Do you accept your gf/bf/husband/wife for what he/she is?

@n30wing (4768)
Philippines
January 14, 2009 4:04am CST
Being blind to your partner so called short comings limits your understanding of his/her wholeness. I f your partner is absolutely, undoubtedly accept him/her for being as she/he is, just as he/she may have you. Do you continue to love, care for, to cherish and understand him/her? Do you still keep on telling her/him the word I LOVE YOU and I MISS YOU. It helps a lot along the beauty,love you see in each other, accept each other flaws, weakness, limitations, and frustrations. Acceptance is the road to recovery starts! Good night!
2 people like this
13 responses
@rymebristol (1787)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
loving someone follows the principle of acceptance for that person for whatever he/she is. his/her good and the worst side of his/her personality. my woman is one crazy brat, actually she's a pain in my butt but despite being so hard headed, that's what i loved about her, she's so liberated, independent and her intuition in her life is just awesome. she also accepted despite she's much taller than me, she and her family have more resources financially speaking but still she choose me among the rest.
@phyrethyme (1267)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I continue to love the person despite the shortcomings or whatever little things I notice. I am not really the type who says, "I love you" and/or "I miss you".. I never really gave it a thought on how it can affect my partner but I notice that he'd feel giddy and happy when he hears me say those words.. Despite shortcomings, I still do accept my boyfriend the way he is.
• India
15 Jan 09
Hi n30wing I have wlaways accepted the good and the bad things about my bf. This is what a true relationship is all about. Acceptance is very important, and we must respect each other for who they are. Blessings
@paoxav (1382)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Of course! Loving her means I accept everything about her. If she's a former stripper, I dont mind. I'll accept as long as she's honest about it and well, there are some little conditions but I make sure she can cope up with it.
@neknna (63)
15 Jan 09
It depends on the limitation/shortcoming your partner has. But in general, for me i will accept it as long as it will not do any harm for me or for my family. Sometimes this cute or petty shortcomings teach you to be strong and be understanding.. afterall nobody's perfect... talking based on experience (LOL).. (",)
@dodo19 (42562)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Jan 09
I certainly would and do accept my fiance for the way he is. I know that he's not perfect, but it doesn't matter, because who really is perfect? I know that I'm not perfect. I know that I have my faults. But I certainly love my fiance for the way he is, flaws or no flaws.
14 Jan 09
I say we should understand who our lover is but we should not accept EVERY behaviours that irritate us. Otherwise things are just going to bulid up and than BOOM big argument. I hate it when people say "you should just accept the way I am". This is nothing but excuses to do things your way. We need to understand why or who our lover is and if there are something they do or say that irritate you or make you unhappy than the solution is not just to accept it but to talk and promise to change.
@rmuxagirl (7554)
• United States
14 Jan 09
I have accepted my boyfriend for who he is from the beginning. One of the things he loves about me is that I have accepted him for who he truly is. I mean we are all different for a reason so why wouldn't/shouldn't we accept each other for who we are and isn't that the point of true love to accept each other.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Jan 09
I think this is basic. You do these things when you love someone or get married as a natural action. Not that they are taken for granted but because you feel it and its also a duty.
@CRIVAS (1818)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
I would and do accept my husband and all his faults and shortcommings. I am glad to say that he does the same. Please don't get me wrong that doesn't mean that I let him drive me crazy, it just means that over the years I have learned to tolerate some of the smaller things about him that might bother me. I think that when you are in a relationship it is very important for you to accept your partner for who there are. No one is perfect and I would hope that everyone realizes that.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
14 Jan 09
I think it depends. I mean I am not saying this about myself. I am talking as about something else. Well, if you are taling about India then according to this culture, everyone accepts his/her partner as he/she is. As far as boyfriend or a girlfriend is concerned, you always have the option to dump him/her. So, in my opinion it doesn't make any difference how he/she is. But the same can't be said in the case of married persons. Because, divorce is not quite ususal here, though it is too picking itself, which is very unfortunate.
@kalav56 (11496)
• India
14 Jan 09
Of course I will.There is no point in cribbing about your partner's deficiencies when you are staying together .If he starts cribbing about mine then there is no end to it and we can as well go apart. However, there will be varying degrees of tolerance but love is something thatgrows and whatever the other person's defects are, we will only look at it from an overall perspective especially when we have decided to stick on with each other for the rest of our lives. This tolerance is found wanting in the current generation and this is increasing day by day where the slightes hiccup causes a big explosion and breakup.
@Frederick42 (2018)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
I would definitely accept her as she is because freedom and individuality are very important. If I force her to be as I like her to be, then she would be a mask, a hypocrite. it would then be very difficult to live my life with a hypocrite and not only would she be a hypocrite, but she would also be a depressed person, because she would definitely notice deep down that she has been changing contrary to her character.