Would you let the other person know.......... ?

@ronaldinu (12422)
Malta
January 14, 2009 8:23am CST
that you are in love with him or her? I have remembered the lyrics of a country's song if I am not mistaken by Tammy Wnyette. In short the songs speaks about the love for a person but because she is committed she refrains from revealing her true feelings to the concerned person. What would you do if you like someone but you know that the relationship cannot grow any further? Would you keep everything inside you or not?
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@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
14 Jan 09
Yeah, I would always like to let the other person know I love him. I just think it's good and fair to tell the other person, or I just want to let him know about my feeling. Perhaps he has the same feeling towards me too? Sometimes, I just feel like telling but not planning to grow the relationship further. I am not that kind of person who likes to keep things inside myself.
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@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
14 Jan 09
I am generally a person who keeps everything inside. Even if the relationship MIGHT further, i won't breathe a word and sometimes i act nonchalant. Don't ask me why, i just do. I think it's to do with this entire PRIDE thingy. I'm afraid that if i were to confess my feelings, but it's not reciprocated, i'd be devastated. The nearest i got to a confession, well, it failed and apparently the guy doesn't like me. Within 2 weeks of my "confession" he got a girlfriend and didn't even have the courtesy to tell me. I felt like a fool.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
14 Jan 09
Yes......I would keep it to myself. There is no sense stirring up emotions that can't go anyplace....it would be so hurtful for both parties. ANd if you friends with that person it's a darn good way to end a good relationship!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
yes i will definitely tell her that i love her so much... but sometimes its hard to know the fact that youve been rejected because she didnt like you at all... but telling her at the right moment at the right time makes her love you too... but it depends on how you approach her...
15 Jan 09
No...it does not. If she doesnt love you, she doesnt love you....no matter when or where you tell her!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
but it depends... and sometimes it doesnt fit... like the one youve thinking of...
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
15 Jan 09
hmmm what a question.well i will sing also like this" we have the right love at the wrong time" by barry manilow[em]rolleyes
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
15 Jan 09
nice song too
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
15 Jan 09
@Humbug25 (12540)
15 Jan 09
Hello ronaldinu I think it is really hard to comment on what you think you would do in this very situation because sometimes what you think you would do and what you would actually do are sometimes completely different. I think I would insinuate how I felt just so that I could get it off my chest without actually telling the person but I most certainly wouldn't act upon my feelings if they were with someone else and I wouldn't bug them by saying stuff to them either. If I was in a relationship with some one and felt a certain way about someone then that would be a different matter altogether!!
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
16 Jan 09
Being committed really makes you think twice before acting on your feelings. After all love is not a feeling it is a decision.
• United States
20 Jan 09
If I love him but he only likes me and he is either married or is in a relationship , I wouldn't tell him. I would just secretly pine for him. But if I know he loves me but he doesn't know I love him, I would tell him. Ever if he is married or in a relationship. If he loves me, he should know I love him. Then he has a huge choice to make. it may just look hopeless.
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
Hi there ronaldinu! I don't think I would ever do something like that. I mean telling someone how I feel about him even if I already know that the relationship cannot grow any further. I would just keep it to myself. Besides, I might have a difficult time dealing with that person later after having to tell him how I feel about him despite obvious circumstances.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
2 May 09
Oh, I would and have, definitly kept my feelings inside. You would just open a can of worms and heart break if you were to reveal your feelings. It is best to just stay away from that because no good could come from it. In life we all have temptations. It is how we deal with them that count. When I meet someone that I am attracted to, and it happens even when we love someone else, I make sure I keep it to myself because it would only hurt my boyfriend if I said something. And I do love my boyfriend, but I am still human and find other men sometimes attract me. I stay away from those, though, and don't say a word about it and I try to stay away from that person all together because it would be nothing but trouble.
• United States
16 Jan 09
I wouldn't say Im in love but I do feel very strongly about a guy who is very settled and well to do and I felt like everything went so right but apparently the feeling was not that mutual (perhaps because i have kids he doesnt?) but I still have feelings for this man and instead of bugging him by calling I just hold it in and wonder. If he was interested he would of called and perhaps in the future we'll cross paths again and what needed to be said can be said and thats that.
• United States
17 Jan 09
I didn't. This is our tenth year together.
16 Jan 09
Maybe because I'm a girl, I'm a little conservative and I won't tell him my real feelings about him, except that he tells me his feelings first. If he doesn't say anything, I just keep everything inside.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
16 Jan 09
maybe i will write a love letter to tell him .LOL.just telling him your feeling. i won't be regret in the future.
@kja533 (4)
• United States
16 Jan 09
At this point in my life (walked out of a 16 year marriage where I was afraid to speak up when something was not right) I would speak up, loud and clear. I will never assume that things will get better, stay the same, or get worse. No more settling for what I have if I think I deserve better. I am taking a huge chance right now, when I walked out, I walked right in to a situation totally opposite from the one I was in.
@cuttyrish (2667)
• United States
16 Jan 09
i will keep it to myself... i am the person who does not tell my crush that i like him or i love him.. i am not just person, i think i am a bit scared because i do not know if the person likes me to... so i just keep to myself.
• United States
16 Jan 09
i think if i were intensely in love with that person i would have to say something once and then drop it or end the friendship.. i dont know if i could be friends with some one i was deeply in love with especially after i told that person how i felt.. i would feel that they would think i wanted something all the time.. but i dont think i could never say anything though.. i would wait a long time to make sure i really truly loved them before i said anything
@savypat (20216)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I would keep it all inside. as long as no one knows it cannot harm anybody but me. AS you go through life you will be attracted to others but unless you are free you have no business involving another in your feelings. If you think I spseak from experience you are right
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
15 Jan 09
Love is such a feeling thet kept secret.Language of love first expressed by eyes.Lover can read the language.But once it's expressed by laguage.If accepted by other the happiness can't be compared with any thing .As an example if I know the relationship can't go further I would keep everything inside of me.It would be painful memory for me.
• United States
15 Jan 09
when you love someone the best thing you can do is tell them. either they love you too or they dont. there is nothign you can do about it but you will never know til you ask
@noniefam (284)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 09
i will love someone if my love is pure n strong to both of us eventought cannt grow any further cause we cannt leave from love n i will keep inside in my heart