Is there a cure for shyness?

United States
January 14, 2009 8:08am CST
I am so so shy. I don't want to be shy. I try but I can't get out of my shyness. Any help? ^____^
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• United States
14 Jan 09
I did this by taking baby steps. I made myself go into stores alone, and ask for help finding things. Typically, things like that terrified me. Then, after awhile, I was fine with that. Then, I went into libraries and bookstores to do the same thing. After awhile, I became a "regular" at these places and the shyness started to lift. Then, when at gas stations or convenience stores, I would strike up a conversation whenever possible about small things while waiting to be rung up. Those are some of the baby steps I took to break free from shyness. :)
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• United States
14 Jan 09
It's not that. I can go to the stores and ask for things. If I need to talk to them, I will talk to them in my quiet voice. Or if they ask me something I will answer. But I just can't out of the blue start a conversation. I can speak to stranger, but to my classmate I just can't. I don't know why. I have a hard time speaking to people I know. =( People keeps saying they don't bite you. I am not scare of people biting me. :D There is something that I just can't... Is it like a psychological thing??
• United States
14 Jan 09
Okay, now I see where you're coming from with this. I had this exact same problem with my classmates, as well, and it took the help of my friends to bring me out of it. Luckily, some of my friends were in these classes with me and they weren't shy at all. They'd bring me into conversations as best as they could. For the classes where I had no friends, I would try to raise my hand as often as possible and participate in class. It was terrifying, but I did it because I wanted to talk to people more. After awhile, people would start talking to me about what I said in class or they would ask me for help with their studies. That felt so positive, and it helped me feel more confident about speaking up.
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• United States
14 Jan 09
They do help me, by making lots of conversation to me. But it doesn't work. somehow. I guess I am more shy than you. :( **crying** I think it has to do with lack of self esteem and confidence. =( Maybe there is no cure for me after all. I am hopeless. **crying**