Question About Cheating

United States
January 13, 2009 8:28am CST
I was talking to my friend about this a couple nights ago and I am curious to see what others think. What do you think about cheating? Is it ever excusable? Like for example if the couple is just staying together for financial reasons or for the kids, in other words for convenience but there is no love. Would that make it ok?
6 responses
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I believe we do bad things because we compromise. We justify our behavior to do something we know is not right thus denying our responsibility. Infidelity is infidelity and it is not right whatever angle you look at it from. Like in every decision, we should be responsible to hold true the promise we give in marriage. If love is not present anymore then something happened, someone was careless to let the love die. Moreso, they should think of the children.
@btwmoney (111)
• United States
14 Jan 09
hi, I do not think cheating is good if you are student or if you want to do it in your business. Because cheating will either hurt yourself or hurt your reputation. In a word, cheating to others is to cheat yourself. However, when people get older and want to cheat to some established systems, it is smart. Actually there is a new word for it, named 'arbitrage'. In fact, you find some opportunity between two systems and you get profit from that. Essentially you are cheating, but actually you do not hurt anything and is fully legal. anyway, this is a interesting topic, happy mylotting!
• India
13 Jan 09
see this is actually not right that u are doing this only for ur financial or physical satisfaction, no love in that but ya if other one is ok with it than this is not cheating. but if he or she didn,t now this and thinking that u love him or her than it's realy a big cheating
• United States
13 Jan 09
if there's no love, there's no respect and that's damaging to kids. but if the couple has decided to have an "open" marriage, then they need to keep it quiet and not parade the partners in front of the kids. there's always excuses but never a good reason to cheat. they need to keep the communication lines open or open them back up again.
• Canada
13 Jan 09
Cheaters and lier i just can't stand.My husband and i are open mind about other peoples,meaning that i would prefere to be ask to bring a other girl to our bedroom than him going cheating on me.....and in 7 years it only appended 2 times,good time!!I would kick him on the street for cheating because that not right,it selfish.We have kids and that would be a terrible thing to do to them.I would prefere to take care of my kids alone and pay for everythings than to stay with someone i would have no respect for.Now i suppose it different for some peoples and i would not judge there decision,i imagine they are diffrent situation.
@nanayangel (7862)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
Hi there Ana! I believe that if the other party is okay with that kind of set-up, it wouldn't be called or considered cheating. But where marriage is concerned, and when both parties believe in the sacredness of marriage, that is still a sin in the eyes of God.