How many grandparents on Mylot are raising their own grandchildren?
By dvmurphy
@dvmurphy (326)
United States
January 13, 2009 10:19am CST
I would like to hear from others who are raising their grandchildren. I am raising my granddaughter now who just turned four years old in November. I also started a website two years ago www.iowagrandparentsrights.com for grandparents who are denied visitation to grandchildren. I have taken a lot of heat over my beliefs that grandparents should not be cut off from their grandchildren by groups for parents rights and by the younger generation but I stand behind the belief that sometimes a grandparent is the best option for a child other than adopted them out of reach of grandparents or putting them in the fostercare or group home system. It angers me that grandparents are descrimated against because of age or financial situations by the state. Con't kid yourself that age can't or wont be used against you.
3 responses
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
14 Jan 09
My case is a bit different as I am only partially caring for grand twins who are 31 months. Their mother is working in Dubai and my son and the twins live with me.My DIL is very loving and knows that I will care for them to the best of y ability. If we have a discipline issue or something then we discuss it together. She was out recently for a month and they are finding it difficult to settle down again as they are 6 months older. she will be here at Easter. Her being there is purely financial.
Of course GP can look after the grands - they love them and they are blood.It is better thasn achild/children going into an awful home or beinbg fostered out. To use age as a factor is rubbish. The only think needed is love and love and more love. God Bless You.
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@Ithink (10106)
• United States
13 Jan 09
We are raising our 2 year old granddaughter, just turned 2 Dec. 27th. We have had her since she was about 5 months old although she has always lived with us. We live in Pa and it is hard to find out how it all works. We have thought about going for custody but I'm afraid that they would find something wrong. We do have legal guardianship of her. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't give her to the father or even our daughter but who knows. So we are kinda just waiting.
You are right about being looked and shut-out of our grandbabies lives sometimes. Long story but I have 2 that were adopted out and we never get to see them. My daughter even won Superior Court and that was ignored here. We tried but werent allowed to fight for them. Again long story.
I agree when there is loving family, as long as they can do the job, they should be given the chance to raise their grandbabies. We love her so much and to think that someone could take her because they think we are to old or poor is bull!
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@jcay_lorna (433)
• Ireland
14 Jan 09
Hi! I'm not a grandmother myself but I am raised by my Late grandmother. It is sad to hear stories of children being sent t o fostercare because of this discrimination thing against grandparents raising their grandchildren. I grew up a happy person because my grandmother took care of me. An I am proud that she did and I love her so much. I miss her now and I know tha whatever i know in this world. I would attribute it to my grandmother who raised me. I'm sure you're granddaughter will feel the same way with you as I did with my granddaughter.
Goodluck on your endeavors and I'll check out your website soon.
