had my baby, now i have the baby blues
By stardustw83
@stardustw83 (435)
United States
January 14, 2009 5:52pm CST
Well for most of the people that i have added as my friends know that i was pregnant and about to pop at any moment how ever the doc wanted to induce due to blood pressure. Well we tried and failed and then tried again after my doctors appointment this past friday and still nothing so saturday came and i decided to have a c-section and now i have my baby boy we are home and well and very happy. Thank you to all who helped in the last few weeks with advice and information. Now i have what they call the baby blues because im so overwelmed and i feel like crying all the time for no reason i don't know why im crying i just do i love my baby and im happy he is here but i think being a first time mom that im just remembering everything that was and what it will not be instead of looking at this as what will happen now that im a mother. Im hoping that the baby blues wont last much longer.
Has anyone else had the baby blues? If so what did you do to overcome this rath of emotions?
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15 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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15 Jan 09
I always think that the baby blues are such a funny thing, one minute everything is fine and it is all smiles next minute the slightest thing can have a new mum in floods of tears I always thought it so strange when it happened to me!! It should be fine and should pass as fast as it started but if for any reason the feeling persists and you still feel this way then you should perhaps mention it to your health visitor or whoever is looking after you for the first couple of weeks. There is nothing you can do to overcome it just allow your emotions to run their course it really should not last that long, and congrats on your baby I wish you much happiness with him!!!
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
16 Jan 09
exactly it is the funniest thing ever. I mean before the baby goes to bed im in heaven and cooing over my little boy but once he is asleep it hits me like a ton of bricks and i start crying =( but it is getting better. We have been home now for three nights and things are going WAY better baby is sleeping most of the night which is great and isn't real fussy the only problem now is that i have to rest because my incision for the c-section is hurting a little more than normal
@gemini_rose (16264)
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16 Jan 09
It is like a ton of bricks too, exactly how it was for me. Its great though that he is sleeping so well and I do think that helps. Just take as much care of yourself as you can so that your incision heals well!!
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@irishidid (8688)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I had some baby blues with my first baby and ended up back into the hospital with an infection so I can only speculate it was because I was sick. The second one I didn't have any and the third I just didn't have time between a new baby and the discovery my second child was disabled.
I think having the challenge of taking care of baby and recovering from a c-section has an impact. Having gone through it I can tell you to take care of yourself, be patient with yourself.
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
15 Jan 09
its hard to think of even taking care of myself because now i have this little bundle of joy to take care of but i did realize today that when i could take the opportunity to be alone and actually reflect on things it made it easier.
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
it took me a long time to get pregnant, so when i did, i was very happy, i think i had a long time to realize the things i wouldnt be able to do again for a long time after we had a baby, i never had the baby blues, i was actually on such a natural high after my first i never slept for like 4 days straight, i just stared at her and watched her in amazement.
I have read a lot and hear a lot about it though, and its good that you are talking about it, and realizing that is what is happening. If you feel like it is getting worse or that you can't handle it then you need to see your doctor and talk about some ways to combat it. . You need to be healthy now to take care of your son, mentally as well as physically!
Welcome to motherhood hun, dont worry about all the things you can't do right now, enjoy the things you can do with him, because he will not be that tiny and helpless for long.. enjoy cuddling and try to get some sleep :)
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
15 Jan 09
yeah my husband is aware of the situation as well and he keeps letting me know that im a hero in his eyes. I love him so much and im glad that i could make our family bigger. We actually had a tough night last night it being our first night home with our son but we figured out a routine for tonight so im excited to see if it works
@anndocs (249)
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15 Jan 09
First, I want to congratulate you -new Mom :)
I'm a first time mom as well, and she is now 1 year old. I have expreienced the same way too, felt like crying for no reason at all at a lot of depression. Thank God that my hubby is always there to cheer me and gave a words of comfort and encouragement. He wanted me to be open and share all I have inside, he gave me a hug and smile at it. He also buying me some books that could relate, entertain and encourage me more. I think my man is a big help in times like these.
Thanks and best wishes to you and your baby :)
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@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Thanks!!! yeah my husband has been very encouraging to me as well letting me know that im doing a great job and he actually makes me open up to him cause sometimes its hard cause i feel like im stupid for feeling the way i do but he lets me know that im not and that im doing a great job as a mother
@youngsweetheart (772)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I didn't have the baby blues - I had full-blown post partum depression. Twice. The second time, I had to be hospitalized.
I'd suggest talking to your doctor about your feelings, for starters. He/She will probably be able to guide you.
Also, keep a careful eye on your moods. If you find yourself having not just crying jags, but moodswings, or if you feel anger towards your son, get help right away.
Whether it's just the baby blues or something worse, please, PLEASE remember that you have NOTHING to be ashamed of. Being a new mom is hard, and your hormones are out of wack, and you're not getting a lot of sleep. Don't be afraid to talk about your feelings, and surround yourself with supportive people. Let a friend or family member take the baby for a while so you can rest or relax - for that matter, sleep whenever you can. The dishes can wait, lol.
Hang in there - it will get better. Just don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it. I'm here if you need to talk!
@stardustw83 (435)
• United States
15 Jan 09
thank you!!!! I just have crying spills at usually only happens at night and luckily i am able to talk to my husband but i think it would be good for myself to have women to talk to in regards to this so thank you and if i feel the need to talk i will take you up on your offer
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
I had the baby blues with my first child as well. It is very natural, it can be very overwhelming to a first time mother. The important thing to remember is that it will get easier as you get into a routine. I found that once things had settled down a little and I had gotten used to the idea of caring for another human, things got better. Just know that there are always people here like me and the others that you can talk to if you are feeling lonely. I would just like to say congradulations to you and your new little son. I wish you much love and happieness.
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@steffylikewoah (1762)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I had the baby blues BAD with my daughter. I'm pregnant with #2 right now and I hope I dont get them again. My dr said anything that lasts more than 2 weeks falls into postpardum depression. If thats the case I think you should get a perscription. I did and it helped SO much. I stopped using it when I didn't need it anymore. It's so hard to deal with those emotions, especially when youre getting used to being a new mother. Hang in there hun!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Congratulations stardust! I'm sorry you're going through the baby blues. I went through something like this, but it while I was pregnant with my oldest. One day while at home I started laughing for no reason. Then I started crying for no reason. Then I started laughing again. I went back and forth like this for some time that day, but it eventually went away. I never figured out why this happened. I guess it was just hormones.
I don't remember if you mentioned it already, but did you have a boy or a girl? Any pictures to share?
Congrats again!
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@Amberina (1541)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I had baby blues with all three of my kids. What you have to remember when you it starts up is this it's just your hormones going back to the level they where before you where pregnant and that it's normal and will go away in a month or more. Just take it one day at a time and when your mind starts getting all worked up just take a minute to relax and tell yourself that everything is going to be fine and not to worry. Before you know it things will be better and the blues will happen less and less as time goes on. Congrats on the baby! It's a wonderful time for you enjoy the baby and take some time for yourself to relax an rest.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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15 Jan 09
If you went to a doctor, they would give you anti-depressants, which can help immensly.
You only have to be on them for a short time, and you will be okay again.
Having a baby is a huge change, and can be very stressful, but if you have the right help then you will be perfectly fine, so don't worry about it!
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@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
15 Jan 09
I had baby blues. I also got post partum depression. The reason i got baby blues is i missed being pregnant. I know thats weird because you feel miserable that big. The reason i suffered post partum depression is i had no help at first. Hard story to explain and don't feel comfortable sharing.
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@chriswolf (360)
• China
15 Jan 09
Congratulations to you. How excited for your going to be a mom.
I have no this kind of experiences, but best wishes to you. Good luck.
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@zdsyx88 (14)
• China
15 Jan 09
I'm a two-year-old boy's mother. I used to be too weak to care my baby. But I must care it. I worried about it too much. Then I recuperated very slowly. I think you shouldn't care around the baby all the time. You need more rest and relaxation. You need comfort and help from others, especially from your husband. Take your heart from the baby for some time. Things will be better day after day.
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@kryssyxxx (29)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
hi, i had my little girl 3 months ago and i went through a difficult periode afterwards...its a wierd feeling..lonlyness and sadness although my spouse was a very active father. I hope all goes well with your little boy. I personally got over the baby bleues not to long ago and i enjoy every moment with my little angel now. Dont worry, it'll pass. Being a mother is the best thing a woman can do.take care!
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@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
15 Jan 09
Congrats!!! Well, i've had no experience with baby blues thingy as i'm not a mom yet..but i feel excited for my sister-in-law.. she's expecting a baby boy..=) I'm going to be a first time aunt so i feel very keyed up to see the baby.. I can't wait to buy him baby clothes, toys and stuff..=)
