loving two people at the same time...?
By jaeian
@jaeian (23)
Philippines
January 14, 2009 10:15am CST
i don't know how to deal with this..
i'm not actually in love with the other guy..but i know that i'm starting to fall..
here's the story..
my partner (we're not yet married) went to dubai to work..his contract is 2 yrs.
we're almost 8yrs together..we have a 2year old daughter..
but i can feel that we are not his priority,though, he gives support to his child..
and sometimes i feel that he's cheating on me..and there are many times that he actually wanted to end our relationship, though we end up making this relationship work again..
he's the breadwinner of his family, and that's the reason why he went to other country to work..
his mother doesn't like me, thus her grand daughter..she hasn't seen my child since her birth..
we're not in good terms..
but i know that i love the father of my child, not because he's the father but because i love him..
now i met my old schoolmate..
we're now seeing each other and have a relationship of being bf/gf..
we both know that this is wrong but we can't stop our relationship because we're happy with each other..
now i'm so confused..
i'm being guilty to the father of my child..
but when i think of all his shortcomings to us, the guiltness suddenly disappears...
what am i supposed to do..
please don't judge me so fast..
i'm not a bad person..
i'm just being honest..
and i'm seeking help..
thanks a lot..
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2 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
You're doing good because chances are, your partner is really is cheating. There's a slim chance that you're partner as an OFW is not cheating in Dubai because first, there's nobody there to catch him cheating. Seconds, most OFW claim that it's "lonely" there. So it's a good thing that you have found someone whom you are happy with.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
I think you should call it quits. The relationship is not healthy anymore. I've been through a relationship like yours. I waited almost 2 years only to find out that my girlfriend was already 3 months pregnant from another guy. See? I'm just creating a possible scenario ok? What if he's found someone there? You'll be left out in the cold waiting for nothing. But of course there are exemptions ok? But it's only you who knows the real score between you and the father of your daughter. You know what he is capable of doing.
@abhilashsoman (45)
• India
14 Jan 09
in my opinion , study the situation well. dont take a decision alla of a suden.
first make sure ur partner loves u genuinely or not.
some people cant actually show their love or they dont know to express love....but hey may have tons of lov for us..it mit be the case wid ur partner...so afer making this sure if u found him guilty then leve him and go wid ur bf...
