What happens if you ex doesn't want you to date anyone?

United States
January 14, 2009 12:54pm CST
Me and my ex had a great relationship, but for some reason it went bad. She does not want me to date anyone else, let alone talk to any other women. I dont want to upset her by finding someone else becuase I still love her.
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19 responses
• Puerto Rico
14 Jan 09
If you still love her then look if there are any opportunities to continue with her but if she is doing that stuff to you now, she will do it in the future. So look ahead and love yourself before you love anyone because people that doesn't want to let you talk to other girl are jealous and this is very harmful to the relationships
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@UK_Shree (3603)
14 Jan 09
Sounds like a complicated situation. How long ago did you break up? If it was recently, maybe she is still sensitive about it, and finds it hard to imagine you with someone else. Also if you were the one that called things off, it will probably be harder for her to accept that you might be fine about moving on and seeing other people. If you still love her, but do not want to be with her, then I guess you both just need time to get past these feelings. I cannot really comment more on this without knowing what the circumstances are e.g who's idea was it to break up, how long ago did you break up, how long was the relationship etc... but good luck
• United States
14 Jan 09
We broke up about a month ago. The best way to describe the break up was a mutual decision. We had been dating for 5 years.... which is a long time i know being that im only 19 years old. When she comes over she goes through my cell phone texts and calls while im taking a shower or something. Your probly right that she is not over it yet, and she might even love me still as well. All i know is she is overreacting a tad when she get's mad at me for days because i went out to eat with another female friend... just as friends.
• Canada
15 Jan 09
Well, if you still truely love her, does she still love you? Is it something that the two of you could seek counselling for and work through? Because if it isn't and you love her, but she is out of love with you, then she is telling you not to date or see other people with the likelyhood that it would hurt to see what she gave up with someone else, OR to laugh at you with her friends because you are not moving on, etc. I am more inclined to think that it is because really it is not over between the two of you, and you need to go to her and talk to her and find out if she wants to try again, if she says no that it can't work, then you need to tell her, if it can't work between us, I am sorry for how it may hurt you, but I am going to talk to other women, and I am going to date other women because I have to move on with my life, the same way that you need to move on with yours. I wish it could have been you, but that was your choice.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
15 Jan 09
if shes yer EX.. what difference does it make if she gets upset? she expect you to stay alone the rest of yer life? start dating again, geeesh. she dont want you, find someone who does and be happy.
@frygirl (382)
• United States
15 Jan 09
sorry but to me it sounds like she still has feelings for you to maybe you all could get together somewhere and have alittle talk maybe find out what went wrong with your relationship and try to fix it .now iam no dr freud but it sounds to me like there might still be something there.
• India
15 Jan 09
well i dont get it.. if you still love her and she doesnt want you to dte anyone else(which proves that she loves you too), then why dont you both get together? Maybe you would have broken up but you can always get back together. If you love each other, then why not be together?? But if you dont want to be together then it should bother you that your ex doesnt want you to date other people.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
I wonder if this is something that could be called wonderful. It might be fun for her to be able to control you and maybe this is what you want too. Cheers!!
• Canada
15 Jan 09
wtf??!!! she has no right to be jealous, shes an ex. You need to put your foot down and tell her she has no business interfearing in your personal life such as dating. You deserve to be happy. SHES in the past. You seriously need to put your foot down with her, she has no right to tell you to not date or talk to other women. I cant believe she has the nerve to even THINK it let alone say it.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Jan 09
She's your ex. She has no right to ask you such a thing. And you have every right to be happy, if not with her than with somebody else.
• Lubbock, Texas
14 Jan 09
If she's your ex it's none of her business who you date, who you talk to, or anything else you do with your life. I can see not wanting to upset her, and maybe reconciling with her, but as long as she's you ex, live your life on your terms. She's just manipulating you and you could get hurt really bad by letting her continue.
@ag6390 (65)
14 Jan 09
she still loves you, but she doesnt know weather to get back with you,hence the fact of her being jealous of you and other girls and not allowing you to date anyone else!
• India
15 Jan 09
Hi!hey, you know what, you're not being fair to yourself. well, sometimes things work and sometimes they don't.either sit together and discuss your feelings and sort things for the better or else Move on! so take a stand and act accordingly. no one can stop you from doing something you want to. you need to ask yourself what YOU want. take care and Good luck!
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
15 Jan 09
my ex? i would tell her to go &*%^ herself.
• Japan
15 Jan 09
Based upon what you have stated here you are not ready to date anyone else. You and she have unresolved issues that need to be cleared up.If what you say is true the two of you need to talk. At which point you can either get back together or make a clean break.
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
1st of all if she's just an ex then she have no right to hold you against seeing or talking with other women unless you both are back together which you got me confused there. If you are not back together in your relationship then I guess she has no say on that but if you both are back into it then you should not date anyone.
@Marcola (2774)
• United States
14 Jan 09
Get over her then. Women like her are a dime a dozen. If it's over, then it's over. Tell her you and her are through and she isn't the boss of you.
@Gesusdid (1676)
• United States
14 Jan 09
She sounds very insecure about her feelings , and very immature , ill say leave her alone all together cause she wants you all to herself , and thats understandable but when you said she told you not to talk to any other women period then thats a given shes kinda nuts ...be careful good luck
@dodo19 (47117)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
14 Jan 09
You and your ex are no longer in a relationship. So, I don't think that she has the right to tell you what to do. During your relationship, she might have had the right to give a piece of her mind. However, now, as an ex, I don't think that she has much of a say in this matter.
@Osiris13 (17)
• United States
14 Jan 09
Two Words MOVE ON!