Arranged Marriage: Is it still practiced?
By siomaiii
@siomaiii (238)
Philippines
January 15, 2009 12:10pm CST
We're living in the twentieth century, is the tradition of arranged marriage still practiced? In the Philippines, a tribe called Maranaos whose religion is Islam still practice arranged marriage. Although nowdays, some parents allow their children to marry the one they love, but they have to be in the same religion. Do you know other group of people in other countries who still practice arranged marriage? Are you in favor of arranged marriage? Do you think parents know best when it comes to choosing your partner whom you will share the rest of your life with?
2 responses
@blackeyedpeas (445)
• India
16 Jan 09
hi Siomaii
I am from India, there are some areas in the country where arranged marriages are still practiced, their parents stil think they can choose a better person for their children, though i completely disagree with this. Parents can just see if one has money, if the family is good but they can't judge the person. How good is he?? This right should be only given to chidren, afterall they have to spend their whole life not their parents. One should be allowed to marry the one they love.
Blessings
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
Mostly, parents are concern of the financial security of their children during marriage. And there is nothing wrong about it. But I think, it is not reasonable enough. The couple should get along well, they should share the same values, goals and principles in life. So children must be given the freedom to chose their future partners in life. Parents' role is to guide their children along the way.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 09
There are two types of arranged marriages. They are the fully arranged and the semi arranged marriages.
In the first, the boy and girl never knew aeach other. Sometimes the parents did not know each other.
The xecond case is more common. The boy and girl know each other. The parents may or may not approve due to various reasons. The meeting arranged later on is just to fulfil cultural requirements.
As a parent I am in favour of the involvement of parents or other people before the actual marriage. Parents may not know best but the experiences that they had can help in choosing a better partner for their offspring. The experiences of my parents, relatives, children and myself strenghten my belief in this matter. Gor example someone may be blinded by love and it takes other people to notice the warning signs.
Arranged marriage and forced arranged marriage are two different things. I do not believe nor support forced marriages.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy