How to Drop Hints...

You two have a baby...was that part of his five year plan? I'm not trying to sound like a prude, I've been in live-in relationships, too, but a number is just that, a number. What kind of message is getting married when your child is old enough to understand what's happening going to send to him/her? If the two of you are committed to each other, I don't see how making the relationship legal changes anything. I would have already sat him down and had a talk with him.

There is no rush to marry. It sounds like he plans to stay around. But be true to yourself too. Say what you feel. That 5 year plan is not a true five year plan without taking into account how you both feel.

i don't think i will be able to wait for that long as well if i were in your position... especially you already have a baby with him... i don't know what he is waiting for... i will have a serious chat with him and ask him his reasons for asking me to wait for another 4 years... that is simply too long... and the fact that you had been with him for 2 years is already long enough in my opinion... so i wouldn't be dropping hints to him anymore... i will get straight to the point with him... take care and have a nice day...

Dropping hints why not but I must warn you most men are very bad at recognizing one! NO pun intented guys .. but I have learned that if I want something from my husband a hint is not enough ... If i dont want to end up being disappointed I am to clearly state what I am expecting .... HINT: (movie is starting soon, hubby calling me, I answer ) Honey I'm not finished yet and there are still all the dishes to wash (HINt) HIm : ok Just wanted to let you know (he missed my hint) Me: well if you come and help me i m sure we will have finished before the movie starts .... and he came! and we finished in time!! NOw I know youtr situation is different but my point is if he doesnt know what you expect from him very clearly there are almost no chance he is going to fulfill yuour wishes ... have you ever told him how much you were dying to get married?

I don't think there is any rush to get married, me and my partner have been living together for 5 years and have been engaged for 2 of them, we are planning to wait another 2 years before getting married. Being married doesn't change anything, its just a piece of paper at the end of the day. I think you should just enjoy being together for now and just see what happens.

Hints? Humm.. Well I started off by stopping by any ring we passed and just made little comments about how pretty it was or what I did not like about it. About a month or two of that I started leaving bridal magazines lying around the house. Every time some one would mention wedding I would get a sad look on my face and say not yet... Wether it works for you or not I cant promise. But lets just say my fiance went from lets wait to making all the plans.

Well you can start by asking him why 4 years? What is the reason behind it and besides you are already living together already. Get to know his reason then think it over and find value on it if you think the reason is good enough for you to be convince then if not then make compromise with him what you think is the right length of time you two should be married. I guess there is no real length for as long as both of you feel that you are ready to me married is what is important already.

why not ask him? we no longer live in a world where the man has to do all the chasing, and we, as feeble women, say yes or no, most likely as advised by our fathers. if you want to marry him, then ask him. there's NOTHING wrong with that, just like there's NOTHING wrong with him asking you. one person always has to be the brave one, the one that asks without truly knowing the answer the other will give. surely you can be brave?

Hi there Tracie! I think two years can be long enough depending upon the quality of the relationship.I think that the best way to do it is to just ask what he think about getting married. It will state your question directly, clearly so confusion and misunderstanding can be avoided.

Well you can drop a few hints, there is no harm in that because it should be planned between the both of you not just one but I would also say "whats the hurry?" If I knew then what I know now I would not have been in so much of a hurry to get married!!!

I don't think that 2 years isn't long enough. And plus you have a child together and have been living together for a considerable amount of time. I have known of couples that have had less time together before getting married, and now they are very happily married. Rather than dropping hints, it might be a better idea to just sit down with him and have an adult conversation about how you feel and why you don't want to wait for so long. As long as you are honest with hi, you can't really go wrong. Good luck!

when you are already committed with him taking another step to make it legal is not gonna make any big change, i think tha child was not part of the 5 yr plan so if this is the case why marriage cant alone take place sooner