known that she was committed to you. For him, she was just soem girl willing to sleep with him. And guys never think twice after a woman offers herself. Secondly, if you want to break up with her, then go ahead.. She had cheated on you and you deserve every right to be angry and you can go away from her. But if you still love her and still trust her and still want to be with her, then give her one more chance... Other than this, what other right path do you want?
• India
12 Jan 09
i just wana to tell you..i can't forget her.. i really loves her.. she is my life
• Italy
14 Jan 09
My advice is: Do the same that she did: Find a girl, do whatever you want with her, and if on the other day you still feel that you love your girlfriend, it means that it can be true that she loves you too..and you'll be even, so you'll have nothing more to forgive her, since you've done the same... think about it.
@Des_diva (56)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Jan 09
hi there, well i was in a similar situation just that it happened before i met the man of my dreams. I thought that since i was going to start a serious relationship i said i will tell my spouse in the event that he changes his mind.Anymay what i'm getting at is that my spouse told me he forgive me because i told him and he did not hear it from someone else so you must give your girlfriend credit for that, i am not sure how strong and tough your relationship and love life is but my spouse told me that he love me so much that he don't think that there is anything he cannot forgive me for. You could forgive if you intend to spend the rest of your days with her but be careful that you don't bring up the topic too much because she may think that you did not forgive her. Good luck and i hope the decision you take is the one you really thought long and hard on and not just because yo were vex.
@kasata (34)
• India
13 Jan 09
The biggest thing is that she told you about what she did,which shows that she really loves you.The best thing to do is to say her that it should not happen again,if she does it again then definitely breakup with her.But i think she will never do it again.And ask her if she was compelled by that boy if she says yes then you can fight with that boy but dont kill him ...it may reduce your frustration and anger.byeee
• United States
13 Jan 09
Cheating is cheating. Not every woman is truly ready to be with just women. I am sorry!! Break up with her and move on, find yourself a lesbian, and hopefully a faithful one.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
13 Jan 09
it is very possible to be with someone and still care for another as well. my problem with be with her lying about the entire thing and not talking to you before hand. far as killing the other guy.. he really hasnt done anything wrong. yer girl is the one who went behind yer back and decieved you, not him. sit down and have a long honest conversation with yer girl. if at the end of it, you dont feel you want to be with her anymore, then end it. if the two of you can come to an understanding.. the possibles of an open relationship.. give it a shot.
• Nepal
13 Jan 09
ohh god, if its legal in your country,then "slap her 10 times non-stop then say i still love you, sorry to panic you,i believe in your love". Is she accept it .this may be legal too.